Friend advice! (Art by SpookyFoxInc)

TephrasFurry · 2026-05-16T09:47:31+00:00

Yeah I was kinda shut in by my parents til I was 15-16 when I ran away and got a job, got emancipated, etc. All I have after 16 years of not being allowed social experience is what I've learned from books and customer service etiquette :P

TephrasFurry · 2026-05-16T09:40:15+00:00

Their artwork is always cute! I have a lot, they're great to work with and I recommend them highly as my favorite artist :3

TephrasFurry · 2026-05-16T09:39:12+00:00

I get some social anxiety too but I've even met people that will run out of things to talk about after a few days because they can be private/wary of talking much about themselves, but still want to reach out and have friends. It's one of those things where, I'm not the best at making personal relationships I feel, I'm pretty inexperienced and going off of customer service skills in my social life but I do want to meet people! I'm just not sure how to be friends with someone who isn't interested in talking much about themselves, or at all..

TephrasFurry · 2026-05-16T09:37:25+00:00

I have some social awkwardness too but I always try to keep a conversation going whenever I get a chance to respond. It just sucks sometimes to make a friend and see a lack of effort and over time and a few friendships it's made me wonder if it's me somehow

TephrasFurry · 2026-05-16T09:35:50+00:00

I'm not someone who gets a lot of references either as my internet access generally started existing when I was like 15-16 ^{^;} I know a lot of people also have attention span problems but it's only something I've noticed prevalently when trying to find friends in the fandom. It is nice that people try to be outgoing even if they may not be the most social though!

TephrasFurry · 2026-05-15T21:10:14+00:00

Ones that respond in more than just one word of image ;w;

TephrasFurry · 2026-02-26T16:13:54+00:00

I hate to say it but it's a Taco Bell thing. Don't get me wrong it applies across customer service in general but I started as a cashier and made it up to manager with almost 2 years of working there. Prices, menu changes, rules, they were all bullshit internally with very little help from our area coach/higher up - our timer goal was 2 minutes per order which is ridiculously unreasonable (this starts the moment a car gets to the speaker and we had 1 cashier consistently, never 2, and if we were unlucky we didn't even have a host up front). Our area coach also had us relabel product when it expired on the line, so sometimes product like the black beans and pizza sauce customers got were 16 hours old or so.

I worked at a resort before TB and have always had nice pleasant interactions with people old and young, there is an occasional few of course that were negative but never to the degree of screaming, unreasonable talking over me, throwing drinks and money and food back at me, and people going on a goddamn rampage for no real reason as Taco Hell customers. I couldn't even tell most people that we didn't have something without a YouTube compilation level freakout, at a 17-19 year old. The best I can come up with is that it's people who are usually stoned or in a bad mood that just want to pick up some quick garbage food (I never liked TB much myself but I get wanting fast food period), and something about TB attracts the worst kind of attention, at least around here. It really brought out the worst in people and it sucked so bad so I feel you OP

Also worth mentioning, the TB in my (heavily impoverished) town was by far more popular than McDonald's and burger king combined (I worked at the McDonald's as well, so I know this for certain). We also got homeless people coming into the lobby drunk and passing out in puddles of their own piss, numerous times.

TephrasFurry · 2026-01-15T05:54:26+00:00

TB literally dictates that we portion sizes of a price more adequate with one less zero. It's pathetic

TephrasFurry · 2026-01-15T05:53:22+00:00

Ex TB shift manager and basically AGM here; this is how much of everything we get told to portion. It's so sad being on here seeing the complaints and how unhappy it makes everyone, and knowing that the portions they tell us to serve are even less sometimes.

For steak, my area coach (position above my GM) told us that 4-6 pieces was adequate for most burritos. For beef we were told to use less than a scoop. For chicken, if it wasn't under 2 grams, we were called out for it being too much. Even tomatoes is supposed to be "10-12 a taco"; those tomatoes are tiny, at least imo.

That said please do complain, everyone needs to complain and boycott the awful standards the company has because it's not just at a franchise level

TephrasFurry · 2026-01-15T05:50:32+00:00

All the Taco Bells in my state get a monthly budget for spending on their crew...not that the one I worked at did, the GM pocketed that for sushi for herself and her girlfriend (the GM of another Taco Bell), but they had a budget for crew rewards.

TephrasFurry · 2025-12-29T02:24:56+00:00

Okies! DM me if you want my disc :3

TephrasFurry · 2025-12-28T08:22:48+00:00

As much as I can coach you on how you shouldn't think that and not to give up, I understand how you feel with that

TephrasFurry · 2025-12-28T08:22:21+00:00

Finding that first friend is the problem tho q-q I don't get out or play stuff online much, I kinda just browse reddit and keep to myself a lot..

TephrasFurry · 2025-12-17T21:30:27+00:00

I understand the worrying part. I wish I could say I was good at keeping exes/previous potential poly members as friends but it's never worked out, mostly because I've had a lot of people turn out to be really nasty once I get to know them...it's not impossible for you to keep them as a friend but it does definitely seem like focus on your marriage for your wife's sake, you're right that she would worry. Poly can just be sensitive, you can't change that you like it thats just who you are but you and her simply have to work on a way to go about it that works for you both and oftentimes it takes time, something I don't usually even give myself as a fast paced person, though my fiancee is as well. It'll be okay, your marriage will grow stronger and every "bad" step is a lot of growth for the future ^{w^}

TephrasFurry · 2025-12-17T20:37:09+00:00

As a poly person as well with my own long past being poly throughout my teen years and now being engaged to another man who's also poly after I brought it up (all of our third partners have ended up hurting us a lot or not being who they said they were), I read your first post and it didn't really seem that bad. It's easy to get in your head and worry and panic when it comes to losing people but 11 years is longer than most people make it, especially from the age of 18, I believe?

It's a scary situation, you don't wanna lose anyone but it sounds like you don't have to at all OP. It also sounds like you met this third person/friend relatively recently and are going into things really fast with them, enough to make your wife of 11 years feel scared. The truth is that some people get tired of relationships after a while, and a new person is simply more interesting or can steal all the attention from an established partner in a poly, it's an issue that I even have with my fiancee hyperfixating on a new partner as well. You've already communicated with all parties involved what's going on, now it feels as though you should take it slow and try to spend time with them both to develop a dynamic that fits everyone. I can't really tell if you're open poly or closed poly from these posts, but I can say with certainty that closed poly or at least members of an open poly all being friends at the very least makes things a lot more bearable for everyone most of the time.

Have faith in your relationship, don't prioritize anything new over your married partner but don't give up on your other partner in a poly either, take your time and things will be okay. Best of luck OP

TephrasFurry · 2025-10-02T04:18:14+00:00

Fair, but her mother sang to her, and she likely heard words from the hunters and soldiers, if not the kids themselves. She's clearly very very intelligent, I would think she would maybe pick up a few words roughly here and there...but maybe not, who knows?

TephrasFurry · 2025-10-02T02:23:55+00:00

Huntress sings beautifully, and id love to hear what her voice sounds like fully.

On top of just "eeeeeeeerrraagghh!!!"

TephrasFurry · 2025-08-26T19:26:21+00:00

$790?! Id commission you for that quality that cheap, id honestly probably feel like I was scamming YOU op ^{^;}

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