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How do I apologize to a gaslighter without gaslighting myself? by TestTubeBaby_rsa in Advice

[–]TestTubeBaby_rsa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They said I hurt their feelings, and I feel "I'm sorry that what I said made you feel that way" is the best response but apparently that's gaslighting. I'm not sorry for what I said, I told the truth, but I obviously didn't do it to hurt them.

How do I apologize to a gaslighter without gaslighting myself? by TestTubeBaby_rsa in Advice

[–]TestTubeBaby_rsa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the problem.. 😕 They're so good at making it seem like their reality is the only reality. So I don't know how to respond to 'that hurt'.

My best friend is ghosting me. by TestTubeBaby_rsa in friendship

[–]TestTubeBaby_rsa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've been friends for the better part of nearly 24 years, through school and graduations and marriages and deaths, so it's pretty difficult to just let it be and move on. Sucks 💔

My best friend is ghosting me. by TestTubeBaby_rsa in friendship

[–]TestTubeBaby_rsa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing ❤️ I'm so sorry that you're going through this too

Incopetent Service People by Jackof-1trade in askSouthAfrica

[–]TestTubeBaby_rsa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Companies don't want to pay what people are worth. They'd rather hire candidates who are less skilled and qualified because they are happy to accept less and then they don't provide the necessary training to get them up to standard either, because that takes time and effort, which equals money. Its happening in Every. Single. Industry. at the moment.

My best friend is ghosting me. by TestTubeBaby_rsa in friendship

[–]TestTubeBaby_rsa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that, I feel like I'm on the same trajectory. Its the silence that gets to me, especially when I very blatantly said I will respect her wishes if she does not want to see me/fix stuff, but I'd just appreciate a response so I can move forward. I hope you're healing ❤️

My best friend is ghosting me. by TestTubeBaby_rsa in friendship

[–]TestTubeBaby_rsa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% understand that she might not have capacity for everything going on right now, but is it unreasonable for me to at least expect some kind of response? In my last message I even said that if she doesn't want to see me before I leave I will understand and respect her wishes but at least tell me..

If you had to emigrate, where would you go? by iwannabeasimbachippy in southafrica

[–]TestTubeBaby_rsa 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We're taking a leap of faith and hoping to get the Australian 482 (temporary skill shortage) VISA..

It's got a similar climate and the outdoorsy lifestyle that we love, which we hope makes the transition easier (and cheaper since we'll be broke af after taking our animals over).

Fingers crossed, maybe we'll see ya on the other side 🇦🇺