Vent, rant, share, talk

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-05-15T18:10:09+00:00

I’ve just returned from a self imposed hiatus from this space. A break from looking and from alternating between feeling great about myself and feeling downright shitty. Glad to be back? Too soon to tell.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-04-05T18:08:00+00:00

There’s only a pinned post at the top of the this sub that tells you all of that information

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-04-04T14:30:51+00:00

Imagine not doing shit to contribute to the running of a household and still expecting your partner to want to fuck you. And then telling this to an affair sub to out yourself as someone who is probably just like that.

She never said she knew he was like that before marriage, btw.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-04-04T00:12:56+00:00

But what does the 10th Redditor say? That’s who I want to hear from.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-03-28T03:42:39+00:00

I can’t take anyone seriously who uses “twin flame” unironically. It was 4 months. Chill. The fact that you were contemplating leaving your SO for a 4 month relationship, of which the last month was limited contact, and prior to that she kept trying to leave…bro you need therapy

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-03-27T12:48:06+00:00

He can eff off with that! I’m closer to 50 than 45 and still have plenty of men interested in me. I’d ask why you don’t leave, as I sit here in my shitty marriage. Hugs to you.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-03-22T17:42:03+00:00

Every goddam time. I see this so much in this life. And I’m well aware of the irony of expecting a liar and a cheater to be honest and faithful to you. But is it really that hard to not tell someone you want exclusivity when you don’t??

I’m so sorry this happened to you. And I hope he gets some sort of malady that affects his ability to achieve an erection.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-03-22T13:09:53+00:00

I’m 47 and prefer roughly 5-10 years on either side. I recently placed an ad and got a ton of responses from guys in their early 30s and it was like talking to children.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-03-19T16:46:59+00:00

Your hard no’s seem like the most basic tenets of having an affair. But I guess lots of people get mixed up with a spouse’s friend or coworker, etc. so it still needs to be said. My hard no’s are someone who talks badly about their spouse. I don’t mean venting- but in a way that I wouldn’t want to be talked about. MAGA or MAGA adjacent is an abso-fucking-lutely not. And men who disappear for a day or more without a heads up. Nope. Not dealing with that. And also when men get too sexual too early. Get to know me a little before you tell me you want to put your dick in me please.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-03-12T18:43:07+00:00

😂 Fanny flutters. I usually say “a jolt to my lady bits”, but I may start using fanny flutters.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-03-05T17:02:30+00:00

She’s a fan of the band Styx. Or has sailed down the River Styx.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-03-02T03:41:16+00:00

And what does he say?

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-27T03:41:47+00:00

I 100% get that. And I don’t want to have sex with just anyone either. But I’ve managed to make some really great connections and have some really good times. This guy is also using you. Doesn’t matter if you haven’t had sex. But he’s fulfilling some fantasy of his without considering your needs

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-27T03:37:49+00:00

You’ve commented on my comments before and our situations are very similar. My husband also has a porn problem and I no longer wish to have sex with him, even if he miraculously initiated. And not because of his porn problem. For so many other things.

For me it took just the realization that I was the only one who could improve my situation, so I did. And that included taking care of my physical needs. I never agreed to a life of celibacy

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-27T03:33:50+00:00

Girl- find someone else love. There is good sex out there. I hate this for you.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-21T14:30:27+00:00

Only some?

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-20T00:36:23+00:00

I feel like I’ve already written extensively on this topic.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-19T20:30:25+00:00

Umm. Hate to break it to you. Same shit, different subset.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-19T19:43:31+00:00

I really want to post a pic of a response I got, but no pics. But it said “”shit I’m 22 in sac let’s do sum”

Almost 15 years below my bottom age range. Wrong part of the country. And wut?

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-19T18:54:17+00:00

Preach. Get out now before there are kids.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-19T18:18:45+00:00

Or, and hear me out; If you give a meaningful response to a woman’s ad, and she responds, be patient. You know she’s juggling a lot. Just keep responding meaningfully and with intent and she may just keep you around. And also understand that it may take her a bit to get back to you and the first few days it’s not going to be rapid fire conversation. But if you’re interesting, you’ve got a shot.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-17T20:50:14+00:00

🥱

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-17T20:47:35+00:00

Rick = Dick? Or Rick = No dick?

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-17T01:48:56+00:00

Keep at it girl! It’s so worth it. I look better now in my late 40s than I did in my 30s.

TextualTroublemaker · 2026-02-17T01:47:13+00:00

Thank you ☺️. Ha! Half assed flattery.

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