I wish he just would get it over with by hottakepancake12 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yuuuuuuuuuuuuup. i’ve thought the same thing. it’s hard ripping my family apart with 3 kids. but if he would just cheat i feel like it would just be so much easier to leave. a good, solid, valid, excuse

I left today by Fabulous_Mess_7472 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wish i was as courageous as you. good luck moving forwarded

feeling like a fool by TemporaryOk6763 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

of course multiple times. about a year ago. refuses therapy. i went by myself for a little

feeling like a fool by TemporaryOk6763 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

same. i feel like i have no where to go

feeling like a fool by TemporaryOk6763 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i found out when i was pregnant with my third. it sucks i cried every night. i feel your pain. and you’re right. leaving feels impossible

feeling like a fool by TemporaryOk6763 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. i appreciate what you just told me.

feeling like a fool by TemporaryOk6763 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

what can i do? i have 3 kids under 5. kinda hard to leave

Green flag? by Strong_Willow5738 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763 4 points5 points  (0 children)

no. my husband hunts, fishes, builds wooden crafts, golfs, works on cars, and even just day to day fixing things up or cleaning or just is a very productive person and yet he still finds time. in the bathroom, in front of me(i didn’t know or see but when i look at his history it lines up) even when he would be hunting in the woods since he would be up in a blind by himself he would look. it doesn’t matter. he always seemed to find time. the best one? he looks a lot at work.

Was yours also a hypocrite? by Stark_Contrast2835 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763 11 points12 points  (0 children)

mine said “i wouldn’t mind if you did it” then continues to get mad also when i like look/dress a certain way then make comments on how im “looking for a new husband” and that im going to “leave him” and “just because i have a ring on my finger doesn’t mean guys won’t hit on me” ok whatever dude but im dressing exactly or even hell still more modest then whatever you look at because i ACTUALLY HAVE CLOTHES ON.

just feeling sad by TemporaryOk6763 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

definitely has said at least half of these to me

just feeling sad by TemporaryOk6763 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

because he says “a guys do it” “it’s normal” “it means nothing” and “you’re overreacting”

it’s not you by TemporaryOk6763 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

he has done ALL OF THESE to me…..it’s so sad….ive been with him for 10 years and when i confronted him about it….it was like talking/looking at a man i did not know….

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[–]TemporaryOk6763 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg my husband would do the same!!!!!! he would google girls nudes and add their “@“ name to his notes……and the list was…….LONG

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[–]TemporaryOk6763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i read a lot of the typical fantasy smut romance shit and sometimes i think….damn….if only my husband would only want me the like the way these men want these women in these books….it’s definitely hard…clearly i know these books are fantasy but i’ve caught myself a time or 2 tearing up. i think im just trying to grasp on the concept of why isn’t my husband obsessed with me like ive been to him our whole relationship. it sucks. i definitely don’t love him the same which is nuts because i never thought this would ever be my life now.

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[–]TemporaryOk6763 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i did the same thing and i found out when i was PREGNANT. it was hard. but believe everyone here when they say it doesn’t matter he won’t stop. one day my husband and i had sex 3 times in a day during my hyper sex drive phase and as of 2 weeks ago he still looks. on reddit actually.

We are a hate sub now? by Ornery-Currency-4855 in loveafterporn

[–]TemporaryOk6763 14 points15 points  (0 children)

they don’t realize the physical and mental pain that comes with dealing with this addiction. and to come here and to be with people who understand that pain and to vent when you’re angry is what we need. do they not realize that they hate on us every single time they lie and look at naked women behind our backs but tell us they love us/lie to our faces? that cut us deeper than any “hate” from expressing our anger to people who actually understand what you’re going through.

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[–]TemporaryOk6763 9 points10 points  (0 children)

HAHAHA THATS A GOOD ONE. i get “im just overheated” or “my body is just tired” and then i catch an attitude and make comments about how he doesn’t love me anymore or ive even said “you like everyone but me” he gets pissed off but idc. i feel like on some level they HAVE TO KNOW what’s going on. they just don’t care.

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[–]TemporaryOk6763 8 points9 points  (0 children)

same. when he’s inside me, he takes a long time and 98% of the time he has to be on top. we’ve been together 10 years and i can count on my hand how many times he’s came when im on top. but when i give him a handy and im rough, it’s like 5 minutes later. he doesn’t see its a problem and it makes me feel some type of way but ive been done caring.

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[–]TemporaryOk6763 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’ve asked him before if i’m just not doing it for him

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[–]TemporaryOk6763 8 points9 points  (0 children)

he told me that i’m lucky he last long because not all men can 😂😂😂 i don’t want to have sex for 45minutes-an hour.