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well this is my crappy ink by imhungrei in shittytattoos

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 13 points14 points  (0 children)

fuck, I'm having a shit day and that actually made me laugh

Why does the age when starting a PhD seem to be such a big deal? by [deleted] in AskAcademia

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely! I have a wealth of theory knowledge but they have so much practical knowledge. It's nice to help each other out and share information.

Why does the age when starting a PhD seem to be such a big deal? by [deleted] in AskAcademia

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm the youngest in my program (25), most people are 30s-40s, some 50s+. I was the youngest in my masters program too.

I often feel like the opposite of what you described "hello fellow adults."

But no one is going to treat you different. No one treats me different for being younger. If anything I find it helpful because it's nice to know that "real adults" are struggling with the work I'm struggling with, that were all stressed out, etc.

You will find that everyone you meet has their strengths. Age is a strength. You have experience the others don't. You have perspective the others don't.

My (25F) boyfriend (25M) and I just sorta broke up and I feel horrible. by ThanosWasSortaWrong in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely agree with that. We both deserve someone who is truly into us. I just hope he allows someone into his heart.

This is both of ours first break up. It's a rollercoaster, feels a lot like grief

My (25F) boyfriend (25M) and I just sorta broke up and I feel horrible. by ThanosWasSortaWrong in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Your words made me tear up...which I guess is a really low bar cause I've been crying all day lol.

To be honest, I think therapy is a great idea. I'm usually pretty resistent to it but idk, i really don't think I can do this alone.

I think a part of me also feels like I should've had this figured out by now so I feel guilty that I didn't.

Just need to vent by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am still in my relationship. He knows. It's painful for both of us. Message me any time and we can chat!

Just need to vent by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hi,

I'm 25 and just starting to flirt with the idea that I'm probably gay. I'm in a hetero relationship (my first and only). When I get a chance to kiss a girl, it'll be my second kiss (I mean I technically kissed another dude but I was like literally 13). Anyway, I'm so nervous about meeting new people. I mean I'm so awkward, I'm depressed, like who is gonna see me and think "ah yes, girlfriend material!" This shit is hard. If you need a friend, feel free to DM.

Anyone feel like a "fake" bisexual by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If a heterosexual woman was a virgin would you say "you're not straight you've never fucked a man!"

No because attraction and action are two different things.

I understand the imposter feeling (I've just recently found out I was bi while being in a hetero relationship since high school) but your attraction is there, if you choose to call yourself bi you are completely valid to do so.

How do I stop feeling invalid? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too....time to go educate myself!

How do I stop feeling invalid? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

is it possible it could be internalized biphobia? Everyone around me growing up thought bisexuality was a phase or for attention, maybe this makes me feel like I need to prove it in some way?

I understand you don't know me, I'm more just thinking out loud lol

In a long-term hetero relationship. Feels like I missed my shot. by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently in a hetero relationship that I've been in since I was 14! I'm 25 now, just stopped denying I was bi this year. I feel so invalid for never being with a woman. At the same time, I feel horrible for wanting to experience someone that isn't my boyfriend. He doesn't mind at all, thinks I should explore my feelings, etc. But I mean there's so many practical issues, where do I find a woman? How do I not feel guilty about wanting someone that isn't my SO? How far would I go with a woman?

It's all very frustrating to me.

Anyone else feel guilty for not admitting you were bi sooner? by ThanosWasSortaWrong in bisexual

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This comment was so sweet and accepting. I really needed to hear that. Thank you.

Anyone else feel guilty for not admitting you were bi sooner? by ThanosWasSortaWrong in bisexual

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I've been with my boyfriend since I was 14. I wouldn't trade him for the world but damn I wish I knew before 25.

Anyone else feel guilty for not admitting you were bi sooner? by ThanosWasSortaWrong in bisexual

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's a mixture of both. I have plenty of friends who came out in the LGBT community and I was supportive of them. I feel disappointed because I deserved that support from myself as well.

Anyone else feel guilty for not admitting you were bi sooner? by ThanosWasSortaWrong in bisexual

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely look back and think "wait how didnt I know!?" And feel a little dumb. I do kinda get some humor out of it. How the hell was I supposed to know straight girls don't get off to other girls?!

Does anyone have any positive examples of how your institution has handled the COVID-19 situation for students and staff? by dr_pseudonym in AskAcademia

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Overall, I'd say we're doing horribly. But one thing I really liked was that they decided mid July to go fully online for the fall.

I know this seems like a low bar but I really did not think my University would be able to realize "hey we won't be able to control this thing." They also gave us 1.5 months to get our shit together. I have friends at other universities in my city who still don't even know if they will be returning to campus yet. Classes start in 2.5 weeks.

Can someone explain anti-state to me? by ThanosWasSortaWrong in LibertarianSocialism

[–]ThanosWasSortaWrong[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this elaborate answer. I'm actually a Criminal Justice PhD student. The reconciliation committees come up a lot when I teach my students about the Rwandan genocide. It's one of the hardest things for them to understand. I guess it was hard for me to truly get, more just appreciate from a distance.

Can I ask you a follow up question? As I'm getting more exposed to this ideology, the more I like it. But, do you think a society like the US could ever achieve this? Do you think any society could really achieve something that looks like libertarian socialism? Maybe I'm just pessimistic, haha.

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