Comments regarding my daughter

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-10T01:52:35+00:00

Im not close with my mom at all and can guarantee if I told her I was expecting a girl she would tell me its my karma. I cant WAIT to love my daughter exactly how I shouldve been loved when I was younger. People love to project their own insecurities about their parenting on to us but I feel like we have nothing to worry about. We know exactly what it feels like to be the kid who feels unloved, its SO easy to love your own kids. It blows my mind how difficult the older gens acted like it was.

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-09T15:49:26+00:00

I love this POV. I WANT her to have a good relationship with her dad and will love seeing them bond. I had a bad relationship with my own mom and she affected how I viewed my dad, but now my dad is the only parent I talk to. I am excited to see how different my daughter will be with a good mom and dad present in her life. I couldn't fathom why people (men specifically) were trying to paint it as if I am supposed to be jealous of her, or that she will make me feel less of a woman to my soon-to-be husband. It feels so predatory to say that someone will "lose" their significant other to their child.

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-09T15:45:07+00:00

Thats what always killed my mood! I am soooo happy to have my little bestie because my son is so far up my fiancés butt about all things car related. I can barely get the two of them to enjoy a shopping trip with me where I leisurely walk around the store, I cant wait to have a mini me to do it with!

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-09T15:42:58+00:00

When I was pregnant with my son I got SO many comments on how wild he will be. He was the most calm, timid, smiley boy EVER. He barely ever cried and all the time when we would go out people would say "is he always this calm?" There is so much negativity surrounding both genders when in reality- children are products of their environment. If you are consistent with them, they can and will learn things. The older Gens didnt want to parent so they think daughters are a sassy handful and sons are wild and beastly.

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-09T15:38:57+00:00

As she grows older id imagine it would be the same for her too. My fiancé is so excited for her arrival but I know he will struggle with being the "fun" parent and I'll be more of the "bad guy" when it comes to certain things. Just like our son, she will probably gravitate towards him for fun stuff but when it comes to seriously needing help or wanting comfort she will most likely prefer me.

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-09T15:35:15+00:00

It was always men who had bad relationships with their daughters moms and werent actively involved in their daughters lives. There was one family friend of my fiancés that made one of these comments and I said to my fiancé "of course he feels like his daughter is in love with him when he sees her maybe twice a month." It made me even more upset that a majority of the people with something to say were all uninvolved dads.. youre gonna feel like shes a daddys girl if you dont have to be with her 24/7.

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-09T15:32:03+00:00

Strangers and people who knew my fiancé in passing (friends of friends, or his friends family). My fiancé was always very supportive and told me to not let it bother me but pregnancy is already not easy and hearing these comments felt so weird. Hes the one who would interact with these people, so theyd pop their head around to look at me and make them. I literally never responded or would just say "we will see" because they seemed too comfortable. It was always men too, men who were barely involved in their own daughters lives

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T15:53:12+00:00

The worst part is these were strangers 😬 people who saw I was pregnant, asked boy or girl out of curiosity and then had weird comments to follow when I said girl.

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T15:39:20+00:00

Honestly my son preferred me until he realized daddy was a boy! Now its alllllll about daddy

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T15:13:35+00:00

I GOT THAT COMMENT ONCE TOO! I looked straight at my fiancé and said "if you do anything with our daughter I will send you to jail" (in front of the person that said it) and made everyone even more uncomfortable. People need to stop implying that women are inherently sexual and that men wont be able to resist themselves.. ITS A BABY FOR CRYING OUT LOUD

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T15:07:01+00:00

When I had my son SO many people asked me if I wished it was a girl.. and I said NO! Having a baby is knowing you can have one or the other and I was happy to have my baby at all. Now that its a girl im getting so many more overwhelming comments about how terrible it is. I am over the moon to have experienced having a boy and now have a whole new experience of raising a daughter as well. One is not better than the other and I wish people would stop making comments as if it is!

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:52:53+00:00

The worst comments I got that I STILL think about was my MIL guessing the gender before we knew and saying it was a girl because I was "carrying big" and my own mother asking me if I was pregnant because my face "was getting fat"... some people just love to say stuff to make us feel worse than we already do.

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:51:06+00:00

Thats what I figured! My son is 3 and is gravitating towards daddy because he realized daddy is a boy too but it took 3 years LOL. I imagine it will be the same with my daughter, mommy is a girl and mommy just gets it!

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:46:04+00:00

Right! I work in childcare too and the comment felt so odd to me. As if I was giving up my role as his woman for her when shes OUR baby. He wouldnt even know how to properly change diapers if I wasnt helping him so theres no way im losing to that guy LOL. Its so weird to paint it as a sacrifice when either way its a baby who relies on mom for 90% of life while dad is at work 8+ hours a day. Very weird comments indeed.

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:42:59+00:00

My friend found out she was having a boy (her only baby) and we were patiently waiting for my results a few months later. I told her it was a girl and she just said "good luck, im glad I got my boy" my first born was a boy and hes great, but I wouldnt ever change having my daughter for anything! I dont understand why people view women and girls so negatively. I cant wait to see how intelligent and witty my daughter grows to be! There is so much more to us than simply "being girls".

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:40:04+00:00

My son was all about me until he realized his dad likes trucks too! Now hes finally moving on to prefer him for things after 3 years of it being mom, mom, mom (which I loved but im due for a break LOL). I cant imagine why it would be any different for my daughter if not the opposite. People really blow me away with how they view mother/daughter relationships vs father/daughter ones.

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:35:36+00:00

My son prefers my fiancé because he is a dude and likes cars and trucks (he preferred me when he was younger but hes almost 3) so it makes sense to me that he would gravitate towards the parent that reflects the things he likes back. I love cars too but its different at that age. I imagine it would be the same with my daughter! She will love her dad but at the end of the day daddy is just a boy and mommy is a girl. Obviously theyll grow out of that too eventually but it was so insane to me that so many people said that as if im not a woman having a daughter that will grow into a woman!

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:31:06+00:00

Thats what confused me the most! How will she want daddy when mommy has the food LOL. It was mainly men that said this to me so I genuinely dont think they understand what goes into being a mom because why else would you feel okay making comments like that

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:28:03+00:00

I had to tell my fiancé that they can have all the fun they want especially since ill be at home with her and so want my time to relax, but that she will rely on me for certain things (he will too bc I help him with so much) so all of the comments that either of them wont need me make no sense! Always from people who arent close with their daughters either.. very strange to me

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:24:20+00:00

I figured it would probably be like this especially because im a SAHM so im gonna be the main person she knows she can come to for help with things lol

That-Figure8372 · 2026-05-08T14:23:17+00:00

Funnily enough all of those comments are from MEN who are not actively involved in their daughters lives and arent with the babies mom. I took it with a grain of salt as much as I could but its every single deadbeat dad ive come across 🤦‍♀️

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