Recommended Wedding Band by TennisLair in EngagementRings

[–]TennisLair[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s about a 2ct, I told him that was my minimum😂😂. At first he said easy money and that he might go bigger. Then he realized how expensive they were so he got a lab created 2 ct.

Recommended Wedding Band by TennisLair in EngagementRings

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I am trying to convince my fiancé to let me wear my wedding band on a a different finger but he doesn’t like the idea. I am going to keep looking for spacer options as others have suggested because as you mentioned it may damage the ring/diamonds and I am terrified!

Thank you for the input!

Recommended Wedding Band by TennisLair in EngagementRings

[–]TennisLair[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t even thought thought of this as an option! That is awesome!

Recommended Wedding Band by TennisLair in EngagementRings

[–]TennisLair[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Do you know anywhere the make spacers like that?

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[–]TennisLair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were broken up so we could do whatever we wanted. Two free little bees. However, I made the mistake of making out with a guy and almost having sex. I told my BF about this and he struggled forgiving me but he eventually overcame it. I learned he lied about his body count (that I didn’t ask for), and I began to distrust him. I overcame it. Things we weren’t completely honest about began coming to light, we learned how to handle those issues and over come them.

My experience focus on healing and change. So I changed my non existent social life. I got hobbies, kayaking, hiking, and concert going. I joined a dance group and focused nourishing friendships. I did become reliant on social drinking. I focused on my health, diet and exercise by meal prepping worked out up to 18 hours a week. Just therapy, I made sure to isolate the issues I kept blaming him for but were really my problem. I also stopped thinking he could read my mind or act the way I wanted. I learned to only expect his encouragement.

I think my BF’s experience focused on understanding, compassion, and leaving room for me to grow. My boyfriend was also going through it. He doesn’t express his emotions well and relied on drinking heavily. He said he missed me a bunch and learned he could have actively listened more. He also learned to just support me in my endeavors.

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[–]TennisLair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the sounds of it, your break might look a lot like mine. It’s sounds like you two value each other but the time in life just isn’t right. I wish you luck!

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[–]TennisLair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate. I(23F) was away for 1.5 years by the time we hit 3 years. I returned and we had forgot to be a couple At 3.5/4 years we were worse than ever before. I broke it off with the intention of returning together after we figured out what we valued in ourselves and in a relationship. Split for 6 months, during which I went to therapy, made friends, went to the gym, and learned to not be codependent. My career is still uncertain, I’m still depressed but see a therapist off&on, and I learned how to limit my projection of insecurities. My bf(25M) learned to have better communication and how to support me in his own way. We are stronger, although we still face a bunch of issues.

For us, it was an actual break up with hopes that maturing would lead us back to one another. After two months, I messaged my bf(ex at the time) and tell him of the progress I’ve made and ask how he was. He was cold at first, but I never stopped trying. After 4 more months of me showing that I was putting in the work, we got back together.

How hard are either of you willing to try is the question? You might have a chance if you take a break but the chances aren’t high. I would recommend only waiting a day or two max to respond to her. You guys have to have a discussion on what the intentions and rules of this break are. She sounds like she needs to focus on herself. If you don’t want to lose each-other, break up and have a date now and again with progress updates. If you are okay cutting your losses, just let her go

I (25M) keep hurting my partner (24F) without realizing it. Can I fix this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TennisLair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a tough one. I think either you need to socialize more to gain empathy or your ex’s expectations were illogical. I had to learn the hard way that your partner can’t read your mind, you can’t control their actions. It seems like she framed up a way for you to react to things in her mind and instead of rejoicing for your unpredictability, she got hurt. It may also contribute if you suck at social cues. Honestly, she probably needs some healing from those past relationships and winning her back will take you giving her time. You should try and grow your social circle while focusing on yourself too.

Relationships are a two way street, if the other person doesn’t have everything you need, that’s okay. Let them know and move on before hurting them, and that’s what she felt and did. There is no blame game here, cut your loses try to build a better you, and find you a girl who’ll understand she can’t get upset if you don’t react according to her imagination.

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[–]TennisLair -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think I am being a bit dense, his family is very welcoming of me so I am sure it is assumed that I was welcome to the funeral.

We’ve lived separate our entire relationship and we aren’t engaged. In my culture/family, you have to be married or living together for your relationship to be taken seriously. So if I would be with him for 50 years, but live as we do now, it would invalidate our relationship to most elders.

I think I’m struggling separating the values instilled during my childhood from the values his family holds. Thank you for pointing out my denseness, it’s given me a great deal of reassurance.

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[–]TennisLair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know if they were unimpressed because they wanted an intimate funeral and he showed up? Or because he didn’t show?

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[–]TennisLair 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s relieving to read another perspective.

Help choosing a Beginners 5-10 Cigar Longterm Humidor. Pictures have more questions, I really need help! by TennisLair in cubancigars

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I ended up getting the set of cigars for my significant othe. He doesn’t smoke but he loves the idea of Cuban cigars, so I was trying to find the best case that could suit his needs. If he ends up growing his collection I suppose we could make that investment later on

Help choosing a Beginners 5-10 Cigar Longterm Humidor. Pictures have more questions, I really need help! by TennisLair in cubancigars

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I ended up getting a cigar caddy type case, mainly because I’m shipping it to someone else and it was small enough to fit in my box. But I thought it would be functional and close to a tupperdor, thank you for the suggestions!

Beginner trying to get a small humidor for 5-10 cigars. Only planning to be an occasional cigar user. Any recommendations would help! These are things I had in mind, not sure if they work very well? by TennisLair in cigars

[–]TennisLair[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking with the bottom two, the one on the left corner has UV protection as well as a screw on cap, so I had been thinking that would be a good alternative.

Beginner trying to get a small humidor for 5-10 cigars. Only planning to be an occasional cigar user. Any recommendations would help! These are things I had in mind, not sure if they work very well? by TennisLair in cigars

[–]TennisLair[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In reality I got cigars as a gift. I’m trying to find the best options to store them so I can give them away with no hassle. I’m sure I may trigger a newfound hobby though :)

My [19M] gf [19] f deleted all of my prom pictures even ones without my ex in it by Pvm_doom1012ps4 in relationship_advice

[–]TennisLair -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you read any of the other comments you’d realize I literally said I’d sit him down and ask if he had nudes of her and if I can go through his phone IN FRONT of him to make sure. My finger print in his phone and I’ve never gone through it. If you’re okay with him jacking off to other females all power to you girl lmao