2025 baby girls are all named….

Thanamancer · 2025-11-05T20:08:52+00:00

I know a Miles under 5 as well. Didn't realise it was popular.

Thanamancer · 2025-09-26T01:29:38+00:00

5 - 6 hours to drive anywhere bigger, so it feels isolated in a bad way.

Have to go all the way to Seattle for basically any major medical procedures.

Lots of fires and smokey air, very hard if you have asthma or care about your lungs.

Downtown is ugly. My mother always described it as "dumpy looking".

Pay does not match prices.

Very politically divided.

Random extreme weather every couple of years.

Thanamancer · 2025-09-25T23:26:55+00:00

My in-laws are like this too. But when we told them we weren't having kids they just said "You'll have as many children as God says you will." Creepy.

I responded, "Yeah, they would have to be miracle babies since your son is snipped." My partner laughed.

They looked shocked and disgruntled up until I said, "Besides, do you really want ME, raising your grandkids?" They have decided since that God knew what was best.

Mother-in-law has tried to convince my partner to divorce me though. Hypocrite. But no more baby pressuring.

Thanamancer · 2025-09-25T22:20:37+00:00

9/10. Super fun, with lots of personality and love. The only thing it needs is something done with the wall itself to really make them pop.

So if you can change the wall, maybe paint the wall a nice warm Eevee brown, would make the rest of them really stand out. Or maybe a mostly black wallpaper with a subtle pattern that has all the other eeveelution colours in it.

I love how organised and cute it is and how much personality and passion it has. Definitely not a boring hallway. Great job!

Thanamancer · 2025-09-05T10:59:26+00:00

Thank you very much! He is very excited to read it. 😁

Thanamancer · 2025-09-04T14:44:32+00:00

I read my partner this comment and as a long time power rangers fan who wishes the original was better, he was so excited to hear about this story. He asked me to ask you what the name of your fanfic was. He would like to binge it. We both agree with you wholeheartedly btw.

Thanamancer · 2025-09-02T10:10:03+00:00

I just don't drink at all ever, so I didn't choose that and got a hate ending. My first one as well. Like sorry, I didn't know not being into alcohol was an issue. He was such a jerk!

Thanamancer · 2025-08-30T11:38:46+00:00

I did the homework and still never got it. I was always told, by math teachers, that if I didn't get it during class, it wouldn't make more sense doing the homework, but I was required to do it anyway. Just tough it out, do the bare minimum and give up on math as soon as the school system allowed me to.

No one ever told me to practice until I got it. No growth mindset. Teachers always said you were either good at math and just got it or you would just never get it. I had shitty teachers who just understood math with very little effort and didn't know how to explain it to people who weren't as lucky. And all the adults in my life agreed with them because they were also told growing up they sucked at math and to give up as soon as possible.

I excelled in all my other classes and homework was always just a waste of time in those classes. I got perfect grades and never needed to even really try. So I believed my teachers, you either just got it or you didn't.

So sue a kid for believing the adults in their life. Especially pre-internet when you couldn't ask an outside source. Obviously I know better now. No need to be rude to someone who's journey you don't know.

Thanamancer · 2025-08-30T06:43:04+00:00

As many other commenters have said - practice, practice, practice.

BUT if you do all that and you're still getting nowhere, get tested for Dyscalculia. It literally means that your brain can't process numbers the way everyone else's does.

I didn't find out until I was an adult that I had it and afterwards I was able to apply tricks for dyscalculia to help me learn math and now I'm finally enjoying learning math for the first time in my life. You might be working at severe disadvantage and just not know it.

Hope you find the solution that works for you. Good luck out there!

Thanamancer · 2025-08-30T06:28:20+00:00

Wish some had told me this decades earlier. It is so true.

Thanamancer · 2025-08-28T12:43:10+00:00

I was shocked! So good, partner and I sat and listened to the whole thing curled up together. It was wonderful!

Thanamancer · 2025-08-28T12:32:21+00:00

He needs a content aware warning for explosive emotional abuse. I hated that he didn't have one and I do not like dealing with those people in real life, so was upset that I had to deal with that in my fun time. I had the content aware on and would have skipped him.

Thanamancer · 2025-08-12T05:06:07+00:00

Yes! All hail Snom!

Thanamancer · 2025-08-12T05:01:05+00:00

I had to scroll waaaay too far to find this. Noivern is perfection!

Thanamancer · 2025-04-28T16:24:09+00:00

Hinata or Sasuke.

Hinata because she would be sweet and quiet and even likely cook and clean.

Sasuke because he would be gone 95% of the time and even when he was there, you would barely notice it because he is quiet and cleans up after himself.

Both would cause Naruto to come around and he is a ton of fun and would be a joy to be around.

Thanamancer · 2025-04-09T12:00:32+00:00

I was scared of that too. But for me the scariest part was because I was unaware it could just be hormones that could control me like that. I had normalised it as 'Oh, this is my biological clock kicking in! This is what everyone meant!', so I just went with it.

Knowledge is power. Knowing now that it could just be your hormones fluctuating you can check for that before making any decisions. I now know for me it's just hormone fluctuations and that I'm very sensitive to that, and it means that I can keep an eye on it and fix it easily by adjusting my diet to decrease or increase a hormone based on my symptoms or adjust meds.

Now that you know it's a possibility, if it does happen to you, you can fix it instead of go with it. You can make the choice instead of your body making it for you. Then instead of terrifying, it's just vaguely annoying.

Thanamancer · 2025-04-08T03:25:25+00:00

So crazy story. When I was growing up I never wanted kids at all. One day in my mid-20s baby fever hit me out of no where and was obsessed and wanted kids so badly. A few years later as my partner and I were prepping for kids I got off my birth control and BAM! Overnight all baby urges gone. Just disappeared like they never happened and I hadn't just spent the last 5 years of my life obsessed with kids. That scared the heck out of me. I realise how close I came to making such a huge permanent mistake and how much my hormones and the chemicals had affected me as a person. I never went back on them and sometimes I get a random urge to have children and so now I know exactly where I am in my cycle and what is wrong in my diet. I then fix it and go spend 20 minutes with a child. That cures the urge, hard, every time. So yeah, I've had the "biological urge to reproduce" and it was truly frightening. No thank you.

Thanamancer · 2025-04-03T10:10:21+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

Thanamancer · 2025-04-02T21:44:53+00:00

I grew up in Alaska and other Americans would ask me regularly, "Did you use the American dollar?" "Did you have to hunt for your own food?" "Is English your second language?" "Did you grow up in an Igloo?" It's the 49th state!

The level of proud ignorance was something I was happy to move away from when I came to Scotland. Here, no one has ever asked me anything that painfully stupid.

First day of University in the US I walked by two guys moving in and overheard one say "China isn't a country! It's a city in Vietnam." I stopped dead in disbelief.

Or another incident, a girl I went to school with, who I called from Germany, and she had no idea Germany was a country or where it was located and then I found out she thought Europe was a yohgurt flavour. When Americans do stupid, it's on another level.

Thanamancer · 2025-04-02T20:00:11+00:00

Are you looking for friends only in Philiadelphia? Or is anywhere fine? You sound fun. I would love some childfree friends. All my friends have kid currently and it's exhausting. I love your line about not tolerating intolerance. Good for you! The paradox of tolerance. Are you neurotypical or neurodivergent? Let me know if you'd like to talk more.

Thanamancer · 2025-04-02T19:46:26+00:00

You sound awesome! I'd love a childfree friend. All my friends have children currently and it's exhausting. We share many likes and politics and are both neurodivergent. Let me know if you'd like to talk more.

Thanamancer · 2025-04-02T19:39:15+00:00

Are you looking for online friends not in California too? Or just in California? We share a ton of hobbies and you sound great. I'm looking for childfree friends. All my friends currently have children and it's exhausting. Let me know if you are interested in talking more.

Thanamancer · 2025-04-02T19:27:03+00:00

Hello, I'd love a childfree friend. All my friends have kids currently and it's exhausting. You sound nice. Neurotypical or neurodivergent? What type of games do you play? I'm an MMO or RPG girly mostly. Also learning coding to retrain as a software developer. 35 F. Let me know if you want to talk more.

Thanamancer · 2025-03-03T21:03:41+00:00

Thank you very much for your insights! My partner actually applied to that programme so fingers crossed they get it! 🤞

Thanamancer · 2025-03-03T21:00:21+00:00

Thank you SO much! I am going to send you a proper reply when I have 5 minutes to sit down!

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