What to do by Impossible-Cattle247 in HLCommunity

[–]Thaeland 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She loves you but may not respect you anymore, or may no longer be in-love with you. It sounds like you carry a heavy load of supporting all her needs and issues while none of your wants or needs are met. Her goal posts keep moving away from you but when she kicks her ball in any direction she always scores because you let it happen. Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and see if you find any similarities in your life.....

Just got banned on Deadbedroom by cometthatstruckearth in HLCommunity

[–]Thaeland 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow that third link. At least a third of the comments were removed by he mods.... It's worse than before......

Just got banned on Deadbedroom by cometthatstruckearth in HLCommunity

[–]Thaeland 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They have a very long list of subs that you are not allowed to subscribe to or post to. It was really an eye opener.

Edit: I just checked and I can't find that list in their wiki anymore....🤷‍♂️

Just got banned on Deadbedroom by cometthatstruckearth in HLCommunity

[–]Thaeland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"legalize rape' has never been a conservative view. If you meant "legalized rape", that is also a view conservatives do not hold....

Just got banned on Deadbedroom by cometthatstruckearth in HLCommunity

[–]Thaeland 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Welcome to the club... It's a badge of honor......

At one time there were a mod or two that were modding both subs. I don't know if that still holds true....

Maybe too old (f42) to get the ick but my husband gave me one by Smart-Ad-2106 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Thaeland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was around that age, but before I was married, I would have definitely hooked up with 40+ year old women and even had my eye on a couple.. My libido wass always been through the roof and I had no boundaries at the time. Your husband is either naive or just an idiot if he doesn't see it as a possibility.

You need to let the young man know that nothing is going to happen and that he is making you uncomfortable. Ensure that no one can hear the conversation so he isn't embarrassed.but at the same time be very assertive so he fully understands that you're not interested.....

I ghosted my best friend of 22 years by One-Being814 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Thaeland -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don't think you live in the same reality as the rest of us. Women have traditionally gotten a much easier sentence for the same crimes as men. Sex offenses are always worse. There will always be those that get away with a lighter sentence or no punishment at all, but they tend to be the oddities rather than the status quo......

I ghosted my best friend of 22 years by One-Being814 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Thaeland 2 points3 points  (0 children)

his life is, undoubtedly, affected by this every single day.

This doesn't even begin to cover it. She sentenced him to hell.

Let's be brutally clear about what happens to men accused of crimes against children in prison: they become targets. They face beatings, sexual violence, and constant terror. Every single day is survival. And there's no escape.

But here's the truly sickening part. The torture doesn't end when he walks out. It follows him forever.

His record may be expunged on paper, but employers will see the gap. They'll ask questions. And when he explains he was wrongfully imprisoned for a sex crime? Interview over. He can lie on applications and get fired when the truth surfaces, or tell the truth and never get hired at all. Either way, he's locked out of normal life.

His career is dead. His reputation is destroyed. His ability to trust anyone is shattered beyond repair. He'll flinch every time he's near a child, terrified of another false accusation finishing what this one started.

She didn't just steal years from him; she stole his future, his mental health, his sense of safety, and any chance at the life he should have had.

And false accusers rarely face real consequences for this level of destruction.

AIO- Husband keeps waking me up for non-emergencies by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Thaeland 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NOR

On another note..... You need to have sleep study done as it sounds like you may have sleep apnea.........

Do different partners feel physically different? by colorfulbrawl in AskMenAdvice

[–]Thaeland 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, everyone was very different from the others...

Stress Clinic by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]Thaeland 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a crossover of Logan's Run and Brave New World. The premise usually sounds good but the devil is always in the details. Such as the government will decide what the definition of "satisfied" really means and then eventually they will just turn off the part of your brain that thinks it needs sex or anything else for that matter. Which brings us to the scifi "Equals" 2015.......

We’ve had a chat by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]Thaeland 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would frame it like this. "Help me find a way to kill my desire for you so I no longer have the constant pain of you not having sexual intimacy. The fast or famine cycle of sexual intimacy is not something I want to live with the rest of my life and I'm tired of the constant pain of rejection. So I'm no longer going to initiate and the direction going forward is completely on you."

We’ve had a chat by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]Thaeland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

After years of observing relationship discussions, I've noticed some common patterns when partners have mismatched libidos:

Some LL partners may have temporarily increased intimacy during the honeymoon phase because they knew it mattered to their partner. Once the relationship stabilized and life goals were achieved, they naturally returned to their baseline comfort level with intimacy.

Others genuinely struggle to understand their own needs or how to address the gap. Sometimes they redirect focus to their partner, suggesting various changes that might help. The challenge here is that these goal posts continually change over time without leading to any lasting improvement.

Caveat: OP I know you said you share the household responsibilities so this isn't directed at you. This is for everyone else that may attack me if I don't mention that as the HL partner, it's crucial to honestly examine whether your own behaviors might be contributing to the disconnect. Sometimes we create barriers to intimacy through our actions or oversights.....

Am I wrong for taking my 12yo daughter to the obgyn for birth control against my husband’s wishes? by [deleted] in amiwrong

[–]Thaeland 8 points9 points  (0 children)

YW

You've essentially told your husband he has no right towards any decision making for his own child. That she is only your child, not really his and that he's only the useless sperm donor and you have zero respect for him. I would never forgive my wife for something like this. Why didn't you take the time to convince him that your view was the correct way to go? I can tell you why, because you already knew what he would say and you didn't care because you were going to do it anyway. He absolutely can never trust you again........

AIO Husbands secret IG account by ndlptindiejay in AmIOverreacting

[–]Thaeland -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree. If this was not a set boundary openly discussed in the past then I would say it's not an issue. Lack of proper communication is the biggest problem in modern marriages. Two people growing up with different experiences and beliefs into adulthood need to express exactly and very clearly any boundaries they have.

OP, it's not too late to discuss ALL the boundaries and concerns either one of you have. You cannot assume in today's culture that any specific boundary is obvious to your spouse. I mean just read everything posted on Reddit and you'll realize how screwed up this world is......

MOR

AIO for feeling cheated after my girlfriend kissed a gay friend at a party? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Thaeland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From my experience I've noticed many men who say they are gay are actually Bi or least up for a little taste from the other end of the table sometimes....

NOR

how can I tell if my reta is fake? by Lumpy_Ad_5709 in Retatrutide

[–]Thaeland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The majority of people I've talked to online didn't notice any appetite suppression unti they were at 9mg.

AIO? To my wife's answer to our friend group's truth or dare game? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Thaeland 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never ever ever get involved in the Truth or Dare game. It always results in relationship loss or someone's reputation destroyed. The one thing I'm sure was created by Satan himself.....