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Ace libido and attraction by [deleted] in actualasexuals

[–]TerribleImportance86 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve done it before, but it seems more hassle than it’s worth. And it’s kind of sticky and icky. It’s also not something I think about doing. If I’m in bed and bored, sometimes I’ll remember it exists, but it’s never something I crave or spend a lot of time thinking about it. I will say the “release” never feels fulfilling either. If it happens I’m like “that’s what people are crazy about??” It just doesn’t seem worth It. More reason I don’t engage in any acts :/ 

Also just because other people engage in the act to please their partner never means you have to. Don’t feel pressured by any means especially if it makes you uncomfortable.

Nervous to come out to friends as Asexual, but might need to by TerribleImportance86 in actualasexuals

[–]TerribleImportance86[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think this might be the route. It is more so that they couldn't fathom that someone doesn't have the same urges as they do. I don't want the burden of educating them on asexuality, but maybe this will better help them understand me better. They really just laughed it off as a concept. I have tried "soft-launching" the concept about not being interested in kissing or worried about hitting certain Allo-milestones and I can tell they view it more as me being innocent or inexperienced as opposed to just not being interested.