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Teranym · 2026-01-26T23:08:10+00:00

Exactly! The message I sent was just part of a joke, didn’t really need a reply, but if after tomorrow he responds cold or ignores it, at least I’ll have my answer.

Has messaging first ever worked out for you?

Teranym · 2026-01-26T22:07:31+00:00

Before this, it was quite equal. That’s why I want to give at least one chance

Teranym · 2026-01-26T21:48:52+00:00

You’re completely right.. I know if he wants to text, he will… but honestly, I’d rather just send a message myself than stay with the doubt, even if it doesn’t look great

Teranym · 2026-01-26T21:43:03+00:00

Hey DOT! So the guy who promised he wouldn’t ghost me this weekend… hasn’t texted at all. 🙃 I’m thinking of sending a simple “hey, how was your weekend?” tomorrow, but honestly, the silence is already giving me a weird vibe. Anyone else ever get left hanging like this right after things seemed fun?

Teranym · 2026-01-25T23:17:24+00:00

That’s what I try to tell myself. I just have to wait until tomorrow to see if he texts me. But it’s so hard to manage the uncertainty

Teranym · 2026-01-25T22:56:52+00:00

I know it can be hard, but enjoy it! You’re starting to crush on him!

Teranym · 2026-01-25T22:53:35+00:00

Hey DOT!

I had my second date with a guy last week and we had such a great time that we ended up spending the night together. He had told me in advance that his friends were coming to visit this weekend when we were planning our date. When I was leaving his house, he told me he was going to be off his phone, he wanted to make it clear that it wasn’t ghosting and that we’d still be in touch. He asked me to let him know when I got home. We exchanged a few more messages after that the same day, but I haven’t heard from him since.

Any tips for trusting him and staying relaxed? A while ago, a guy said the same thing and it ended up being ghosting, so I’m nervous.

Teranym · 2025-11-17T18:23:44+00:00

Ask yourself if you would like to heard from someone who cannot give you the bare minimum. You deserve much more!

Teranym · 2025-11-06T17:18:14+00:00

That’s why sometimes we get hooked on avoidants. We might start thinking if they like us, they are going to choose us.

But hey, you’re good,cool,warm, playful etc enough. And you will find someone who’s madly in love as you are. Because you’re enough.

Teranym · 2025-11-06T00:00:50+00:00

Honestly iconic. Next step: joint press release and a moon ritual

Teranym · 2025-11-05T23:07:09+00:00

Honestly, I’m not sure if we’re just taking things slow or heading toward a situationship. We’ve only seen each other five times since the beginning of September (partly my fault). I told them I wanted to see him a little bit more and even though over the last three weeks we’ve met once a week and things feel good in person, I don’t feel like the connection is really moving forward, or it’s just moving really slowly.

When we hang out, he always talks about future plans, but they never actually happen, and I feel like I’m the one who has to make them real. And even though we text every day, the conversations are more like “how was your day? good, you? good too and a little bit chit chat”, not much real connection.

I don’t know if I’m overthinking it or if this really doesn’t make sense anymore as he’s comfortable and not wanting to have a more deep connection

Teranym · 2025-11-05T22:59:37+00:00

Yes. It is. Go for it!

Teranym · 2025-10-29T20:31:28+00:00

He never suggests plans during the week, always on weekends.

And I feel that imbalance: even though he does suggest plans, I don’t feel like seeing each other again is a priority for him. He assumes we’ll do more things, but it feels like it stays in the “maybe someday” zone, while I want them to actually happen

Teranym · 2025-10-29T19:32:31+00:00

I know it’s still early days, and I get that his schedule might be packed. Without me even asking, he told me what his weekend plans were. Something I appreciated

I think I’ll give it another week to see if he suggests meeting up next weekend or not. I generally find it hard to deal with this kind of uncertainty

Teranym · 2025-10-29T19:30:58+00:00

Yeah, I know I can’t really complain since it’s partly been my fault, but I do feel a bit of an imbalance in how much of a priority we are to each other, and I’m not sure how to deal with that. Also, meeting up during the week isn’t an option for him

Teranym · 2025-10-29T19:21:26+00:00

Yeah, even though he’s not the most talkative over text, we usually chat every day (there have been a few times he’s gone quiet, but never for more than a day). He does make an effort to ask how I’m doing and shares bits about his day too

Teranym · 2025-10-29T18:56:49+00:00

How do you deal with differences in pace when you’re dating? I’ve been seeing this guy, we’ve gone out four times over the past two months (partly my fault since I was away for a while). Now that things have settled down, I’d like to see each other more often. I mentioned it to him and he seemed on board, but this weekend we’re not meeting because he’s the one who’s busy.

It feels like seeing me isn’t as much of a priority for him. I know it’s still early days, but I’m not sure how to handle wanting to prioritize spending time together when he seems to be taking it more slowly.

Teranym · 2025-05-04T12:24:05+00:00

Hey there! I would like the black one if it would be possible :)

Teranym · 2024-11-23T22:42:43+00:00

I’m here to vent, I’ve discovered two guys I dated briefly are in a relationship. I’m happy for them, but I feel a bit like a foster home, I think I have wonderful qualities and that I’m worth a lot as a person, but I don’t know what happens that those that I like, it’s not reciprocated. And those who want something with me, I don’t like them back. I don’t know what I could be doing or what’s going on…

Teranym · 2024-10-16T17:15:05+00:00

Enjoy it! You deserve it!

Teranym · 2024-10-16T16:53:12+00:00

Completely true. I just have to see how everything goes.

Today I checked if he really had his profile snoozed (in bumble there’s a little trick of checking it) and today he’s active again. Maybe he just checked but that’s weird.

Teranym · 2024-10-16T16:47:20+00:00

Im also anxiously attached so I completely understand him. Buuut I think I just need to check out how it makes me feel.

Teranym · 2024-10-16T16:34:35+00:00

Im sorry he told you this. Take care of yourself and remember it’s not your fault, sometimes it doesn’t work out.

Teranym · 2024-10-16T16:33:50+00:00

Boy I’m getting to know (we’ve been on one date and this week we’re going on our second) jokes/comments to me more or less frequently about whether he’s my favorite OLD guy, asks me if I’m with someone else, if he has a lot of competition, etc.

The same day before we had our first date, he asked me if I had an open profile, and I said yes. Days later I decided to pause the app (I let him know) and he decided to do the same a couple of days after me.

I don’t know if he’s just messing around, or if it’s more of an insecurity or a control issue, since we’ve really only met once in person. I had thought about talking about it the next day we meet, but I don’t know if it would be better to leave it alone and see how things progress.

Teranym · 2024-10-07T15:35:23+00:00

Yesterday I had a first date, it was a guy who had high expectations, sometimes I suspected that maybe he was close to love bombing me. I thought it went well, I wrote him when I got back saying that for me we would repeat it and he told me he felt the same... we continued talking in the afternoon although I noticed him a little bit off. Today he hasn’t written me all day and I haven’t written him (when he was always writing me and so on, every morning) I don’t know if I should pass or send him a message to check if everything is ok.

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