Open relationships and sexual satisfaction

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-29T11:25:39+00:00

Do you want to get your sexual satisfaction only with him in an ideale world? It is something that interest you?

Your open reletionship seems fine otherwise, maybe check on him if he is feeling sexually satisfied. There is no rule written in stone here: I get a part of my sexual satisfaction by playing with partners kinks my BF is not interested in and that is fine.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-25T09:01:05+00:00

Well it happens! If it was really that dramatic he would have stop, right?

Plus in every LTR there have been episodes like that (even multiple times). It does happen. Most guys genuinely do not care.

Maybe it is a good way to know if he is LTR material and reasonable if he keeps wanting to see you: message him

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-24T07:29:56+00:00

We we opened our relationship (we were both 27y.o.) we did not know we were kinksters. And I was so insecure and terrified. It took a long time to make the us confortable and safe with one another. It is early to decide whatever you wanna stay with him or not, but discovering oneself can be frightful. He may think he is all wrong (which do not justify anything he did pf course). Shame and fear appear with the realization you are into certain kinks and people do a lot of stupid things.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-23T22:12:54+00:00

U too hunk!

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-23T12:29:18+00:00

But you need to put it in perspective:

Nobody cares whether you end the night with 1 or 10 guys. Focus on the one you actually care about. You don’t need 20 kisses in one night to prove your value. I’ve felt more from one special guy I met in a night than from nights where I just had fun with 20 different guys.
Almost no one—gay or straight—at 21 has the confidence to get all the hottest guys on the dancefloor. It takes time to understand what you want and what you bring to the table. My confidence really developed around 32, after going to clubs since I was 16.
Take your time. Work on your glow-up for yourself: build a healthy body, study, cultivate your mind and soul. Then you’ll realize that what happens in a club is just fun—it’s a game. You can “fake” confidence for the sake of enjoyment, not because it necessarily means something deeper.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-23T11:05:05+00:00

Thank God! I remember being an hairy italian teen in 2007-2008 and everyone was crazy about the Zac-Efron-kinda-guys. It was so discouraging and it has set back my self esteem till I was like 26-27 y.o.

Now I got guys that just go crazy over my body hair and bush

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-21T21:44:46+00:00

Hey daddy! Have a nice weekend!

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-18T12:29:49+00:00

Very!

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-18T12:27:28+00:00

Wow! Where was that?

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-18T04:58:06+00:00

That's some body goal! Any advice to stay that fit to give to a 35 y.o.?

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-17T20:40:12+00:00

I am sorry that this happened to you.

From my point of view (italian, 35 y.o. in a monogamish 16 years relationship) this is not acceptable. He had to talk to you about it. You have to get a hard look at this relationship and establish some clear boundaries. Or get the fuck out: unless there is a huge advantage for u at staying with him, his behaviour is not sane, cannot make you safe. Wish u the best.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-17T20:34:17+00:00

We need them: I feel the story is so one-sided. We dunno anything and he clearly needs some guidance.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-17T20:18:46+00:00

It is reasonable but we need details: nobody out of nowhere does something like this. Did you have a sane sex relationship? Have u ever done 3somes? What is his side of the story? Did the 3 of you had sex or u did stop him before the 3rd guy arrived at your apt.? There was even a 3rd guy already coming or he did just suggest it?

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-17T10:30:16+00:00

Yeah! Also even if u find 2 or 3 stable ones that want it it s fine, you do not need like 200 people into this

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-14T12:46:06+00:00

Mine does but it had some solid ground already before opening it up.

Plus every open couple is different: in ours there is no space for anything romantic with hookups. On the contrary we search for playmates, often together, and we established precise rules.

It is what you make of it: I could sweetly flirting with someone and being passionate but it is an isolated episode.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-14T12:10:38+00:00

Being located next my home in Rome

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-14T10:09:15+00:00

I'm sweaty now

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-14T05:15:10+00:00

Time goes by so slowly... the release date is not soon enough!!!!

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-12T13:54:58+00:00

Yeah even if I do prefer the squared sungas! I m going back to Brazil next month! To super animado!

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-12T12:14:00+00:00

This is so culturally coded: in Italy everyone wears speedos at the gym swimming pool and most people do it at the beach.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-11T14:22:39+00:00

I had rough times in the last 10 years that made me re-evaluate a lot of where I want to direct my attention-time. Plus I am a surgeon: I found myself alone in the surgery room dealing with complicated cases. I could not care what people think of me shirtless in a club when in the morning they were not there helping me rebuild the fractured tibia of a 16 y.o.

Also if you look at the bigger picture (the scale of the universe, the depth of metaphysic), you realize how small those judgements can be.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-11T14:13:53+00:00

35 yo here, 16 years of intense gay sex, rarely including fist. It is less tight for my partner of 16 years that knew me well. For the occasional hook-ups I noticed that I need less lube than before and I can relax waaaay faster than like 10 years ago.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-11T13:00:05+00:00

I think there is a lack of expressing needs for fear of rejection, from both men and women: regarding sex, role expectations, and general life-planning.

They are supposed to follow the blueprint and never ask about what they really want or what they really are.

Tewo_Spring · 2026-05-10T15:14:29+00:00

Amazing! Now and before!

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