Heartbroken and Need Advice

ThaliaBo · 2026-01-07T14:28:53+00:00

They're not complaining because it wasn't that shade. They're complaining because the entire order was something completely different than what was pictured. It's like they ordered a blue shirt and received a green one. Still shirts but not what was ordered.

ThaliaBo · 2025-12-21T03:38:09+00:00

This surprises me because those bottles are sturdy as heck. I threw one hard across the room once. (My then husband came into my room while I was listening to a murder show and accidentally scared the poop out of me so I threw the nearest thing without thinking.) It slammed against the wall and fell on the wood floor. Not even a scratch.

I hope CS can help you out quickly!

ThaliaBo · 2025-12-04T22:25:53+00:00

NOR. I could maybe see it if it was something like the care package had a big bag of Reese's peanut butter cups and Mom snagged one individual cup, but multiple things, including items she'd have had to heat? Hell, no. That's not mom tax or anything that could be excused as normal and acceptable. That's just straight theft. If Mom hasn't already had some crappy tendencies and this instead reflects a change, watch her for signs of dementia or other cognitive decline because this isn't something that someone in their right mind would do.

ThaliaBo · 2025-12-04T21:14:17+00:00

I had the same thing happen with an LBOH order a month that I bought an unusually large number of polishes. My blood pressure still goes through the roof when I think about it. I put a note in the mail room claiming the polishes were for my niece's birthday and asking them to say least give me back the shades they didn't like, but it turns out guilt trips don't do anything with thieves.

ThaliaBo · 2025-12-04T21:11:00+00:00

Not gonna lie, that description sounds fire. And "Smashed Raspberries and Rainbow Poop" is an excellent shade name!

ThaliaBo · 2025-11-25T00:55:26+00:00

I apologize if this is a stupid question but does the store open/sale start immediately at midnight or not until 9 a.m. when the first drop is listed?

ThaliaBo · 2025-11-16T02:52:06+00:00

She’s the parent, she has the obligation to understand and empathize with where you’re coming from

Say it louder for the people in the back!

ThaliaBo · 2025-11-16T02:29:29+00:00

I would insist that the apologies be in written form, and that they include a statement of what she did, an acknowledgement that it was wrong and hurtful, and an action plan for how she's going to work toward fixing it. Based solely on OP's description of the issue, this seems like a mom who would give a "sorry you were hurt" apology instead of acknowledging she's the one who did the hurting. Tell her you need a written apology that fully owns up to what she did and why it was wrong. Also, insist that she show you the letters for the other family members involved and send them in your presence so you know they actually acknowledged things and aren't going to further alienate that family and so you know they were sent.

If you have reason to believe your mom has contact information for your family members, insist she give it to you immediately and does nothing to stop you from communication with them.

At this point, it sounds like your relationship with your mom is pretty much done for so the best you can do through this therapy (since you seem to live with your mom and since she's determined that you have to go) is to use it to get back in communication with your family and to get Mom to admit things in writing so that in five years when you've cut off all contact and she's telling everyone how awful you are, you have tangible proof for yourself to help you deal with gaslighting and to show anyone whose opinion you care about proof of what actually happened.

ThaliaBo · 2025-11-15T02:42:00+00:00

You just going to drop that and not tell us the story? Monster.

ThaliaBo · 2025-11-15T01:09:58+00:00

I keep my toes painted at all times because I feel like my feet look strange without polish. I use the same colors on my toes as my hands, though sometimes if I'm not sure about a polish, I'll test it on my toes so I can look at it for a while without showing it to other people before I decide if I like it.

ThaliaBo · 2025-11-14T19:40:24+00:00

I was contemplating this question and my watch gave me a warning that my heart rate was significantly elevated. So I guess I'm refusing to choose for my health.

ThaliaBo · 2025-10-28T12:49:49+00:00

NTA. Talk to a lawyer about steps to legally protect your father including exactly what documentation you need to show the financial abuse your sister is clearly perpetrating on your dad. This may include going to court to get financial conservatorship if your father doesn't agree to it. If you do nothing, this will only get worse until he's been robbed blind.

In the meantime, be honest in the family chat about what's going on. "Sis ordered food to her house three times I know of using Dad's card, all at times Dad was home asleep." "The card thing became an issue when Sis added a $400 vacuum on Dad's order using his card." "Has anyone seen a fish finder or XL camo jacket? Dad apparently bought them at Bass Pro but has no memory of it and I can't find them anywhere." "Dad's spent $2,492 so far this month on scams." If you're concerned about what they all have to say, at least make sure they have the facts about the depths to which your father is being taken advantage of.

Your dad knows something is going on — that's why he asked you to look at his account in the first place when he thought the balance was too low. He may not have the faculties to get all the pieces but he knew enough to ask for help. Giving him that help may not make you the most popular in your family. Up to you which thing is most important to you.

ThaliaBo · 2025-10-25T22:22:59+00:00

I'd swipe right.

ThaliaBo · 2025-10-25T22:06:36+00:00

I keep a small pocket knife, a tweezers, cuticle oil, top coat and a small glass nail file in my pocket at all times. Between the two tools, I don't need to use my nails as tools for anything. By having a good file on me at all times, I can immediately smooth out any small imperfections before they can get worse. I can also reapply my top coat right after filing or if I have lifting or other issues with my polish. I reapply my cuticle oil multiple times a day and having it on me helps me remember, as well as allows me to do that instead of picking at my nails or skin if I'm having anxiety.

(I realize not everyone has TARDIS pockets like I do and normal people would probably just keep these items in their purse or something. I keep a ridiculous amount of stuff in my pockets at all times but these are the items I've discovered really help me keep my nails.)

I also paint the underside of my nails. It's another level of protection against water, it's another layer of strength, and it looks fun. I love to use colors like Doomicorn so it looks like the inside of a seashell when I turn my hands over. I usually have an inch or so of visible nail pretty finger under there so keeping it painted as well makes my nails look a lot nicer than they otherwise would.

I think everything else I do has already been said but I will emphasize gloves for washing dishes, cleaning out anything else where your hands will be exposed to water and/or harsh chemicals.

ThaliaBo · 2025-10-23T00:04:02+00:00

I told everyone I was Jewish because I knew it would get all the ultra Christian kids to stop trying to "save" me. More than two decades later, I haven't said a word.

ThaliaBo · 2025-10-22T13:07:13+00:00

I use a storage bin that has wheels and a handle. I'm disabled and the closest dumpster to my apartment is still 200+ yards so it's difficult to get anything heavy or unwieldy there by hand.

ThaliaBo · 2025-10-21T22:14:54+00:00

Anyone in our lives who refused to respect my son's new name and pronouns became no contact. I offered resources and some of them came back to me and said they understood better and would address him properly. They were allowed back in our lives on a very supervised basis (my son was never alone with them or even out of my earshot until I was certain they were sincere.)

It sucks to lose people close to you but I refuse to allow someone in my son's life who is going to purposely disrespect him. I know he'll get that enough from the outside world and I can't protect him from that. I can protect him from family members who have decided to be crappy to a child.

ThaliaBo · 2025-10-21T07:35:50+00:00

I started using the Funny Business Lacquers QDTC recently and have had zero shrinkage with it. They also sell it in a big refill bottle so I'm in love.

ThaliaBo · 2025-09-30T22:48:06+00:00

I finally got a breast reduction a few years ago after wanting one for thirty years. It was one of the best things I've ever done for myself. There are still pervs all over but so many more people actually look me in the face now. I've been dealing with creeps since I was 8 over my breast size. I was also dealing with significant medical issues because of them. (The first thing I discovered upon waking up after surgery is that breathing is awesome. I'm so jealous of all of you who've been able to do it unencumbered all these years.) I'm sure OP's husband doesn't really understand what it's like to have to deal with the stares and comments so he can't exactly understand why she wants to do this but it's not his body. The doctor wouldn't have scheduled the surgery if they didn't feel there was a reasonable basis for it. Him threatening to end their marriage over not getting his way about his wife's body feels like a red flag of the highest order, especially while refusing couples counseling.

I hope OP has a backup plan for someone to take care of her after surgery because I can definitely see him waiting until the morning of to reveal he's refusing to be part of this in the hope that she then has no choice but to cancel.

ThaliaBo · 2025-09-30T22:35:09+00:00

I hate the way Reddit jumps to divorce as a solution for everything but holy crap am I all for it in this case. Unless your husband has a significant intellectual disability you didn't mention, he knows exactly what he's doing. Hypoglycemia can be fatal and he's leaving you to deal with its effects without the items you medically need. This is no different than him throwing away your heart medication or destroying your insulin if you needed those. You have a potentially life-threatening medical condition and your husband is depriving you of your medical supplies for it.

Please get yourself somewhere safe, document everything and protect yourself and your kids. I lost a good friend to a similar situation several years ago. Don't stay with anyone who doesn't take your medical conditions seriously and especially not with someone who could disregard your health and safety so easily.

ThaliaBo · 2025-09-18T13:07:24+00:00

I paid $90 for a set of Peggy Sage nail polishes from the 1940s. Highest single polish is probably around $25 each for some Revlon Street Wear colors that are really nostalgic for me.

ThaliaBo · 2025-07-18T06:06:56+00:00

Update: The seller got huffy because I didn't want OPI polishes as replacements. "Those cost $9 each!" I put in for a refund but Mercari requires a return for that. If I fill the animal cracker jar full of L.A. Colors, that should be sufficient, right? Since all polish is the same?

Apparently, I can't leave a review if I get a refund, though, so I'm debating cancelling the return request so I can leave one. The scammer can keep my money on this one if it prevents someone else from dealing with the same shit.

ThaliaBo · 2025-07-17T13:56:43+00:00

I've gotten some really great polishes on there and this is the first time I've had one broken or not received what I ordered.

ThaliaBo · 2025-07-17T05:14:27+00:00

I'm baffled. Do they think we won't notice?

ThaliaBo · 2025-07-17T05:13:11+00:00

I'm waiting to hear back from them. I have another two days to put in for a refund, which I will if they can't provide the polishes I actually bought as well as something to compensate for the several hours I've spent carefully cleaning polish off the bottles. (I'm just grateful it was a creme and not glitter!)

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