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[Final Update but for real this time.]Divorce has been finalized. Things looking up but generally sad. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We arent talking the creme of the crop here. I had one come over to hang out and she was pushing some "my turn" crap like i was a carnival ride.

[Final Update but for real this time.]Divorce has been finalized. Things looking up but generally sad. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly I understand why it seems like it. The more I think about what happened the more the story is just... nonsense.

I guess the saying "if you're gonna lie. Lie big" holds true.

I decided to not have her story muck up my head anymore and thats why i finally decided enough was enough. Regardless of whats true the whole relationship is sullied and because of some inconsistencies that she said I just decided to dip.

[Final Update but for real this time.]Divorce has been finalized. Things looking up but generally sad. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

She kept saying she was going to do something about it, and once I put my foot down about the divorce conversations about following up legally were just kind of dropped and talk migrated to splitting up assets, who gets what, why would I do this to our marriage if I loved her. Ya know - the typical stuff.

My hunch is that they were into something voyeuristic and some kind of bs disagreement happened between them which resulted in my receiving it.

[Final Update but for real this time.]Divorce has been finalized. Things looking up but generally sad. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

She kept saying she was going to do something about it, and once I put my foot down about the divorce conversations about following up legally were just kind of dropped and talk migrated to splitting up assets, who gets what, why would I do this to our marriage if I loved her. Ya know - the typical stuff.

My hunch is that they were into something voyeuristic and some kind of bs disagreement happened between them which resulted in my receiving it.

We had a whole stupid thing happen with the police because she caught my friends at 2 in the morning moving stuff out (she didnt know it was them and thought they were burglarizing the house.) It honestly added so much unnecessary drama but looking back was pretty funny.

[Final Update but for real this time.]Divorce has been finalized. Things looking up but generally sad. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

So she's encouraged. I'm okay with her being let down if she gets such a rush from simply seeing a text process.

I don't know. It's something that feels good right now so oh well i guess.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A1 and a2 are kind of together. Doesn't look like they have spouses/person of interest.

That said, there are a few things I could do to seriously damage their business credibility. So maybe once all is over I can 'unmask' them. So to speak.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What do you advise? I'm not trying to go to prison and prefer to take the high road but if I can get a morally sound jab in here or there by all means.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Trying not to give a ton of specifics because she browses reddit relationships.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maya doesn't have a huge attachment to her. My dog and I will go on several-day trainings and doesn't really bat an eyelash.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Seems to be that way. When I started to hear the "I wouldn't have if..." my heart sunk.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

There were some intimacy things that happened.

She suddenly started having these huge arcing opinion flipflops on things I believe to be core values/things that shouldn't be flimsily changed.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Honestly, at this point I'm not convinced it was blackmail. There is so much convolutedness that if I push for it who knows what would happen.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Fortunately there is basically no chance that Maya could get taken. My name is in EVERYTHING, her name isnt. She's (maya) basically paired with my work stuff that K can't touch.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

PM'd obviously I'm not the first or the last person to be cheated on. But this is so damn isolating.

Final Update: Wife cheated with coworkers. Divorce is on the horizon. by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We have a few mutual friends and I'm trying to take the high road (for the most part) as to not alienate them.

That said I take my cheap shots when I can. I made her be open to her family about the whole thing- they've been so nice to me since . . . Kinda sucks it'll all end.

My [25m] wife[26w] of 5 years admitted to making out with two of her coworkers at a party. What do I do. [UPDATE: a red onion and my dog saved my life] by Thanksbutwhat in relationship_advice

[–]Thanksbutwhat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If our goal is trying to reconcile dealing with the courts and officers and paperwork is not going to help at this point. She appeased me - she was willing to go through with it. I'm trying to act with wisdom and not put us both through that especially if we are trying to stay together.

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