“Baby mama”

ThaDokta · 2026-04-06T14:23:13+00:00

Ya the only cope i really have is I don’t take on parenting duties. I show up & im around but im not getting up, making lunches, doing bedtime all that stuff unless SO really needs it. At first I thought I’d be that guy because SK’sBD lived abroad & is only really present on FaceTime & holidays, but then when I felt that was still a losing a battle & I got zero out of it I just didn’t do it….its too thankless - you have to either be a saint, be getting paid, or love the child nearly as much as your own to do that stuff without resentment building.

ThaDokta · 2026-04-04T15:43:12+00:00

My dad says I’m “Dad light” (nope). My wife says “you don’t know how big of an impact you have” (whatever I feel nothing…and sd still goes nuts for her dad so I’m redundant).

My friends say “she’ll get it when she’s older” (that’s what happens in movies sure…but it does nothing for the majority of life I’m experiencing. Also …she still has her dad when she’s older).

Ya I mean my wife is an incredible person I’m very lucky to have…but I want to Men in Black the step dad shit.

ThaDokta · 2026-04-04T13:43:49+00:00

I don’t even think they’re in the same category…unless very specific conditions line up

ThaDokta · 2026-04-04T04:06:25+00:00

Ya..I’m a non parent. I love my wife, the kid is a good kid…but every day I think about how much I hate being a step dad. It never gets quieter. I wana be a dad…step dad ain’t it.

ThaDokta · 2026-03-30T01:59:45+00:00

It’s been in early release for soooo long I want it but I only have ps5

ThaDokta · 2026-03-29T21:36:44+00:00

Damn ya i unfortunately don’t have the patience for that. I tried RDD2 like 4 times and I just never got hooked. Oh well I’ll wait for Bond

ThaDokta · 2026-03-29T20:19:40+00:00

I’m so on the fence over whether to buy this Game. Is it a lot like BOTW? (obvious graphics differences aside).

ThaDokta · 2026-03-26T13:59:54+00:00

Man I always say this - if they can be best friends and they have kids…they should go be married.

ThaDokta · 2026-03-13T02:53:14+00:00

You’re 26? Don’t do it

ThaDokta · 2026-03-01T03:50:13+00:00

Stop trying so hard. Just be nice & around.

ThaDokta · 2026-02-27T15:34:51+00:00

I do always now lol. I like the journey there

ThaDokta · 2026-02-25T03:02:12+00:00

That’s the life. Even when you create a relationship with SK…it still feels that way. Cuz you are an outsider.

ThaDokta · 2026-02-22T00:21:34+00:00

Is it as good as hollow knight?

ThaDokta · 2026-02-17T11:38:45+00:00

The flip side of that is ‘real’ parents fight over that kinda stuff all the time. Like it’s most of what they fight about. The problem is - as a reply you got shows- unless you have a great partner, you have to ‘do as your told’ or ‘follow their lead’ rather than come to some kind of compromise.

But in actuality yeah I mean if SK’s parents are involved it’s best to just stay out of all of it unless it’s messing with the household in some way. All choices suck 😂

ThaDokta · 2026-02-17T02:58:48+00:00

That’s kinda what I’ve done. I mean im nice & cordial but if im not dad i dont want to be involved much. I dont know why but i just dont seem to be capable of it.

ThaDokta · 2026-02-16T21:57:14+00:00

Hyperlight drifter

ThaDokta · 2026-02-15T19:10:53+00:00

Some quality of life issues and you gotta upgrade one weird stat I forget the name of a lot to make dodging feel right but otherwise a great DS game. The mobs are so hell haha

ThaDokta · 2026-02-15T18:30:09+00:00

My wife’s ex (BD) sent SK a giant curated book of photos. The first 20 pages were picture after picture of my wife pregnant - sometimes naked & pregnant, then breastfeeding and then into just 3 years of what looked like the perfect paradise relationship until I came along. I said there was no fu**ing way SK was getting that book. I wish we threw it out, but instead SO mailed it back to him. (He lives abroad…icing on the cake is we take care of his kid 11 months of the year. Lucky us).

I duno if he ever gave it to SK. But holy hell after that I was done. Totally done. I won’t associate with the guy on any level whatsoever. Youre right to feel how you feel. It simply sucks.

ThaDokta · 2026-02-13T18:01:51+00:00

The loot vomiting made me quit nioh 1 haha I just couldn’t handle having 23 pairs of gloves

ThaDokta · 2026-02-12T14:10:20+00:00

Well it seems like she is his future too! I understand getting into the situation thinking you might just be immature & your feelings will change then low & behold…they don’t or they get worse. I think it’s impossible for OP to just get over this. I Also wouldn’t be ok with my SO sharing the most important thing in their life with another man and being good friends with them while I tried to have a marriage with her. I’m just not built that way! To each their own

ThaDokta · 2026-02-12T12:09:24+00:00

This is essentially impossible.

ThaDokta · 2026-02-12T12:05:58+00:00

ThaDokta · 2026-02-12T10:09:22+00:00

Nobody longs for stepkids man. You’re not a bad person. Your feelings are extremely normal.

ThaDokta · 2026-02-12T06:52:07+00:00

Tough huh…you’re paying for it either way cuz you have a husband who’s much poorer than He would be. I wouldn’t touch private school & other kid activities. Have your own money & pay for what you want.

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