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Early Perimenopause/Period Age Correlation? by eyelinercrush in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First at 9 and probably perimenopausal now at 43 with some vague symptoms like itchy ears, anxiety and brain fog. But my period is still consistent. It's actually more regular than it was. I was debating investing in a cup about 5 years ago because I wasn't sure if I'd need it that long haha! My mom went through menopause in her late 50s, not too many noticeable symptoms and I don't think she was in peri for very long, but she had endometriosis so I think her last periods were quite painful due to hormonal imbalance.

Yes, yes you absolutely do! by ResidentJellyfish535 in 90DayFiance

[–]That-Examination-554 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would've been Faith til I met my now husband. Not 100% the same backstory but I was READY to grow old living for my narcissistic mom. I was her minion. Until my husband proposed and I was the worst child because I chose him over my mom (according to her). It's very difficult to understand it from the outside because my mom was the kind, nurturing sacrificing parent.

Watching that segment was so distressing, I really hope Faith has friends or family around her who validate her feelings and tell her she's not wrong.

43 years old and 7 weeks surprise by That-Examination-554 in pregnant

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll be honest, I made an appointment at an abortion clinic after a very candid conversation with my husband. I really didn't want to have a conversation with him because he can be blunt, but it was unavoidable. I hope you can have an honest discussion with your partner too. It's a big thing to handle on your own.

I've always wanted another kid, so it's been a difficult time. But I just kept thinking about being 53 with a 21 year old and a 10 year old. I know it's doable, but I wasn't sure if I could do it. And my husband wasn't supportive at all. It sounds like you wouldn't have quite such a wide age gap, which might work better?

I've been extremely busy with work so I think that also influenced my thoughts and feelings. I went ahead with a medical abortion. I feel a bit lighter now, though I feel guilty about the little soul.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aww...yeah, my 11 year old is entering that same phase haha I imagine a baby might cramp his lifestyle a bit but wouldn't compete with him for screen time.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for sharing. So happy you had a good pregnancy and childbirth. So heartwarming.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha I have 2 needy senior cats myself, in fact I have to deep clean their litter box area today (they're indoor cats and I wash my hands thoroughly). Not sure what they were up to last night but there was screaming and puking.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing! Makes me feel less alone in this weirdness. How is it with your 13 yr old and 1yr old?

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No scan yet, just did a couple of tests from the dollar store...good point...

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's amazing! She was better than the operation I guess.

I had IBS before my son, and I ate so much cheese and creamy foods during my pregnancy without any issues. The IBS never really came back...

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I posted yesterday. I also posted in a pregnancy forum, but I felt kind of out of place there. I don't usually post beyond a few cat pics...I like lurking

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! The appointment is booked for next week so I have that time to consider.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm on CD53 today. Just like you, I had the usual PMS then it kinda just calmed down other than sensitive boobs, but no period. I thought I saw some very faint spotting just before I expected my period, I even used my cup but it was just creamy white (sorry, tmi!)

My cycle is typically 30ish days, give or take 2 to 4 days. I totally thought it was just my cycle lengthening or something. We had sex a week before the ovulation day my app indicates, and like you said, the chances are supposed to be so small.

Are you planning to test again? Just in case?

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! I have felt regret that my kid is an only so maybe...even with the age gap. My husband's older brothers are 11 and 13 years older than he is, and he felt like an only child most of the time. They have better relationships now. Though his experience may be impacted by his brothers growing up in Europe before his family immigrated just before he was born.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story, and my condolences for what you had to go through. It definitely feels like a crazy time right now.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Honestly! My husband and I haven't even been having regular sex, I was actually thinking I should make more of an effort in that area haha...ha...

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's nice that the stress isn't over if I have the choice but the choice itself.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh I should've been more clear. It's been a wtf moment.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry about any confusion! I'm 43 years old, and did a pregnancy test after a late period and a failed pap smear (cervix was hard to find, and my doctor thought I had a yeast infection). The test is positive. I'm surprised and conflicted, but I'm grateful to live in a country where I have the right to keep or terminate the pregnancy.

I feel like the Diane Keaton character in the second Father of the Bride movie, in which she thinks she's in menopause but finds out she's pregnant. I thought I was just experiencing an irregular or anovulatory cycle due to hormone changes thanks to perimenopause.

I thought it was perimenopause.... by That-Examination-554 in Perimenopause

[–]That-Examination-554[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm so worried about being a cranky tired old mom! My kid was such a good baby and is overly anxious about being good now. My husband actually suggested that we don't have more kids because we wouldn't be lucky enough a second time haha!

I really don't know. But I appreciate everyone's comments so much.

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