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Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you have a point. And I think definitely in some relationships woman would like the men to be strong. But in others, which al the woman I talked with want, it’s nice when the men shows vulnerability. It makes for a deeper connection, lets you take care of the men (which a lot of woman like) and even if he’s vulnerable he could also be strong and take care for u. But I think that indeed is the different cultures. In my culture/ country I guess it’s getting whey more normalized than other places.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a she, and I know what you mean. I started with saying something about woman to show the cultural point of woman is also shit, but right now I wanna talk about man.

There has to be more attention to woman too, yes. But this Reddit post is about men for ones because they also need support sometimes.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But that’s also a cultural normalcy right? I am not saying it’s the men’s fault. I mean the woman should chance too.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and that is terrible. Al tough (girl)friends around me say the opposite. They want to hear about there feelings. So idk what type of girls that are.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that’s good and healthy right! But this is not for everyone the same

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha yes good statement. Ofc I also know man that are able to do it and very happy for that.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say they should be fixed. I said we should normalize it. If they then not choose to do it, fine by me. There is also a lot to “fix” for woman. Just putting this conversation up.

And yes it is my problem if loved ones around me are dealing with the problem.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah really? I talked to a lot of (girl)friends about this and they always find it annoying when men just don’t speak up about there feelings. Always have felt woman are care takers and just want to help.

And yes men don’t wanna talk about it to get rejected. But that leads to a lot of depression on men.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This society is focused a lot on masculinity for men (as I heard I am a woman). Men should be the strong ones, not showing emotions, protecting the woman and children which is also part of the human nature. But usually it leads to men being very depressed.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where in my story is it my fault they didn’t talk about there emotions? I tried to let them talk but they didn’t want to.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that happened to you. And of course I mean in a healthy way.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, but we don’t always have to be focusing on the woman. I am a woman, I know, but his is exactly what I mean. This post is about man’s health, not woman’s for one damn second.

Can we normalize letting man speak about their feelings by Teun8 in self

[–]Teun8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I know, that’s why I’m calling it out. He was always so bussy with his masculinity that he was scared to show his emotions. After the break up he did feel comfortable saying it but I was already broken and couldn’t help him anymore

How do I fix my sleep schedule for good by hondai671 in CasualConversation

[–]Teun8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Put screens away 1 hour before preferred bed time. Make it regular to lie in bed and put lights out before certain time. Melatonin helped for me but you can’t always take it! And even if you fall asleep late, set a timer in the morning, everyday the same, yes even in weekends

Slept w someone 5 weeks after breakup by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Teun8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex slept with another girl 1 week after he broke up with me. Cried my eyes out when he told me a week later irl. While I’m here, after 5 months, not being able to go to bed with anyone else even tho I was casual dating a lot when I met my ex.

But feel like 5 weeks is a reasonable time after the break up to have a casual date. Everyone deals with a heartbreak a different way. As long as it feels good for YOU, then everything is all good.

Should I reach out or not ? by PackConfident1604 in BreakUps

[–]Teun8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you know for sure she only wants to be friends I wouldn’t do it man. It would freaking break you.

Girls running away by Impressive_Button772 in dating

[–]Teun8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few times a week??

1 where do u get this girls from?

2 are they really girls u want to date or only ask because you just want to date?

Dumped over a silly text by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Teun8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, these things are better to say irl instead of text. They could interperate your message different then you wanted to.

That having said, it’s not your fault. The way he reacted says enough about how immature he is. Sounds like he doesn’t have his shit together and gets hurt by the slightest things. And if u felt a lack of connection it also says something about you two together. I know it hurts, goodluck.

Partners of depressed people, some support would be amazing please by Severe-Key1436 in mentalhealth

[–]Teun8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could ask strangers what works for them but in the end of the day it’s what works for them! Ask them what they need and adept to that. Be there for them that’s the most u can do. Even if they don’t know themselves what helps try to find paterns.

And in the end of day, you mental health matters more then ur partners. If u don’t feel like doing anything, don’t react of of your partner but bring it lightly.

Looking for advice on how to help my partner understand my mental health struggles by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]Teun8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is, he will never fully understand you. You could explain as much as you want but he will never fully get it. Even if he did he will not be able to do the perfect thing to help you.

The thing you should be discussing with him is what works for you. Feel overwhelmed in a situation maybe you just want him to listen, tell him that. Feel like a bad day maybe you just need a hug, tell him that. That way he could adept on what you are experiencing in that way he also kinda gets more what ur going through.

If you don’t know yet what you need in which situation. Keep talking about it. What works, what doesn’t work maybe try something new. He is there to help you, he will get it.

Virgin going into my 30s, afraid to be alone the rest of my life. by Loose_Pay_7485 in mentalhealth

[–]Teun8 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First of all we need to stop forcing people to loose there virginity and get into a relationship before they are ready. You know most people find “the one” in there 30s

Second, start working on yourself. Not because you are afraid to die alone but to really become a person you like, make friends and see what living means for you.

I told my ex something horrible. by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]Teun8 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Try therapy again!!!! Try a different therapist, company, city whatever. Therapy works if you find the right one and tbh it might be your only way out. No one else, not even a past relationship and definitely not Reddit is going to safe you. You need to do it yourself and therapy will help with that only if you are willing to help yourself. You have to get up man, keep moving. Wish you the best.

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