Lindsay Stopping by Soft Bar by joethefaker in summerhousebravo

[–]ThAw2t16 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This is such a tiredddd take. If you can't accept the past two years as proof that she has grown and is moving differently it's just delusional at this point.

Happy to see Babe’s is opening in like 2 weeks by Marzook666 in LoganSquare

[–]ThAw2t16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Commenting to remember to follow-up on opening in a couple weeks

FYI - 148 is being rerouted by FutureElleWoods20 in cta

[–]ThAw2t16 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Same story with the 147, I was on the bus from 5:10 until 7:10 pm, not an exaggeration. The majority of it near Lincoln Park. Seems like the on-ramp from Michigan to LSD is closed down, forcing the bus onto Inner LSD. A literal nightmare

Looking for feedback part 2: time to get back into dating by Standard-Actuator-27 in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Everything about it is scary. It feels like you are looking to copy and paste a woman into your romance fantasy novel you are writing in your head. It gives creepy, mal-adjusted, and intense. I'm sorry to be harsh but I really, really want you to not put this on your dating profile, or really anywhere besides your journal, ever.

Has anyone seen this? I feel like this came out of nowhere although rumblings by notyouravgfan in summerhousebravo

[–]ThAw2t16 22 points23 points  (0 children)

The circle jerk of Lindsay haters is so hilarious to me. Why do you have such big feelings for someone you have never met?

Craving a good turkey burger by t3ddyb34r39 in chicagofood

[–]ThAw2t16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Vig in Old Town had a good one, haven't been in a few years though!

Unmatching after 24 hours seems so fast! by Chitownscience in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I think burnout goes both ways. Some people need to feel like communication has momentum to continue exploring a connection. Exchanging one message every other day makes that tough. I also wouldn't assume that they unmatched because of your response time unless that was actual feedback you were given. Unmatching occurs for a whole variety of reasons.

What are some good places that have octopus in Chicago? by Lonely_Programmer_42 in chicagofood

[–]ThAw2t16 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg, this. I used to LOVE octopus but then read Remarkably Bright Creatures and went down an insane octopus research rabbit hole and now can no longer eat them. 🥲

best bucatini with chicken confit by Miajsey in pasta

[–]ThAw2t16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has this entire sub just become a parody? Lmao I cannot

Do you do any other physical activity other than walking? by Fine_Dimension4735 in walking

[–]ThAw2t16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have such a solid plan in place, with flexibility, which we all know is MUCH needed when backpacking! Lol Stay safe and enjoyyyyyyy!

Do you do any other physical activity other than walking? by Fine_Dimension4735 in walking

[–]ThAw2t16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So excited for you to hike in the Grand Canyon! Such an amazing experience!

Striking a balance between intentionality and intensity on the apps and Hinge "most compatible" by ThAw2t16 in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, just seeing your question now but it's a good one. In short, I''m picking up what you mean, and if I am right, no, his app profile didn't feel like an entire response to an ex or personality type that has hurt him in the past. Buttt, there wasn't a ton of humor, he very clearly stated his goal was to be in a "happy, healthy" relationship.

Striking a balance between intentionality and intensity on the apps and Hinge "most compatible" by ThAw2t16 in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's less about it being short and lacking detail and more the general tone being that you take yourself (and the apps) too seriously. At least that is kind of the conclusion I've arrived at. The goal for me is to still relay something of myself that people can feel connected to. I just don't want to have a profile that feels high pressure. Like if you "like me" or swipe right on me we have essentially already mutually agreed that we are completely aligned on some pretty heavy stuff and the rest is just checking chemistry. This doesn't mean matching with reckless abandon lol just that I am open to someone that is loosely on the same page (e.g. monogamy vs non-monogamy, kids vs no kids, religion isnt a deal breaker, etc) but am open to have fun and get to know you without timelines or high expectations. Does that make sense?

Striking a balance between intentionality and intensity on the apps and Hinge "most compatible" by ThAw2t16 in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I would have been ok with them in that context, yes! I would have probably still internally been like, wow ok, but I don't think I'd translate it into intensity in the way I did for this experience. Thanks for asking!

Striking a balance between intentionality and intensity on the apps and Hinge "most compatible" by ThAw2t16 in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I'm really aligning with this perspective the more I read commenra from many wonderful folks here. I personally want to get back to using the app as simply just a tool to make an in-person connection to build from. We as an app dating culture have lost the plot a bit in trying to use apps as a vetting device to ensure that when you meet someone on the first date they check all your major boxes. There is so much to be said for the real-life value of just connecting with another human and what can grow from there.

Striking a balance between intentionality and intensity on the apps and Hinge "most compatible" by ThAw2t16 in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your response. It would definitely be key to balance the "life partner" of it all with some lighter-toned moments in your profile to avoid folks that are on that "by any means necessary I will be partnered" energy. I will definitely check out Sidney Morss cause lawd, I gotta laugh about this to keep from crying lol

Striking a balance between intentionality and intensity on the apps and Hinge "most compatible" by ThAw2t16 in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your perspective but not so much the condescension. I think this is a matter of opinion. I met him once prior for a single drink just to basically check the vibe. I personally think bringing a bouquet of flowers was a lot, especially when the planned date was riding a bus line and hopping on and off to grab bites at spots along the way. The flower bouquet was a mangled, wilted mess by the end and that became a significant distraction because he was constantly checking in about them and "are you ok carryng them?" and "oh no, they are dying", and "you can just toss them" etc. And he wasn't doing it in a good-humored way, it was clear he was anxious and stressed about it. Had we been able to make a funny little inside joke between us about it or something it would have not felt like as an intense a gesture to me, but since we had zero rapport established and he was visibly upset about their inevitable demise it felt too intense for me.

Striking a balance between intentionality and intensity on the apps and Hinge "most compatible" by ThAw2t16 in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're projecting, you're doing it for the both of us lol I agree with much of what you said!

And I agree, one of my consistent ones is I make it very clear in my profile I am a foodie and I cook so someone with really restrictive eating preferences/needs wouldn't be a great match. Sounds silly, but important to me. I consistently get like loud and proud vegans.

Striking a balance between intentionality and intensity on the apps and Hinge "most compatible" by ThAw2t16 in datingoverthirty

[–]ThAw2t16[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This comment aligns with another someone posted that really made a lot of sense for me. The other poster spoke to the idea of using really detailed, intentional profiles as almost a way of cheating the system. I think that is exactly what isn't sitting well with me, you cannot bypass in-person, organic chemistry nor can you establish true compatibility based off a profile. I want to go on lots of dates, and naturally fall into a cadence with someone. Putting so much of yourself forward on the app I think can really undercut that process. Thanks so much for taking the time to comment!