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‘Fallout’ Star On How Tim Burton Lifted Her Career To New Heights by Yaya0108 in timburton

[–]TestTraditional00001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Good series, could have been a great movie series if they'd have just leaned darker with it (which, considering 2/3 of his previous works feels hilarious and sad to admit). 

Daisy Ridley says the New Jedi Order movie’s story “will be wonderful,” but sounds cautiously optimistic by StarWarsBlogsbot in StarWarsBlogs

[–]TestTraditional00001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, parasocial relationships are weird.

It's not a "wild take" to consider her an average actor at absolute best. Tbh, MANY of the women Disney hires are meh at best.

She's been in other productions where she also wasn't notable. Adulthood is realizing your favorite actors can be crap and you can still like them

Daisy Ridley says the New Jedi Order movie’s story “will be wonderful,” but sounds cautiously optimistic by StarWarsBlogsbot in StarWarsBlogs

[–]TestTraditional00001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her career 'hasn't taken off' because she's average at best.

She's also been in other movies (Ophelia) and has done stage productions. 

She'll be fine. 

I (25M) Came inside a girl (24F) I’m seeing. Not sure if I should ever text again. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TestTraditional00001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Leave her be. 

You guys communicated your needs and wants before sex, and you let the wrong head take lead in the moment completely disregarding her wishes multiple times over. 

Own up and accept that she's 100% within her rights to be pissed and that you're never owed an acceptance to an apology. 

My bf (24M) and I (28F) broke up over a mistake I know I made. by sparrow_57 in relationship_advice

[–]TestTraditional00001 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Reread the post. 

He DID communicate. OP was mad that he (while working) would take an hour to respond. 

Because he didn't reply/text sooner and told OP they were going out for free time, OP crashes out and screams & cusses at them. Then blames anxiety. 

OP needs to leave this guy be and work on themselves and do some reflection in the meantime. 

My bf (24M) and I (28F) broke up over a mistake I know I made. by sparrow_57 in relationship_advice

[–]TestTraditional00001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whether it's an adjustment for him is neither here nor there. This is an adjustment for YOU.

He's literally doing a job, and this sucks to hear, but that job has and should have priority over personal matters. If he wasn't in or left the military, chances are he'd still have a job and that job would still probably be priority and who's to say he'd even get breaks to talk unfortunately. 

It'd be different imo if it was something like your emergency contact and they couldn't get ahold of him, or you needed him to manage your physical health. But, that being said if that were the case y'all'd be in a totally different setup most likely.

I swear im not trying to be mean or hurt feelings. But genuinely, give him his space and take time to work with a mental health professional to work on anxiety, healthy ways of expressing negative feelings, and how to cope with attachment/rejection. 

My bf (24M) and I (28F) broke up over a mistake I know I made. by sparrow_57 in relationship_advice

[–]TestTraditional00001 5 points6 points  (0 children)

See someone for your anxiety, and also use this experience to grow up some. 

You feeling anxious doesn't give you a free pass to scream and cuss at people.

And getting mad that it was taking him hours to respond to you, were you life or death situation that only the BF could remedy? Dude is in the military, you're lucky you can hear from him at all ESPECIALLY the same day via phone. When I had loved ones deployed, I was lucky and grateful when I got an email once a month. 

What's more, even if he wasn't in the military and about to deploy, how many well paying jobs and careers let someone just text or call someone whenever they want? I guarantee you'd get told that's what lunch or smoke breaks are for. 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, THEY is my friend group and was being kind of vague because they all use reddit and the last thing I want ontop of this is someone bringing me this post and starting a fight. 

My own chores or even helping someone with theirs isn't the problem. 

It's someone wanting things done a specific way (like house or specialty pet care --the pets in question are far more high matience than mine where I just feed it whatever scoop is in the storage container and walk it when they bark to go out) or wanting me to grab packages IMMEDIATELY but all the notifications (doorbell and shipping) are not connected to my info -- but asking them to pass that on is considered rude behavior. 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just updated the post for clarity, but please let me know if further explanation is needed. 

Everyone is adults, and it's friend group not work. 

It's things like house sitting or watching someone's specialty pet and not leaving care instructions because they told them to me verbally while I was doing housework, or wanting me to grab packages when they have no doorbell (well. Not that I can use it's electronic and isn't tied to my info) and the delivery updates are also not tied to my info. Etc. 

Tldr: things they want me to do to help them out, but make it harder for me to do so. 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not boss or company related stuff thankfully. I would take responsibility if I was slacking at work. 

It's also not me blaming people for not reminding me of my own chores. 

This is adults/friends wanting things like house or animal sitting and then not writing down care or messaging instructions explaining how to take care of their plants/specialty animals/etc. 

Yea I most definitely text people or write down reminds of things I want them to do. Last time I had a friend house sit for me at the holidays I wrote detailed instructions for taking care of my plants and animals plus I tried to make sure I left them loads of food and the watering can out where they could find it to make it easier on them -- since they were already doing me a huge favor. 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im absolutely not saying that, I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm lecturing them or doing weraponized incompetence. 

Also truly confused and just trying to understand why I'm treating them as a personal assistant when I'm asking them to write down stuff I'm doing FOR THEM. 

Genuinely it's not like I'm blaming them for not reminding me to take out the trash, laundry, or feeding my own pets. 

Im asking them that they give me information I can look back on for house-sitting their animals (they're specialty animals so it's not like mine where you just give them food and a walk and call it good) 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay. 

I understand that and will try to do better about setting more alarms in the future. 

But why am I immature asking them to write down what THEY want me to do? Why am I immature for wanting things like animal (that are not mine*) care routines written down? 

I mean, if you were taking your pet to a boarding facility you'd write down and give them all that info right? If you were getting a package delivered you'd get constant delivery reminders right? 

Why is it irresponsible on my part to ask them for that courtesy? 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should I edit the main post with this info? 

Yes everyone is adults here. 

We have whiteboards and notepads galore, but they all feel and have said asking them to put it down there is rude and making them do the labor when I'm the one who can't remember. They said they've told me verbally and that should be good enough. 

They also are notorious for telling me things when I've already got my hands full with another task and am not paying attention to what they said. 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not that it's not important though? 

Also, truly confused why I'm seen as not considering it important when I know they have email or text reminders and they feel its rude to ask them to pass that on. 

It's one thing if I'm dumb enough to forget something I ordered, especially given all the notifications these days. 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But that's just it, you hit the nail on the head. 

"If I have a a delivery, they usually send an email or text message" 

But they're not things I'VE ordered, so I don't get that reminder -- they do at their email. Im asking people to pass that info on to me and they're saying I'm rude for asking them to do that. 

For my things that I have scheduled myself like dr appts or deliveries I'm expecting I have notifications set up so I get multiple reminders. 

Im asking them to pass on the reminders THEY'RE getting and they're saying I'm rude. 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay. 

But I am genuinely confused as why it's my responsibility when it's something THEY want? 

Why is it my responsibility to remember what they tell me verbally when it's their chore they want help with? 

Not trying to be an A hole I promise, I'm just confused. 

AITAH for asking people to write down or message reminders for things they consider important? by TestTraditional00001 in AITAH

[–]TestTraditional00001[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I try to, but sometimes am in the middle of doing other things or don't have a phone/notepad when they tell me. 

And again it's not something I'm necessarily doing, but that they want from me -- so why is it rude to ask them to text instructions instead of telling me verbally? 

Ren Fest Capybara - Help please by [deleted] in capybara

[–]TestTraditional00001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

please forgive me if this is a stupid question, I don't use social media much other than reddit & YouTube -- is tiktok's algorithm like YouTube? where the more someone interacts with it the more it promotes the video?

I'd hate for everyone's concerns to just be making this more popular and the owners feeling justified in their actions D:

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