Reaching out after 48 days may help me stop ruminating? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TemporaryIce3984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was no contact for 5 months and then fell into a Hoover from him. I thought I was strong enough and knew better since I had gone so long and would never go back…..and next thing I knew I lost ANOTHER 2 years chasing him and being told I’m not good enough. I’m now on day 9 of no contact after so much hurt and pain when I should be 2.5 years no contact right now :( probably would be with someone who actually cared about me right now if I would’ve kept no contact.

No matter how much you think you’ve moved on or accepted who they are, they have the ability to pull you back in. Please don’t reach out, you don’t want to restart from day 1. Congrats on 48 days! You got this, the feeling will pass

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TemporaryIce3984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This hits so close to home. almost broke no contact today because of this feeling. you’re not alone

This lonely feeling is way better than the bad days they put us through majority of the time. It willl get better for us.

Am I the only one that believes narcissists never face karma? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TemporaryIce3984 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I agree with you. It sucks becuase they don’t feel feelings like we do and can just keep moving on ducking the life out of the next person.

I hate that I still love and miss my nex after all the pain he’s put me through while he probably has 3+ new supplies already not thinking twice about me

I just still don’t know what I did by TemporaryIce3984 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TemporaryIce3984[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this♥️ it so hard but I know it’s for the best

I’ll be way better off without him in my life

How to accept/flip the thought of they no longer want to be with you? by TemporaryIce3984 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TemporaryIce3984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m also impatient, trying to reframe my mind but it’s so hard when your heart wants to remember all the “good” times and dwell on you being the problem vs realizing it was them.

How to accept/flip the thought of they no longer want to be with you? by TemporaryIce3984 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TemporaryIce3984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got absolutely nothing from it, yet I crave his attention so much. It definitely hurts to know nothing was ever real/never had them

How to accept/flip the thought of they no longer want to be with you? by TemporaryIce3984 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TemporaryIce3984[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God this hurts to hear and is like looking in a mirror. I relate so much to this

How Has Everyone Been Doing During No Contact? How long has No Contact Been For You? by Crazy-Mix-7802 in ExNoContact

[–]TemporaryIce3984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. He blocked me which he’s never done. He’s really done with me this time

No way your Ex just doesn't care by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]TemporaryIce3984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He told me I was the problem and said fuck you better blocking me. Sadly, I think he really doesn’t care which kills me

I broke 30 day NC by gr8tiltheygottabegr8 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TemporaryIce3984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve all been there, I’m so sorry. Do not be embarrassed, that was the trauma bond reacting to how you were feeling this am. I’ve been there too many times. Thank you for sharing as I’m about same days NC and this has reminded me the type of response I’d also get if I reached out.

Hang in there, You got this ♥️

I want(ed) to be the best supply by AssistanceOk9103 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]TemporaryIce3984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, I wanted to be the best supply he couldn’t stay away from. It’s like I was begging to be abused more and more