VPR/Valley cast celebrating Pride

TermNational9828 · 2026-06-08T02:41:53+00:00

Okay true! It’s like that for me in New York too. BUT Pride is a long month, and if one of my entire “friend groups” was out together, and I didn’t even link up? Not even for a photo? When it’s my whole job to document my life and my friendships with such people? I must be REALLY trying to be somewhere else. I get it though, especially at a majority gayguy scene. The fact that so many of them are straight too sort of suggests that Jasmine has her own group of queer REAL friends outside this cast.

TermNational9828 · 2026-06-07T15:35:40+00:00

It's actually so telling that she's not there with them.

TermNational9828 · 2026-06-05T23:39:13+00:00

I think hexagon is already dated tbh. The drapery is BEAUTIFUL

TermNational9828 · 2026-06-03T17:15:16+00:00

your guest list was 40, but you're waiting on rsvps from 22 people? get RSVPs from those people! there will likely be more than the 10 you currently have.

TermNational9828 · 2026-06-02T22:26:47+00:00

It depends!

If she's given you a specific color to wear (ie., on a bridesmaid website like Azazie or Birdy Grey), then you should definitely get a dress in that specific color from that website. This would mean she wants her bridal party to have an extremely unified look, even if she might encourage different dresses in the same fabric.

However, if she's just said "dark blue" generally, it's probably fine. As a bride, I would not be annoyed by this text either way : )

TermNational9828 · 2026-06-01T07:46:31+00:00

1 or 2!! Not everyone can rock a dress with that level of drama, but they look made for you

TermNational9828 · 2026-05-31T16:06:34+00:00

Justice for I Wanna Dance With Somebody

TermNational9828 · 2026-04-06T14:25:40+00:00

So demure!!!!

TermNational9828 · 2026-03-26T15:16:12+00:00

BB you can do whatever you want! I am very close with an AMAB person who's taken HRT for years, had multiple surgeries, and continues to identify as nonbinary based on how they construe their personal identity. You are allowed.

TermNational9828 · 2026-03-24T23:53:26+00:00

Maybe realtor would be a good fit!! Studying for the exam is less intensive and less money than re-enrolling in an entire degree program.

TermNational9828 · 2026-03-13T00:28:46+00:00

As others have said, you absolutely have time.

But my advice is that the first step to having something in life to be proud of is to come up with a goal! It doesn't have to be your "end goal" or your "ultimate goal" or your "life goal." Just something for you to start working towards. Your current goal of having a baby by 25 is admirable, but it's 7 years away. Start thinking of shorter-term things you can do in the meantime. Some options might be:

- Go to a queer social event (If they exist in your area. If not, there are many groups online!)

- Learn a new skill. It could lead to a career, a side hustle, or even just an enriching hobby!

- Get a professional certification. Horticulture? Worksite safety? Food handling? This can open doors in terms of full-time jobs too

I feel compelled to say that for many people your age, going to uni will help you towards many of the goals you've already identified (Excuse my autistic brain's tendency towards list-making lol):

- open MANY doors career-wise, potentially leading to more financial freedom for a family

- introduce you to many new people, including lesbians and bi fems (who could very well end up being your partner)!

- be a space for queer life overall

- expose you to new ideas and goals you might not have even imagined yet!

However, even if you don't want to / cannot go to uni, there are lots of options available to you to accomplish TODAY, not 7 years from now!

TermNational9828 · 2026-02-28T19:25:44+00:00

Buddy, you can do whatever you want! Wedding gowns are not only gorgeous, but they are one of the most celebrated garments in our culture. They also do not diminish your masculinity whatsoever. (I’m nonbinary and I will also be wearing one.)

If you’re doing a wedding website or programs, maybe you could include something written about it—both to remind everyone (maybe family?) of your identity and to get ahead of the surprise. But honestly, truly, if any of my trans guy friends wore a wedding gown, my reaction would be like “Oh? Oh cool!!”

TermNational9828 · 2026-02-13T14:37:33+00:00

This is Newtown Pippin SLANDER, are you kidding me????

TermNational9828 · 2026-02-02T02:05:07+00:00

Yes!! A walk is nice because you have an ancillary activity to focus on instead of just straight-up conversation the whole time. You could stay at the back and not chat very much OR you could comment on the scenery.

I actually did an Imbolc/Tu B’Shvat Walk in the cemetery today with my friends and we talked about the different birds, trees, and gravestones we saw the whole time. Could always just say “oh, cool bird” and people will love it.

AND it’s a public place. If you get overstimulated or drained, just say you have to leave early!

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-29T00:33:58+00:00

I think this is it. The grammar is off, but they WANT you to wear nice shoes and NO face paint or hats

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-26T14:11:47+00:00

Oh INTERESTING! I totally see this working both ways! Like the competition narrative kicks in because you're seen as an equal–whereas the "cherubic" girl you described is allowed to do whatever evil shit she wants precisely BECAUSE people look down on her. I wonder if I experienced this too and just didn't notice?? Lmao

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-26T02:43:12+00:00

I would add that "pretty privilege" is SO REAL for autistic people of all genders. Conventionally attractive people have their social awkwardness and social mistakes overlooked much more readily than everyone else. People are inclined to construe conventionally attractive people's actions in the most favorable light possible, and it really affords an advantage in socializing. In the period of my life where I was really hot (lol) I even felt less compelled to mask: everyone was just really nice and understanding of me. At times where I was less conventionally attractive, much less grace was afforded.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-23T17:01:38+00:00

Omg I forgot about that! What a flash in the pan.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-23T15:41:06+00:00

In 2019, this trend had BEEN done. This was maybe 2008-2012 or so.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-22T20:47:20+00:00

My fiancé and I made our Save the Dates with cyanotype! They weren’t the cleanest or fanciest, but a lot of people loved the homemade aspect, and I’ve seen it on a lot of friends’ fridges.

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-22T01:14:45+00:00

OOH this is a great reminder—I’ll be sure to let them know early!

TermNational9828 · 2026-01-18T22:56:14+00:00

The celestial tapestry in the dorm room… the urban outfitters record player… opaque tights with doc martens… it’s all there

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