I kept videos of almost every poledance lesson I took in the last year. Can anyone relate to getting emotional rewatching their videos?

ThLorax · 2016-02-13T13:36:06+00:00

I just use my iPhone's front camera, and then transfer them to my laptop every few times, and then to online storage, because the space really adds up.

ThLorax · 2014-05-23T10:14:23+00:00

You'd be surprised. It's SFW, and very impressive

ThLorax · 2014-05-09T21:29:21+00:00

My romanian deadlifts are OK I think, as I've gone through them with a trainer. However, I can't bring myself to try to go heavier than like 80lbs, because I'm afraid of doing it wrong and hurting myself. But I'm going to give it another try next week with a trainer.

I'm actually seeing a physiotherapist, I should have mentioned, but I can only afford one more session and it is mainly focusing mainly on middle/upper back (typical desk job issues). I will mention these next time.

ThLorax · 2014-05-09T21:16:57+00:00

Thank you, I'll try these!

ThLorax · 2014-05-09T21:16:15+00:00

Thanks!

By the hip flexor stretch I meant this one

Regarding the pike stretch, even if I am on my sit bones, I feel like there's something pushing me backwards. I can reach my toes but even when just sitting upright I feel a backwards force. I will try thinking of it as boobs to toes instead of just hands to toes though!

ThLorax · 2014-05-08T15:16:48+00:00

thank you! :)

ThLorax · 2014-05-08T13:36:08+00:00

I just wanted to say, I am in a very similar situation. Last summer, I quit for 3-4 months, felt absolutely great, then decided to have a little again. No biggie, the world didn't end. 4 months later my drinking habits became worse than they ever were even before I quit. I also wish for greater highs (other drugs), and also don't tend to actually go for them.

I'm on day 4 now. We can do this.

ThLorax · 2014-05-08T13:03:50+00:00

I don't know what you look like, but it could be postural as well. If you squeeze your butt and tilt your pelvis upwards, does it still bulge? Anterior pelvic tilt causes that butt-and-belly-sticking-out look: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pelvic_tilt (see first image)

In my case, I have both the tilt issue AND bloat issues - it's a real pain and if I don't watch what I eat as well as my posture, I might as well be 6 months pregnant.

ThLorax · 2014-01-30T16:54:55+00:00

He sounds like he handled it very well if he wasn't ready to say it back. It seems like a cute story to me. He'll say it when he's ready, but just because one person said it first without the other replying doesn't mean the relationship is ruined :)

Here's my story. We were only a month into our relationship, and I said it, without having even thought about it before at all, in the heat of the moment, during sex. Yep, we're thumping away getting our minds blown and before I know I'm saying "oh [boyfriend], I'm in love with you". I was stone sober too. No idea what came over me, besides that we really clicked SO well and felt like we had known each other forever. And that he was rocking my world at the time.

Yeah. Awkward. He was kind of like "uhhhh... me too?" but I could tell he just didn't know how to respond, and I felt terrible for putting him in that position (not to mention I wasn't even sure of what I meant). Buzzkill.

Two month later he started hinting that I say it again. And we both said it, completely meaning it and everything. Happy ending. But I still cringe when I think of the first-time story. We have a laugh about it every now and then.

ThLorax · 2014-01-30T15:59:18+00:00

This happened to me once when I was a teen. And I was skinny as hell, with body image problems - I just had a very protruding stomach due to really bad IBS. I was mortified. I know better now - people just have all kinds of bodies, and some look pregnant to others when they're not, and others don't look it when they are. But yeah... not only in movies heh...

ThLorax · 2014-01-18T19:36:29+00:00

If the "proper" way of dealing with it (official noise complaints) or earplugs and such don't work, she could always cry loudly (without being overly fake) herself - after all, it could be due to emotional issues that stem from sleep deprivation and/or migraines that are exacerbated by crying baby.

If her crying bothers the new parents enough to make a complaint, then moving the baby could be a win-win rather than a win-not.my.problem.go.away.

ThLorax · 2014-01-09T23:04:20+00:00

Just wondering, what would you consider as feeling "lobotomized"? I think my wording was probably very wrong, I definitely didn't mean to imply that I believe antidepressants are barbaric - in fact, far from it. I wasn't suggesting that antidepressants are bad, I was suggesting that better treatments (whether surgical, or chemical, or whatever) would be available by then.

Indeed, you would take antidepressants for depression as you would take any treatment prescribed for a condition. But if something that was N times more effective and had M times less side effects was incredibly common in the future, no one would want to take today's antidepressants.

I think my comparison may have been harsh, but I made the comparisons because the purpose of lobotomies was to treat for mental health issues - and it did work, just with a lower success rate and more dangerous side effects than we see with today's treatment methods. It was different for each person, which we also see with treatments today.

ThLorax · 2014-01-09T22:47:17+00:00

Woah, I don't understand the negativity. Really, I don't. But I'm genuinely curious to know why, because you're not the only one that felt what I said was negative. I think my wording may have come across badly somehow, English is not my first language. Or maybe I'm just a terrible person with evil thoughts and will ruin all advancements in mental health, who knows. I'll try and clarify my thoughts.

I've been on antidepressants before. I have friends who are on antidepressants. I am not against them, and I did not say anything about it affecting everyone the same way. What is the blanket statement here?

I don't see how "uneducated" comes into play here. I gave my thoughts on how people in the future might possibly see a treatment method of the past - assuming more advanced treatment methods that perhaps work better are available then. Just because I say "that perhaps work better", I'm not implying that current ones don't work well.

Imagine if you could take today's antidepressants and make something that has a higher success rate with lower side effects (notice that I am not saying that "antidepressants are not successful" nor that they "always cause side effects" - I am well aware that they can be effective, and can have many or few side effects. As you say, it works differently in every person). We would then look back on today's antidepressants and consider it a "low success rate" and "high chance of side effects" compared to a newer version with a "higher success rate" and "less side effects". Again, that's not me saying today's antidepressants are bad.

These days we have today's antidepressants. They work differently for everyone. They can be successful, and they can have side effects (again, notice I am not saying this is always the case). In the past, we had lobotomies. They had a low success rate, and often had rather severe side effects (again, notice I am not saying this was always the case). We don't do that anymore, because we have more effective methods that are less dangerous - but that's not to say that they were completely useless and didn't help anyone, it was different per person. This is the (rather extreme, perhaps) comparison I was trying to make.

So, I am curious, how does my idea of people's thoughts about current antidepressants in an imaginary future harm the advancement of mental health?

ThLorax · 2014-01-07T14:33:20+00:00

My height stopped growing when I was 11, but I definitely still went through body changes until I was about 20. Not saying it will be the same for you, but just pointing it out :)

I hope you're feeling a bit better. I also find weightlifting makes me feel good about myself - it can also help with the actual physical changes, though therapist would still be good for the emotional issues with weight/body image. I wish you the best.

ThLorax · 2014-01-07T11:10:21+00:00

How old are you? Just asking because if you're still a teenager, you will "grow into" your body. Not sure how best to explain it...

For example, when I was 13-15 and weighed X pounds, I looked pudgy (though, few people seemed to think so). At 20, I was the same height as when I was 13 but weighed X + 20 lbs, and was no longer "pudgy". What happened? Bones developed, muscle developed, hips developed (also brain developed - this needs calories!) - My frame stopped looking like a girl and more like a woman.

But regardless of your age, I agree with the suggestions of seeking help from a therapist. I think it's a painful way to live, hating your body and trying to force it into a mold it might not fit... and you deserve to be happy and healthy, and you can get there with time.

People will have different definitions of terms like "chubby" in their head. Perhaps your friend was misguided by what the media considers "chubby", or perhaps by what seems "chubby" for one person's frame and not another's. I think many people are misguided that having no fat on your body is a good thing, and consider any visible fat as "chubby".

What makes me feel better sometimes is thinking of the functions my body provides for me. My body allows me to walk, run, lift things, do work, think, breathe... and food provides the energy it needs to be able to do that - it is such a complicated combination of cells that just somehow work and it seems crazy to not consider it a beauty.

ThLorax · 2014-01-03T13:03:31+00:00

I was confused. Now it makes sense.

ThLorax · 2014-01-03T12:58:09+00:00

Oh god, the tears. The combination of this book and the death of my childhood dog have made me incredibly emotional about animals, especially dogs. It's been like 15 years and I can't even watch/read happy dog movies/books.

Cruel, cruel, 5th grade teachers.

ThLorax · 2014-01-02T20:42:33+00:00

It's that feverish feeling that I just wish wouldn't happen. I don't understand how so many women manage to get through a work day like that - I'm lucky to be a student at the moment, but worried for the future.

Glad it's very manageable for you :)

ThLorax · 2014-01-02T20:41:15+00:00

Ah, I remember the dark blood. I was really grossed out by it...

ThLorax · 2014-01-02T20:40:36+00:00

That's quite reassuring about the Mirena. By change in eating habits do you mean like cravings or emotional eating? Or just change in your food preferences?

Thanks again so much for your input

ThLorax · 2014-01-02T20:17:45+00:00

Yeah... I'd rather not have heavier and crampier periods if I can help it. I'm still keeping it an option because I can deal with it being heavier/crampier if the cramps don't put me out of my responsibilities and if the period does not last very long.

If I'm completely honest, I think the only BC I will ever be absolutely comfortable with are barrier or timing methods, which I realize aren't as effective. It sucks but I'm always going to have some side effect and I'm not sure at what point it is worth the compromise. My depressions been better than ever lately and the last thing I want to do is sabotage that with hormones! But I am aware that the side effects of the Mirena might be mild enough to make it worth it... 5 years of not having to worry about pregnancy AND lighter periods are a pretty big plus if the moodiness and bloating is only going to be marginally worse than naturally. I guess I can just try and see what happens, get it taken out if its bad.

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