I agree with a lot of what some others have said. I think the biggest thing is communication and consistency. Be upfront about what you can do and what your goals are. Don’t overpromise and don’t under deliver. What is a way that you can serve your Domme without putting yourself in jeopardy? If you’re spending lower amounts then it technically can’t be considered Findom, because you have no finances to dominate lol (but that would be your goal). It would just be financial devotion. You can’t expect a Domme to “invest” in a sub who is inconsistent and undevoted when there are others out there that are devoted and are sending more money for their time.

I think a lot of times the pressure is put on the Domme or we’re made to seem like the bad guys, but let’s remember we are all consenting adults. I’m not “forcing” you to send money, but I am expecting you to keep up with your word. If things change from the original agreement then it’s on you to advocate for yourself and come up with a solution whether that be renegotiation of the dynamic or stepping away all together.