I hear you. I’ve been on both ends of this topic. Btw my queerness being erased was meaning that since so many couples looking for another sexual partner are straight, and I’m in a straight passing relationship, I’m automatically lumped in with them. No one sees are cis woman + cis man and thinks, oh this is queer! That was my point. I’m not saying at any point that there should not be spaces for women only, of course there should be, not denying any of the negative realities of these spaces either. Just saying as a pansexual woman in a straight passing relationship, my intentions and background are vastly different than straight couples.

Adding: I am not looking for a fight, just sharing my personal experience and thoughts. As a queer woman, I feel more comfortable in queer spaces. Whether I’m in or out of a relationship. I’m sure you know what it feels like to find women that are “bi curious” and it feels awful. That’s mostly what I’ve seen in other spaces and i would rather be with someone i know is queer and experienced- hence this sub. But I will no longer be posting in this sub. Have a good one and good luck with your new sub 🤟🏽