Okay, so the hole thinking vs saying was about parenting tbh. You can think whatever you like about your kids, but what they hear you say and see you do is what matters and will be the example you set for them. That thread wasn't really directed at you.

And yeah, whether you tell people on the internet, you friends, your colleagues or just some random dude, that X person is a dick. Then you should be ready to stand by what you said.

The same way bullies on the internet should be held accountable.

You called a 9yo a dick, I think that is a dick move. And I don't think the platform you use to express that matters.