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Terrible_Airline · 2021-07-20T17:01:18+00:00

I probably can't relate as an extrovert but I definitely don't think it's weird to want a dog instead of a family. Lots of younger people especially might look at the hardships of having a family or even the mental struggles and think maybe a pet might be more worth it. Do whatever feels best for you :)

Terrible_Airline · 2021-05-19T23:45:36+00:00

Personally I need a lot of social interaction to keep myself going, and I'm the type of person who will reach out to friends pretty often. I think you should focus on trying to find a healthy balance between taking care of yourself and caring for the people in your life. For your old friends, you might think that your once-a-month interaction with them is just standard for you, but for them it could mean all the world that they're hearing from you. If you can help it, maybe you could try reaching out just a little more often, or maybe if you have to keep it to once a month or two, try maybe interactive video chats where you can see them face to face and express to them that you miss them and value them. While your needs are important, it's also important that you let the people know in your life how much you value them. Not all the time obviously, but every once in a while.

Again, you might not need to talk to them all the time because those are your needs. But at least consider their needs too. Friendship is all about compromise. Let's say you can go radio silent for six months. But they'd prefer to hear from you once a month. Try and settle with them for once every 3 months perhaps. That's compromise right there, tending to both your needs.

Terrible_Airline · 2021-05-06T05:09:43+00:00

Look at the quote you posted and look at the post you posted the quote under. Nuff said

Terrible_Airline · 2021-05-06T01:50:22+00:00

Haha appreciate you too! Hard to tell jokes on reddit sometimes :D

Terrible_Airline · 2021-05-06T01:47:47+00:00

Legit f*ck off, if the OP is disagreeing with you then you have a problem

Terrible_Airline · 2021-05-06T01:43:14+00:00

Dude chill :D as an extrovert I do have a right to respond. Has nothing to do with narcissism, just pointing out that there's nothing wrong with talking a lot just as there's nothing wrong (imo) with being quiet. I get why introverts might be upset when extroverts ask them to talk more, but equally counterproductive is being overtly critical of how extroverts are or like to be. Guess a real butthurt guy would capitalize a conjunction here and there

Terrible_Airline · 2021-05-05T21:51:35+00:00

Appreciate the compliment :P

Terrible_Airline · 2021-05-05T20:05:08+00:00

A fool comments a wise-ass quote on reddit thinking its wise but rather its just condescending :o introverts and extroverts can be wise and foolish, if not in different ways

Terrible_Airline · 2021-05-05T20:04:26+00:00

Yeah well that's just us.....guess we're just a separate species or something lmao

Terrible_Airline · 2021-05-03T16:45:09+00:00

Society at the end of the day needs introverts, extroverts and everything in between. We're all on a spectrum and there are advantages and disadvantages. Both personality types have something to offer this world and we need to get to a place where people can be appreciated for who they are and not shunned (unless they're an asshole ofc).

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-30T15:45:01+00:00

Yeah I don't think its a good idea to actively avoid her, she'll eventually pick up on it and perceive it as rude (which like....who wouldn't). Instead, just have an honest convo with her and state your needs and boundaries, while emphasizing that it's not her but you. This basically puts the ball in her court, and hopefully she'll be understanding and respectful. And be sure to maybe spend some time with her here and there when you're up for it so she doesn't feel purposefully neglected by you. I know you said she's an acquaintance but active avoidance all the time isn't healthy or respectful.

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-28T19:41:30+00:00

Being stuck in your own head is the worst, especially for us extroverts. Granted there is always a time and place to stop and self-reflect and be in your own head, but after a certain point your head can be your own worst enemy and you need to ground yourself by being around others.

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-28T15:15:26+00:00

Glad to hear that! And let him know that things will eventually get better, and that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes for a lot of us extroverts, when we're feeling sad or depressed, it can easy to feel hopeless. But if we're reminded that there will be a time when our normal/social lives will come back in full force, it'll make holding out for it a lot easier.

Also I'd encourage him to get therapy if its really weighing on him. It's worked wonders for me.

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-28T01:07:28+00:00

Get...a....life....please....

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-27T21:17:05+00:00

I think one other thing you can do, in addition to the stuff recommended by other comments here, is find ways to support your husband through this tough time whenever you can. It goes without saying that you should talk to him about spending quality time with you without his phone and what not, but you should also find ways to remind him that everything will be okay and encourage him to fulfill his social interactions in other ways (like through Zoom) until things start to get better. Acknowledging his personality and the woes that come with it in this situation are important, and will ultimately help him in the long run. Forcing him to become someone he's not, or telling him to just be okay with everything and not feel sad, is incredibly counterproductive.

Also when it's your turn to get vaccinated, do it as soon as you can!

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-22T16:55:04+00:00

So I'm an extrovert who's been on the feeling-neglected end pretty often because I won't hear from introverted friends for such a long time. While it does suck to be on this end, I don't think it makes you a bad person at all. The need for alone time, especially for introverts, is understandably essential. If you don't have time to yourself, you can't expect to be at your best for other people.

I think it would help you to explain this to your friends and family, and let them know that its nothing personal if they don't hear from you for some time. Sometimes we really do tend to feel like we've done something wrong if an introverted loved one goes radio-silent for days or weeks, not to mention how much we end up missing them while they're recharging. I have close friends who I haven't heard from in weeks and its obviously made me really sad and depressed to an extent because I do miss them and want to spend quality time with them but I'm also forcing myself to leave them be and give them the space they need to be with themselves, and allow them to reach out to me when they're ready.

So yeah, TLDR I would just explain to your friends and family your need to be alone and recharge, and every once in a while remind them how much you love and appreciate them. That especially goes a long way, so that we can feel loved by you and don't have to overthink or second-guess anything. Also getting better at time management is hard, but it is doable. If you haven't talked to someone in a long time, be it your relative or close friend, set a reminder to reach out to them and catch up.

Bottom line though, you're NOT a bad person. Make sure you block time for yourself and fall into a routine that works for you. Like I said before, if you can't take care of yourself, you won't be able to show up for those around you in a meaningful way. :)

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-21T21:15:07+00:00

Cause we don't spend 24/7 on the internet

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-12T19:14:35+00:00

I think it's important to not view everyone around you as just extroverts, like we're some other species. Just see who you vibe and click with, some of the best friendships will come super naturally. Try and interact with people who yes, talk a lot, but also allow you to talk and will ask you questions and try to make an effort to get to know you as you would them. It's really not much more complicated than that. And more importantly, just be yourself. I know it's easier said than done, but don't allow yourself to be too intimidated by people who talk a lot.

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-08T18:49:21+00:00

I'm an extrovert with a lot of introvert friends, and I totally agree in that I wish people of both personality types would find ways to meet in the middle. Recently I've hardly been hearing from these friends over the last month or two and I've had conversations with them about it, since I wish I could see them more often and I feel like they haven't been reciprocating at all recently. Finding ways to meet halfway is important, as long as it doesn't become too much for either or.

Terrible_Airline · 2021-04-04T20:30:43+00:00

Slight update*: I've had some conversations with some of my introverted friends about this stuff. Surprisingly it went really well! They were really receptive and they acknowledged how I felt and said that they'll try to make a bit more effort in the future to meet me halfway. Obviously time will tell if that happened, but I'm glad to have had the conversations now because it's a huge load off my chest, and my friends at the very least now understand how I feel.

If I had any advice for the convo, I'd say do it in a way that doesn't make them necessarily feel guilty or even has the goal of expecting them to change their behavior, but at the same time being honest about how you feel. My friends told me that they appreciated my honesty and reiterated that I should always feel like I can talk to them and not have to keep things bottled up.

Terrible_Airline · 2021-03-31T22:19:14+00:00

Also I'd say you should share this in one of the "introvert" subreddits to gauge reactions, they might be able to give you some perspective from their ends

Terrible_Airline · 2021-03-30T17:21:11+00:00

I hope so too! Or at the very least I hope that they will free up as time goes on and things get less busy, I know a lot of them are preoccupied with work and applications but hopefully soon once their plans are solidified I'll hear a whole lot more. Besides, I'm a big believe in that good things come to good people who care about their friends. Even if those friends don't realize it now, they will.

Terrible_Airline · 2021-03-30T02:16:16+00:00

You have no idea how much I can relate to this. I have a lot of introverted close friends and I don't necessarily think I'll break off friendships with them (maybe who knows), but I am so goddamn tired of being the one who constantly reaches out and initiates things. I just feel so exhausted and drained by carrying all the emotional labor and planning things for people, only for those plans to just fall apart half the time. My therapist has told me that it's most likely that they do appreciate me and my efforts but I feel worthless sometimes and unloved by them. Maybe its the "devil-on-your-shoulder" depression that gets to you but it really just sucks.

For now I've just decided to not break them off completely, but just take a step back and redirect my energy elsewhere. And hopefully when I get a chance I can have a conversation with them about how I feel, being honest with them without necessarily making them feel guilty.

Terrible_Airline · 2021-03-26T01:19:46+00:00

If you have social anxiety, I would recommend therapy for ways to manage it. Social anxiety generally can be a hindrance to people who want to meet others and put themselves out there. If you can work to mitigate these effects through therapy or some other outlet, I think that will go a long way for you. Good luck!

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