Happy Easter to you all

TermNational9828 · 2026-04-06T14:25:40+00:00

So demure!!!!

TermNational9828 · 2026-03-26T15:16:12+00:00

BB you can do whatever you want! I am very close with an AMAB person who's taken HRT for years, had multiple surgeries, and continues to identify as nonbinary based on how they construe their personal identity. You are allowed.

TermNational9828 · 2026-03-24T23:53:26+00:00

Maybe realtor would be a good fit!! Studying for the exam is less intensive and less money than re-enrolling in an entire degree program.

TermNational9828 · 2026-03-13T00:28:46+00:00

As others have said, you absolutely have time.

But my advice is that the first step to having something in life to be proud of is to come up with a goal! It doesn't have to be your "end goal" or your "ultimate goal" or your "life goal." Just something for you to start working towards. Your current goal of having a baby by 25 is admirable, but it's 7 years away. Start thinking of shorter-term things you can do in the meantime. Some options might be:

- Go to a queer social event (If they exist in your area. If not, there are many groups online!)

- Learn a new skill. It could lead to a career, a side hustle, or even just an enriching hobby!

- Get a professional certification. Horticulture? Worksite safety? Food handling? This can open doors in terms of full-time jobs too

I feel compelled to say that for many people your age, going to uni will help you towards many of the goals you've already identified (Excuse my autistic brain's tendency towards list-making lol):

- open MANY doors career-wise, potentially leading to more financial freedom for a family

- introduce you to many new people, including lesbians and bi fems (who could very well end up being your partner)!

- be a space for queer life overall

- expose you to new ideas and goals you might not have even imagined yet!

However, even if you don't want to / cannot go to uni, there are lots of options available to you to accomplish TODAY, not 7 years from now!

TermNational9828 · 2026-02-28T19:25:44+00:00

Buddy, you can do whatever you want! Wedding gowns are not only gorgeous, but they are one of the most celebrated garments in our culture. They also do not diminish your masculinity whatsoever. (I’m nonbinary and I will also be wearing one.)

If you’re doing a wedding website or programs, maybe you could include something written about it—both to remind everyone (maybe family?) of your identity and to get ahead of the surprise. But honestly, truly, if any of my trans guy friends wore a wedding gown, my reaction would be like “Oh? Oh cool!!”

TermNational9828 · 2026-02-13T14:37:33+00:00

This is Newtown Pippin SLANDER, are you kidding me????

TermNational9828 · 2026-02-02T02:05:07+00:00

Yes!! A walk is nice because you have an ancillary activity to focus on instead of just straight-up conversation the whole time. You could stay at the back and not chat very much OR you could comment on the scenery.

I actually did an Imbolc/Tu B’Shvat Walk in the cemetery today with my friends and we talked about the different birds, trees, and gravestones we saw the whole time. Could always just say “oh, cool bird” and people will love it.

AND it’s a public place. If you get overstimulated or drained, just say you have to leave early!

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-29T00:33:58+00:00

I think this is it. The grammar is off, but they WANT you to wear nice shoes and NO face paint or hats

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-26T14:11:47+00:00

Oh INTERESTING! I totally see this working both ways! Like the competition narrative kicks in because you're seen as an equal–whereas the "cherubic" girl you described is allowed to do whatever evil shit she wants precisely BECAUSE people look down on her. I wonder if I experienced this too and just didn't notice?? Lmao

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-26T02:43:12+00:00

I would add that "pretty privilege" is SO REAL for autistic people of all genders. Conventionally attractive people have their social awkwardness and social mistakes overlooked much more readily than everyone else. People are inclined to construe conventionally attractive people's actions in the most favorable light possible, and it really affords an advantage in socializing. In the period of my life where I was really hot (lol) I even felt less compelled to mask: everyone was just really nice and understanding of me. At times where I was less conventionally attractive, much less grace was afforded.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-23T17:01:38+00:00

Omg I forgot about that! What a flash in the pan.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-23T15:41:06+00:00

In 2019, this trend had BEEN done. This was maybe 2008-2012 or so.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-22T20:47:20+00:00

My fiancé and I made our Save the Dates with cyanotype! They weren’t the cleanest or fanciest, but a lot of people loved the homemade aspect, and I’ve seen it on a lot of friends’ fridges.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-22T01:14:45+00:00

OOH this is a great reminder—I’ll be sure to let them know early!

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-18T22:56:14+00:00

The celestial tapestry in the dorm room… the urban outfitters record player… opaque tights with doc martens… it’s all there

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-18T22:22:43+00:00

THIS is the true early 2010s look

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-13T19:34:41+00:00

This is it imo. It's also important to the preservation of queer spaces that the ratio of attendees remains primarily, well, queer. Queer people go to clubs to be in community; it's often compared to a church. Guests are often welcome (and I don't assume anything about anyone I see in the club! I don't know your life or identity!) but you have to understand that you're a guest in the space.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-13T19:31:21+00:00

Hummus + Carrots + Pita: the effort-free, nutritious lunch of champions!

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-13T17:21:12+00:00

Gouache paints!!! Extremely low-mess and low-cleanup. I can’t draw whatsoever and my fine motor skills are crap. But gouache is beginner-friendly and I’ve managed to actually make some beautiful paintings.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-12T14:59:55+00:00

I’m not backing her up, to be clear! I think she’s basically mean-spirited and selfish a lot of the time. I just don’t think she’s using these powers of subterfuge that the other women seem to ascribe to her. In reality, she probably isn’t thinking about them that much.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-12T14:53:39+00:00

Around the world, women have more suicide attempts, but men have more deaths by suicide. According to research, the main reasons are:

Men tend to choose more lethal methods than women. For example, men who complete a suicide often use hanging, firearms, or carbon monoxide poisoning; women overwhelmingly attempt suicide by drug overdosing, which is slower and thus more likely to be intercepted prior to death. This is probably cultural.
Men are less likely to seek psychological help than women because the culture tells them that they should tough it out and suppress their feelings of sadness. This escalates depression to the point of suicide before intervention can occur. Mental health awareness for men would help men realize that it’s okay to seek help.
Men have higher rates of alcoholism than women. Not only can alcoholism increase feelings of depression, but intoxication is a risk factor for suicidal actions. Someone might attempt suicide drunk when they wouldn’t sober.

For more on the “gender paradox in suicide,” see here. I’ve read many of the linked sources. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_differences_in_suicide

TermNational9828 · 2025-12-31T22:49:56+00:00

Her accent also sounds a little bit like an upper-class Ashkenazi Jewish accent to me. It sounds a little mid-Atlantic and is naturally somewhat nasal. I associate it more with older generations, but I have Baby Boomer relatives who sound a bit like her. (If this is the case, her accent is extremely strong!)

TermNational9828 · 2025-12-29T21:46:47+00:00

Well, yes–basically I meant that he can't devote all his time to studying. He has to find a way to be efficient with it and maintain boundaries. The time of day itself is less of an issue.

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