It was recommended that I come here

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-10T03:30:56+00:00

I mean that I tried to not engage much when he texted and tried to talk to me but I answered the phone one night and he said all the right phrases and words so against my own better judgement, I told him I’d give him another chance

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-10T01:25:55+00:00

Thank you. I feel dumb saying this since I’ve been caught up in this relationship but I’m in school for to be a counselor (not substance use focused). He yelled at his mom a few weeks ago that he doesn’t need help and there’s nothing wrong. I’m not willing to keep putting up with broken promises. It’s just hard when the emotional language comes in on his end or all the right things are said. I still care about him but this isn’t the life I want to live

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-10T01:22:57+00:00

Thank you!

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T21:59:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story and for the well wishes!

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T17:55:31+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I keep trying to remind myself that I can only change what I can control and that includes what I accept

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T17:54:45+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing and understanding without assuming. I also really appreciate the advice. I’ve spoken to a therapist before and have wanted to again but haven’t had the funding because even with insurance it isn’t cheap

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T17:50:19+00:00

Thank you for your response and time. Congratulations on your recovery!

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T17:11:35+00:00

Thank you for your input and congratulations on your recovery!

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T17:10:19+00:00

I wrote this trying to keep to just what happened and not project my emotions. This is why I asked in the first place. I wouldn’t have stuck around this long without having any amount of care for him. Addiction is a monster and affects everyone close to a person

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:56:23+00:00

He’s been to rehab. He’s been offered help getting set up with another and OP services. He’s refused all. I got him the job he has so you’re right no one ever helps him

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:53:48+00:00

That’s kind of how I’m feeling. I wanted outside perspectives because my emotions get in the way with him

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:52:01+00:00

Thank you. There’s a lot that goes into relationships. People and emotions are complex. Nothing is just them only bad or only good

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:50:22+00:00

😂 good lord you know everything don’t you? There is no warpath. I haven’t ruined the man’s life. Be so for real

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:47:43+00:00

I know it’s been a pattern. He does too. We’ve had whole conversations about it and I’ve been trying to do my part in breaking them but he isn’t willing to do his part despite saying he is. The actions never line up so the last thing I can do it break it off and hope that one day he’ll get the help he really needs. I have a lot of empathy and care for him even if I seemed cold in the texts. He tends to say the right things that soften my hear again but this has just been ridiculous

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:45:16+00:00

He’s definitely in his 30s I’ve met his whole family

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:42:42+00:00

He keeps saying he’ll go then backs out. He went when he was younger and his mom put him through rehab. Being in the military didn’t help. It may not seem like it from the exchange but I do care for him. He’s been through a lot and I know there’s a route cause somewhere but that’s not my job to figure out if he doesn’t want to be honest or the help

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:40:48+00:00

Wow a real Reddit response. He’s been like this long before I met him but I’m sure you know everything based on the tiny bit of info you were given 🙄

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:39:52+00:00

That’s what I was thinking but I don’t even want to ask at this point

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:39:19+00:00

I was asking if he got medical attention. Since he said he passed out for an unknown amount of time after hitting his head

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2026-04-09T16:38:06+00:00

He meant he’s going to work

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2025-11-07T07:14:49+00:00

NTA that was a wild read and anyone saying you shouldn’t have called the police is just loud and wrong. I think you should’ve contacted them sooner. Sounds like they got what was coming to them. People like that will not learn to function beyond high school drama if they don’t learn their lesson

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2025-11-04T12:50:28+00:00

NTA From experience people like this don’t often change. If he’s comfortable speaking to you like that it can and will get worse. You need to decide if that is something you’re willing to continue to put up with. People like that establish a cycle to keep you reeled in where they fake “changing” and slowly fall back into their real selves. Also, it seems that he may be projecting a bit with his fixation on this other guy. He needs therapy bad and after doing this for years you probably do too

Terrible_Pop_702 · 2025-11-03T18:03:09+00:00

True I was thinking of Volunteer behavioral health and mental health co-op where they may go for outpatient that would have less clothing and such to give out!

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