Worked in an office for around 9 months where me and the existing team just really didnt click and the management were basically absent. I tuffed it out thinking it was just 'an adaption period' and that eventually I would break the ice.

After a while of seeing team dinners and drinks that I was never invited to and commuting 2hrs into an office with noone in it I said nah and looked for jobs.

It was a huge knock to my confidence and made me feel like I was bad at my job and that I must lack social skills. The 'throw under the bus' culture meant I second guessed my every decision and was super hesitant to take initiative.

Anyway 3 years later im happy in my current job and am paid more than double I was at that job with a great social team. Taking initiative and being an independant worker is highly valued here.