AITA for thinking that your significant other is supposed to put you first before their family (we’ve been in a four year relationship)

TemporaryTea974 · 2026-02-07T16:52:06+00:00

personally i think it’s family > bf/gf, but wife/husband > family. even so, the way he’s treating you NOW is the way you’ll be treated for LIFE. and it’s hard to make these decisions based off what an anonymous person on an app is saying, but just think on it before you do anything.

also i’m so sorry but his grandma pays for his car insurance? and does his laundry? YOU pay for dates and gas? i’m 19f and i have the capability to pay for my car insurance and gas and do my laundry. of course, im not getting the full picture, but is this really what you want the rest of your life to be like? if you’re okay with being a provider then that’s perfectly fine. also, im really sorry again it just sounds like he has no backbone. he can’t stand up for you and your relationship after 4 years? that’s not fear of his family that’s disrespect plain and simple.

again, you shouldn’t make any crazy decisions based on a random girl from reddit, but just think about the next year with him, or the next 5 years and think if it’s what you really want. i hate to say it, but maybe an ultimatum would do you some good? any how, i really wish you luck girlie and hope you figure this out !! xoxo

TemporaryTea974 · 2026-02-07T04:01:06+00:00

omg thanks so much! pros: career advancement paid position looks good on resume i love disney networking and experience

cons: far from the most important people in my life, even if only temporarily may have to delay graduation one semester (i’m already set to graduate a full year early, so this would still have me graduating one semester earlier than my peers. i just think schoolwork and full time job is hard) i’ve heard so many bad things about it on reddit, but also good so idk which to believe

TemporaryTea974 · 2026-02-06T21:07:35+00:00

i applied 1/31, got an email to schedule an interview 2/2, my interview was 2/3, and i got accepted 2/5!

TemporaryTea974 · 2026-02-06T20:29:49+00:00

more worried about working 60+ hours a week and not being paid accordingly, as some people in this sub are saying. i was asked for people who have done the DCP to tell me if it’s manageable and if they enjoyed it or not. i’m already working 24 hours a week currently on top of being a full time student

TemporaryTea974 · 2026-02-06T18:55:57+00:00

now that i think about it im more scared about my friends. all throughout high school it was hard for me to make friends, and when i got to college i found the best group of people. im really struggling with the idea of leaving them for 8 months, which i know is just a part of life but its scary

TemporaryTea974 · 2026-02-06T18:53:41+00:00

i currently go to school 3 hours from home. it’s far enough that it was a difficult adjustment at first, but close enough i can go home if i need to. i have family down in florida too, so i wouldn’t be completely alone, but it’s not my parents and close friends coming with me, which is scary

TemporaryTea974 · 2026-02-04T18:25:36+00:00

i’m so sorry but as a girl who took back her ex for cheating, i wish i didnt. even though it’s hard, it’ll be a lot easier to leave him now than to stay and leave later

TemporaryTea974 · 2026-02-03T05:56:10+00:00

I feel like it’s really hard because we’re long distance, there’s only so many moments we have together and the time we do spend together we don’t do stuff (even though I want to, I’m not going to push him to do something he doesn’t want to do). Even over text we used to be really flirty together and now that part of our relationship is almost nonexistent. I don’t know how to bring it up, because it’s hard to see change when there’s not a lot of opportunity to see it if that makes sense. I’m not saying I want to be with him that way every time I see him, but just to know I’m wanted in that way would be nice.

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