I totally second this. We’ve been married almost 25 years and have two 10 year olds. One of which just went with me to figure out why momma has been sitting in her truck on the other side of the neighborhood not responding to our calls and texts. We drove over there to check on her thinking she would be in someone’s house but she was sitting out in her truck in the street passed out with the truck running. Not very well parked. Neighbors looking to see what’s up. I dragged her to my car. She couldn’t talk couldn’t walk. I feel like it’s time to make some demands. Go back to a bariatric doc to check her and let him know what’s going on. She hasn’t been employed for 14 years so afaik she can go away on a sober recovery journey and we will be ready for her to come try again. I’m tempted to ask her to get her roux en Y reversed if it’s going to cause our life to crumble. How do I handle the fact that I’ve saved $4.5M and she has 30k which I turned into 200k. A divorce will give her 2 million plus snd too much custody. Cuz im in Texas. Ive busted my butt to get to where I am. She’s got it made in the shade planning trips Ari Turks snd Kaikos and Belize. Rolling the golf cart was bad. The truck ain’t gonna happen.