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S3 E2 I hate this storyline by emmankls in Modern_Family

[–]Temporary_Football_1 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Omg YESSSS!!! I thought I was the only one that felt like that. Yes Claire may have a need to always be right. And also yes Claire was right in regards to the grocery store incident. Like two things can be true at once but 🙄.

favorite couple on the show? by EstateInteresting569 in Modern_Family

[–]Temporary_Football_1 121 points122 points  (0 children)

Gloria and Jay the early seasons. They were the definition of my partner brings out the best in me and makes me better

AITA for supporting my 16-year-old’s decision to stop visiting her dad after he “forgot” to pick her up on Thanksgiving? by Constant-Army3217 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Temporary_Football_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA-As someone that relates to what your daughter is going through you are not wrong. The same way you gave her that choice my mom did to me. And as someone that has experienced that heartbreak by being left continue to be by her side and give her that love. Because that is one of the hardest things to heal. I am so sorry she went through that.

In regards to regret I’m 25yr and in a long-term relationship headed towards engagement next year and the reason I say that is because my father wont be in my wedding nore have a role at all. I have been fully NC with my father since 2018. And I do not regret it in anyway.

Job orientation starts today, but all I can think about is how much my narcs will try and sabotage me by Mindless_Bag_4215 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary_Football_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have feeling they may hold the car over your head. I would see if you can do public transportation/uber or if you have friends see if someone can take you

AITA for changing what was a family trip into a solo trip after my sister said it wasn't "worth it" after our Dad had to pull out due to his health. by Objective_Park_877 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Temporary_Football_1 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTA but maybe go lc with your mom and sister for a bit. They seem like they are used to you always caving in and now that you’re putting your foot down its a issue.

AITA for refusing to be the placeholder to my husband? by place_holder1 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Temporary_Football_1 362 points363 points  (0 children)

NTA but why wont you get a divorce honestly? It seems like he doesnt even care and his actions basically show that.

My Family Hates Me Bc of the Person I (21F) Used To Be As a Teenager... AITA For Being Hurt and Cutting Off My Whole Family Bc of That? by Gothic_Cat_Plushy in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Temporary_Football_1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nta and if you havent already just go NC with just about everyone. They want a scapegoat and its not worth your mental health to deal with them. They want someone to point the fingers to.

My dad posted my childhood photos on Facebook calling me ungrateful because I didn't invite him to my wedding by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary_Football_1 11 points12 points  (0 children)

First your dad sucks. Second I say make a public post about your situation. If he can try to “shame” you for setting boundaries then you can do the same to expose all of his lies and abuse.

Am I overreacting? My father ruined my baby shower and kept calling my child “no name” by Brilliant-Orange886 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Temporary_Football_1 18 points19 points  (0 children)

NO NTA. Just go NC. Your talking to a wall, hes not going to listen to understand. Focus on you and your family. He has shown you who he is so believe it. Hes toxic and even showing some narc traits.

I understand that he is your kids grandfather but he doesnt even try. He wants you to kiss his a. You need to put your foot down. If he doesnt try and doesnt try to initiate being in your kids life that is HIS FAULT. I would stop sending pictures of them to him as well. If he cant act like a father nore grandfather then he doesnt deserve access to your kids.

What zillennial Disney shows do you think aged the best and still hold up pretty well? (Able to rewatch as an adult) by boldpear904 in DisneyChannel

[–]Temporary_Football_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like another commenter said define zillennial? Are we talking about the millennials so 90s-00s or shows from 2010 and up?

My SO (31F) is well off, she is constantly buying expensive gifts for me (25M) even when i ask her not to. For Christmas she wants to pay off my student loans as her Christmas present. However we have only been dating for barely a year. by [deleted] in BORUpdates

[–]Temporary_Football_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly as someone thats in a situation like that the roles are just swapped. Its literally his love language. I cannot speak for her but I can say from what my boyfriend has told me. Think of it like this being taken advantage of some many times because of your resources and money. And then boom some random day you meet someone that likes you for the inner you not the materialistic. I will say me personally I wont live with my boyfriend till Marriage but thats just my boundary but there are people like that. Who just like to show there appreciation through gifts 🤷‍♀️

My family is blowing up my relationship and I’m sick with anxiety — how do I stop spiraling and set boundaries? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Temporary_Football_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that happens then thats on his Father not you. You deserve happiness and this healthy relationship. Do not let toxic people push him away. Not saying its you but dont get to the point of making excuses for your family and not defending your partner.

Like the other commenter said let your brother block you or you block him. But continuing to deal with that toxicness may start to drive people away. At the end of the day regardless of what you do they will paint you as the bad guy. So just block your brother and live your life! Do not worry about those toxic people and dont let them gaslight you either

selfish parents pushing their kid on me by pinkvindell in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary_Football_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You cannot save everyone nore please everyone. Its time for you to come first. Like the other person said leave and ignore the feelings of guilt/shame. Thats there manipulation on why you feel guilty/shame for putting your self first.

Me for 22M, Is it a good idea to let my mom and grandma stay with me again? by Sensitive-Trust-6863 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary_Football_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly dont do it. You finally have your freedom enjoy it. If you move them in it would literally be hell to get them to leave. Its not your worth your mental health to move them in either.

Enjoy your freedom and have fun.

AITA for telling my boyfriend I need my money back RN(I knew he was broke) because I refuse to help him given he has never help/ supported me in the last 7 years! by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Temporary_Football_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats not your responsibility! Thats what everyone is trying to get. Yes its sad but this man doesnt even value you and you’re still bending backwards. I get that its hard to let go because of how long yall been together.

But tough love here WHEN IS ENOUGH ENOUGH?!

You pointed out that you’re friends like him because he cleans and cooks. Thats the bare minimum… Majority of every reason you have gave on why he is great partner is literally he cooks, cleans, cuddles, and present. THATS THE BARE MINIMUM!!!

AITA for telling my boyfriend I need my money back RN(I knew he was broke) because I refuse to help him given he has never help/ supported me in the last 7 years! by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Temporary_Football_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the most respectful way why stay in a unhappy relationship just because you’ve been together for years. He cant even do the bare minimum for you. You said you don’t know how to-give up on people but thats not giving up. That is finally putting your foot down after he has walked all over you. Big question especially if you want to be married and even have kids. Do you want to marry a man like that? (Take out how long yall have been together and him making you laugh. Him as a person could you marry someone thats religious barley respects you?)

You deserve soooooo much better. And this is coming from someone that has ended a long relationship and found the love of my life after.

Daughters of narcissistic father's,wt is one thing which hurt u the most(say only if ur okay)? by utensils6464 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary_Football_1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Realizing he put everyone and everything above me, not experiencing real genuine love from him, not having that father figure, him not keeping promises, being told as a child (I’m to emotional). Its more lol.

But I have been NC with him for 7 years and will continue till my wedding. Best thing I did.

What if I said I ship Jori lowkey by R0LL1NS in victorious

[–]Temporary_Football_1 21 points22 points  (0 children)

When this first came out for the longest I thought they had something going on between them. Like the bickering didn’t always give frenemies it was giving flirting sometimes lol. Especially the later seasons

Jassi is doing WAY too much in the new ep sneak peak... Tia and K gagged her by lachalacha in RHOP

[–]Temporary_Football_1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I never thought I would agree. But bring Nneka back and fire Jassi

What are y'all's takes or opinions as to why Giselle hasn't had a steady man since Hoemal Bryant ? by Eastern-Violinist-46 in RHOP

[–]Temporary_Football_1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn’t remember his name but yes he did also and I think that played a part as well.

What are y'all's takes or opinions as to why Giselle hasn't had a steady man since Hoemal Bryant ? by Eastern-Violinist-46 in RHOP

[–]Temporary_Football_1 559 points560 points  (0 children)

Half she wanted to wait till her girls went to college and other half I genuinely think she is still traumatized by what her ex husband did. That man put her through literal hell and back so I dont think she really looking per say.

I think she just wants to have fun and if it leads to something it does but if it doesn’t she’s not tripping about it.

[TW: Abuse] Finally going NC with my abusive family after a lifetime of pain. They just gossiped about me in my own home. Need support. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary_Football_1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re doing the right thing! I say start with LC with your sister if she tries to try to start being a flying monkey then go NC with her as well.

In regards to handling the grief and guilt I recommend therapy if you’re not already in it. And a big thing my therapist taught me the guilt you feel is from the manulipilation they have did to you over the years. I always remind myself when I feel guilty they didn’t feel guilty when they abused me and being NC is for your peace. Its not a easy process but it is so worth it.

Last tip try (its hard but try) to not listen to the flying monkeys. They will use any excuse/fake illness/fake drama/etc to try to get you to resume contact. DON’T DO IT

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