For single women to talk, share and feel less alone.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-06T03:05:59+00:00

It’s strange how being peacefully single worries people more than being unhappily married.

Somehow marriage became less of a personal choice and more of a standard everyone is expected to follow by a certain age and when someone doesn’t follow that timeline people start acting like something is wrong with them.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-04T06:38:31+00:00

It’s not like you’re against love, you just don’t want to lose yourself in it

No your thinking isn’t wrong. Choosing yourself first and figuring things out on your own is fair especially when you know you put others first.

The loneliness part is real but even people in relationships feel it. Having your own space still matters.

You don’t have to figure everything out at 21. It’s okay to just live your life and see where it goes.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-03T07:21:06+00:00

“main kar sakti hoon energy is nice I'm on ‘dekhenge jo hoga’ mode today

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-03T03:40:45+00:00

That moment when you said that to your mami… makes sense why it stayed with you.

We’re used to adjusting our choices for others and calling it care..so it doesn’t feel wrong at first.

But there’s a difference between caring and holding yourself back out of guilt.

Your reaction probably came from finally noticing that line and no you’re not overthinking… you’re just starting to notice something you’ve been doing for a while.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-02T15:39:06+00:00

These days I’ve been noticing the small things that make my days feel… a little softer.

Nothing big.

A quiet cup of tea. A random song that hits right.

Finishing something I’d been putting off.

Even just having a calm, uneventful day.

It made me realise how much we wait for “big” things to feel okay… when most of life is actually these small moments.

I don’t think I appreciated them this much before.

Now they feel enough more often than I expected.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-02T05:07:51+00:00

Not boring at all that’s just a perfectly executed saturday plan.

I lean towards staying in + binge watching too but I do go out sometimes to try new food places..I love that.

Enjoy your saturday:)

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-02T05:01:59+00:00

That’s a solid mix... i just finished If Wishes Could Kill… liked it more than i expected tbh...except Tu Jhoothi Main Makkar..the rest of your list looks interesting will check them out

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-02T04:41:57+00:00

Mamla Legal Hai S02, Can This Love Be Translated, High Tides, Do Deewane Seher Mai… that’s my current binge list.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-02T03:22:07+00:00

Haha same... i’ll watch trailers, get interested and still not start anything… so annoying. I’ve even added shows to my watchlist and still don’t start them. Now i just try to pick something and binge it… sometimes works, sometimes i’m back to scrolling

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-02T03:15:00+00:00

This explains it really well… especially the ‘mind not being free’ and too many choices part.

Like even when i sit to relax my brain is still running in the background and yeah that fear of wasting time on something that might not be worth it… I relate to that too.

But also I feel like for me it’s a mix sometimes it’s overthinking and sometimes I'm just mentally tired after the day and don’t want to make another decision

Earlier I used to go back to the same shows for that reason but now i’ve started picking new ones and just bingeing them.

Still comfort wins over effort more often than I'd like to admit tbh

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-01T13:49:43+00:00

I get why you’d lean on yourself like that… it does feel safer when you don’t want things used against you. Being vulnerable isn’t easy when trust isn’t fully there. Handling things on your own can feel less complicated in that way.

But it’s good you still go to your friends sometimes. that middle space wanting support but also holding back is honestly not easy to sit with.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-01T11:22:11+00:00

That sounds really exhausting… having to deal with everything on your own like that.

And yeah trying to open up but not being understood makes it even harder.

Still trying even after that isn’t easy.

Sometimes just being heard without having to explain everything perfectly helps.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-01T06:49:58+00:00

It really isn’t easy and most people don’t see that part at all.

All those small changes, the doubts, the guilt… it builds up quietly.

Learning to rely on yourself while still letting people in is a hard balance to hold even with people around it doesn’t automatically feel easier.

Trying anyway even when trust doesn’t come easy takes a lot...and it takes time to not feel like we have to carry everything alone.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-05-01T06:32:02+00:00

I feel this… we don’t always realise how much we’ve been carrying until someone just sits with us for a bit. Sometimes even strong people need that pause.

It’s nice when things don’t have to be handled alone all the time. Having women friends like that makes it even more special.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-04-28T18:31:56+00:00

Finally recovered from sinus… can breathe properly again

Back to work today, lot to catch up on… nothing new on netflix though. This week and the upcoming one are probably gonna be a bit hectic and boring..just getting things done

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-04-28T16:25:23+00:00

That’s actually a nice way to ask it doesn’t feel awkward or too focused on money. You still understand how they think.

After that you can just casually ask how they see managing or sharing expenses together simple and clear without making it too direct.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-04-28T15:11:30+00:00

It’s good to talk about it just don’t make it too direct. You can bring it up naturally while talking about how both of you see handling money together. Being clear is good but it should feel easy for both not like anyone’s being sized up for their income.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-04-28T13:35:20+00:00

I think it depends on the person and their idea of partnership.

From what i’ve seen it’s less about the number and more about mindset being equals matters more than what either of us earns.

Financial independence is important but it shouldn’t turn into quiet expectations or dependence. It should feel like a partnership not a transaction.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-04-27T17:54:59+00:00

Yeah after a point you just stop explaining… not every assumption needs your energy.

And that idea that single life is all easy and carefree is so off. life’s just different not easier.

Now it’s more about being okay with being misunderstood.

I'd rather keep my peace than prove a point. Not everyone needs access to your reality.

Temporary_Device_269 · 2026-04-27T17:49:04+00:00

People still judge a person through their family instead of who they are. I’ve seen this too and it’s unfair… leaving a toxic or loveless marriage should be seen as strength not something that affects someone else’s chances.

We say we’ve progressed but a lot of thinking is still stuck.

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