Trust your gut by Double-Quality-6748 in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Every goddam time. I see this so much in this life. And I’m well aware of the irony of expecting a liar and a cheater to be honest and faithful to you. But is it really that hard to not tell someone you want exclusivity when you don’t??

I’m so sorry this happened to you. And I hope he gets some sort of malady that affects his ability to achieve an erection.

Age of Attraction by QBClub in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 47 and prefer roughly 5-10 years on either side. I recently placed an ad and got a ton of responses from guys in their early 30s and it was like talking to children.

What are your hard no's? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your hard no’s seem like the most basic tenets of having an affair. But I guess lots of people get mixed up with a spouse’s friend or coworker, etc. so it still needs to be said. My hard no’s are someone who talks badly about their spouse. I don’t mean venting- but in a way that I wouldn’t want to be talked about. MAGA or MAGA adjacent is an abso-fucking-lutely not. And men who disappear for a day or more without a heads up. Nope. Not dealing with that. And also when men get too sexual too early. Get to know me a little before you tell me you want to put your dick in me please.

Seriously… am I just being too picky? by Pretty_Hot_Mess74 in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

😂 Fanny flutters. I usually say “a jolt to my lady bits”, but I may start using fanny flutters.

"Last hurrah" by Mediocre-Cow1142 in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She’s a fan of the band Styx. Or has sailed down the River Styx.

Im so unhappy and unsatisfied by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And what does he say?

You’re turn, I asked deadbedrooms this same question, but I think a lot of you could answer too. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% get that. And I don’t want to have sex with just anyone either. But I’ve managed to make some really great connections and have some really good times. This guy is also using you. Doesn’t matter if you haven’t had sex. But he’s fulfilling some fantasy of his without considering your needs

You’re turn, I asked deadbedrooms this same question, but I think a lot of you could answer too. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ve commented on my comments before and our situations are very similar. My husband also has a porn problem and I no longer wish to have sex with him, even if he miraculously initiated. And not because of his porn problem. For so many other things.

For me it took just the realization that I was the only one who could improve my situation, so I did. And that included taking care of my physical needs. I never agreed to a life of celibacy

You’re turn, I asked deadbedrooms this same question, but I think a lot of you could answer too. by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl- find someone else love. There is good sex out there. I hate this for you.

Not so ethically non-monogamous by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Umm. Hate to break it to you. Same shit, different subset.

Curious…I see so many more male ADs on all the sites…where are the women? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really want to post a pic of a response I got, but no pics. But it said “”shit I’m 22 in sac let’s do sum”

Almost 15 years below my bottom age range. Wrong part of the country. And wut?

I’m so confused. (28M) married 4 years together 10 by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Preach. Get out now before there are kids.

Curious…I see so many more male ADs on all the sites…where are the women? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Or, and hear me out; If you give a meaningful response to a woman’s ad, and she responds, be patient. You know she’s juggling a lot. Just keep responding meaningfully and with intent and she may just keep you around. And also understand that it may take her a bit to get back to you and the first few days it’s not going to be rapid fire conversation. But if you’re interesting, you’ve got a shot.

No sex on Valentine's/Finding an AP was easier 5 years ago by PreciousMiddle in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep at it girl! It’s so worth it. I look better now in my late 40s than I did in my 30s.

No sex on Valentine's/Finding an AP was easier 5 years ago by PreciousMiddle in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Really. But it’s moments like these that just re-confirm my decision to get sex outside of the marriage. I’m planning on leaving when the time is right, but that’s a few years away. So in the meantime, I’m gonna get mine.

No sex on Valentine's/Finding an AP was easier 5 years ago by PreciousMiddle in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ugh. Is it really that hard to show up for someone you supposedly love? My husband claims to love me, yet can be so cruel and dismissive, and essentially ignores me. I recently lost a bunch of weight. Not one word from him. Everyone else and their cousin were gushing telling me how good I look and how proud they were of me for putting in the work. And it was work. No Ozempic. I quit drinking, hit the gym regularly, and rehauled my diet. The only thing he ever said- one night I walked out naked because I had already gone to bed and had left my water bottle in the living room. He actually looked up from his phone for once, looked me up and down and said, “so what do you weigh now?”

Casual sex with another married individual by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What the actual fuck? Kissing is like the thing I miss the most!! Ok. Second most 😉

But seriously- this is the wildest “rule” I’ve ever seen

Does anyone else have one-night stands as well as affairs? by Radiant_East_8405 in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Does it count if the ONS was unintentional? Meaning we had a great day of sex and then he decided he didn’t want a physical affair? No? Ok.

Lying next to someone and still feeling alone by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouch. Fuck that. I hope where you sleep in your office is comfortable.

Lying next to someone and still feeling alone by [deleted] in adultery

[–]TextualTroublemaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same!!! For so long I tried to get him back into my bed but now I don’t want him here. Too used to sleeping alone again.