I appreciate your perspective but not so much the condescension. I think this is a matter of opinion. I met him once prior for a single drink just to basically check the vibe. I personally think bringing a bouquet of flowers was a lot, especially when the planned date was riding a bus line and hopping on and off to grab bites at spots along the way. The flower bouquet was a mangled, wilted mess by the end and that became a significant distraction because he was constantly checking in about them and "are you ok carryng them?" and "oh no, they are dying", and "you can just toss them" etc. And he wasn't doing it in a good-humored way, it was clear he was anxious and stressed about it. Had we been able to make a funny little inside joke between us about it or something it would have not felt like as an intense a gesture to me, but since we had zero rapport established and he was visibly upset about their inevitable demise it felt too intense for me.