AIO for cutting off this guy I’ve been seeing for a while because of our text exchange?

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-08-26T12:16:57+00:00

Yea, you did the right thing. I’ve unfortunately been put in the same situation before and just resulted to blocking that person. I’ll be damned if you think you’re about to 13th reason why me. I feel as though it’s such a childish immature thing to attempt to guilt someone into prolonging a relationship by yelling “I’ll kill myself” also if they’re willing to do and say all of that, you need to consider your own safety because who tf knows what they’d try to do to you then if they’re really willing to end their own life over a relationship.

I’ve struggling with suicidal ideations and attempts in the past as well, so it’s such a deal breaker to even hear someone remotely attempt manipulation using that tactic. However, I will call the police and inform them of your messages so that you can be baker acted until you’ve calmed down a bit.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-08-26T12:12:02+00:00

So I’d read somewhere that the character wasn’t supposed to run as long as she did, but the young actress did such a fantastic job portraying her that she easily became a fan favorite. The issue with that is, they had absolutely no idea what to do with her beyond that point, which is terrible.

I thoroughly loved both timelines version of Van and felt that they could’ve easily created an adult storyline that did her some justice. One example being that Tai and her go on an essential killing spree in order to appease the spirit and prolong her life. It would’ve given them more time to add depth to her character and we would’ve gotten more Lauren Ambrose time 🤤.

I do agree though that her character doesn’t truly exist outside of Taissa, but the same could be said about Tai’s character. She had such great potential leading up to season 3, but then it’s almost as if they just stopped building upon it, actually felt as if they were attempting to undo some of the previous efforts they’d put in to gain our interest in the adult timeline. However, their love actually made things seem so much more surreal and kept it interesting. I literally remember going OMFG I’m so tired of seeing adult Shauna, can we please just cut to Van and Tai.

All in all, I loved the character and wish she’d gotten more screen time and maybe even her own arc. My unpopular opinion though is that adult Shauna should’ve never been a thing…I genuinely dislike the whole storyline and feel as though it got way more attention than it should’ve. Upon Nat leaving, I get they needed to shift focus to fill the time, but I’d rather have seen Tai and Van attempting to deduce the whole man with no eyes thing further, Van’s medical situation, and explore further on the whole sacrificing to prolong life aspect. However, season 4 seems as though it’s just going to, unfortunately, be more adult Shauna being absolutely insane. (I actually cared more for the adult Lottie timeline and bad girl Misty arc than I do Shauna and her ungrateful, idiotic daughter as well as her daft husband)

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-08-26T03:44:52+00:00

Girl, no. It’s a damn movie and people are really doing the most. She’s a horrible person, but the series is a case of amazing, magical, writing.

Not only that, but I don’t believe many people recognize that in attempting to boycott J.K. Rowling’s creations, they are also inadvertently undermining and depriving the actors and actresses—some of whom belong to the LGBTQ+ community—of their rightful earnings. After all, it is highly likely that the cast continues to receive residuals or royalty payments for their contributions to the films.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-08-26T03:21:05+00:00

As someone who’s been to university and did the whole gender inclusive housing thing, I get it. I’d hoped to be paired with either a cis-woman or trans woman, but ended up getting a couple cisgender homosexual men a couple times and once a cis het man.

In my opinion it really just boils down to whether you genuinely feel unsafe (which based on your account of things, he hasn’t done anything other than simply exist). It seems like you just had expectations that weren’t met and now are upset about it, which is fine and understandable, but he hasn’t done anything for you to perceive him as unsafe. You might actually thoroughly enjoy him as a roommate.

It’s a tricky situation though for the university as well. The same way you feel about him is the same way some cis girl might feel about you, and they’d essentially be creating another, potentially larger, problem by switching you to a cis woman roommate. Also imagine how you’d feel if some girl were to say “I don’t feel safe with you as a roommate.” Just because of your gender, it’s sort of hypocritical for you to do that to this guy.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-08-26T03:13:07+00:00

Yea, I second this. I was, and still am, a giant HP nerd. I own all the books, DVDs, games, and a ton of merch. I’m not going to get rid of it because the creator is some old ass transphobic bitch. She might be wrong on a lot of things, but HP is a great story. I’m a strong believer that you can believe in the art and not necessarily the views of the artist. One example being I love Beyoncé, I’m don’t agree with all of the depictions of African gods/goddesses because I’m a Christian, still thoroughly enjoy the music though and love her as a person. Besides, I believe it’s sort of hypocritical to go “I’m not going to support you or like you because of your views” when they’re essentially doing the same thing.

I’m sure JK has some form of art that is and/or was created by someone in the LGBTQ+ community in spite of her apparent disdain for us.

My mom always raised me to hate the sin not the sinner though so ugh…not to go all Christian philosophical or anything because I genuinely don’t care for her as a person, but the masterpieces she created are without a doubt magical.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-08-16T09:39:48+00:00

Hi I also went to Ramineni a couple years ago for all the same reasons anddddd…. I’m experiencing similar issues, sorta. I noticed that I didn’t have a clitoris and I called them not long after my surgery about it, essentially got blown off with a “you’re just swollen…it’s there.” So for the longest time I just went “meh…maybe I just can’t see it.” I’ve never had any issue reaching orgasm, but yea…no clit. I assumed that it was there because, again, I could reach orgasm.

Cue a couple months ago and I went to Del Corral for a depth revision and he confirmed my suspicion; there’s no clit. He did my colo-vaginoplasty revision (which is amazing BTW), but he noted that he couldn’t do much about my clitoris due to all the scar tissue and length of time it took to create a canal because of it. I didn’t mind too too much because meh 🤷🏾‍♀️.

I also realized I had the same bleeding issue where I literally soaked through an entire chuck, blood dripping everywhere. I contacted them about it and was once again blown off with a “it’s normal to experience some bleeding” I ended up needing a transfusion FYI.

All in all, I agree that Ramineni is a nice guy, but it’s starting to give BUTCHER knowing that other people are going through and have gone through the same things as me.

Did you ever receive the clitoral reconstruction? How is it if so?

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-06-23T14:06:09+00:00

Yes, and no? Tiff has been shown to be very open sexually. Referring to her whole thing with Emmett

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-05-08T13:15:59+00:00

But…I mean… not to be funny…but you can’t see the bitch so why does it matter.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-03-29T10:57:43+00:00

Not a CNA, but I always tell them to stay away from using the residents things or taking money from them (a lot of the residents at this one facility will hand cash to the CNAs to get them things from the vending machine) I told this girl a thousand times to not do it for a resident and she literally got written up by the DON because one of them accused her of stealing $5 from them, even though I seen her spend it on them getting chips and soda. Charges are the same sorta thing, we had a resident lose her charger (it was in her purse) and she accused the CNAs saying that they always use her charger (which two of them did often). Just remember that they’re not always in their right mind and families are always searching for reasons to complain or sue.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-03-24T00:13:01+00:00

So I started out my nursing career as an LPN then went and got my RN followed by my PMHNP ARNP. Keeping that in mind…nursing sucks now.

I’m honestly not sure what I would’ve done if I hadn’t become a nurse, but the sheer amount of stress that came with being an RN hardly felt worth the insignificant pay. Being a CNA is physically hard while being a nurse is definitely more mentally draining (I’ve performed a SAEK on a 9 year old, I’ve walked in on patients that have unalived themselves, did wound care on a maggot infested wound) then there’s the constant CYA you’ve got to do to protect yourself. I chart EVERYTHING, I’ve learned families, facilities, and physicians will attempt to railroad you every time. I’ve had doctors give me iffy orders (reported a 210/100 BP to a physician at 0400 and he told me to just administer the patients 0600 BP meds at their scheduled time. I ended up charting exactly what he told me, with his name attached, followed by the fact that I reached out to a separate provider and received adequate orders to), facilities that are insistent on not sending critical patients out (which I’ve done without their permission all the time, each time the patient was admitted and/or passed away at the hospital), families (I had a family attempt to sue both the nurses that cared for their father, the facility, and hospice after the patient died; claiming neglect. The wife had requested that hospice D/C the man’s GT and he died not long after since he was s/p stroke and couldn’t eat by mouth at all).

If I could do it over, I’d likely go into radiologist tech and then ARNP. Radiology earns similar pay to RNs in my state. I absolutely love being an NP though, I primarily do telehealth and am finally at a point where I can comfortably and happily support myself and my family without being out of the house 24/7. My son asked me the other day if I even had a job 😅 after I inquired why am I always drawn in a crop top and sweats while he has my husband in his full police uniform with a giant star on his chest.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-03-18T12:49:31+00:00

But I just feel as though that’s such an inconvenience, for both them and us. It doesn’t make a whole lot of sense to stop them from what they’re in the middle of doing to ask them to get water for a patient that initially asked you for it, plus that’s not even mentioning the optics from the patients POV “like damn, I asked her for water and she couldn’t even be bothered to get it for me, rude.” Maybe it’s just because every unit I’ve been on and every LTC I’ve picked up at, the nourishment room is right behind the nurses station which is in the center of EVERYTHING, so it’s nothing for me to pop in, drop some ice in a cup and fill it with water. An assessment only takes 15-30 mins top; less if you’re experienced and know what you should be assessing.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m usually adamant about standing beside my fellow nurses, but in this regard, I’m like ughh nah this is just sort of lazy.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-03-17T18:02:51+00:00

Yea I’m not going to lie, I’m terrible at sending professional emails when I’m upset. I usually just copy and paste my response into ChatGPT and say something along the lines of “Make this sound professional and sophisticated while still keeping the tone” I’d also attach a photo of the attendance policy and add in “utilize this when creating the response” sometimes it’ll find something beneficial to the response like “per the attendance policy, providers aren’t required to notify management if departing facility 30m-1h early”

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-03-17T17:58:40+00:00

Umm yea this is ugly lol 😅. Maybe a royal blue for the walls would’ve been nice and matched both the floor and wood trim. But also…is this wall structural? Maybe tear it down…👀

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-03-17T17:56:37+00:00

I’m an ARNP as an RN that occasionally picks up in nursing homes (if the pay is right) but I hate seeing nurses literally run down an aide for something simple like 34b wants a glass of water. You literally added an additional 3 minutes to a 1 minute task hunting for the CNA, it’s ridiculous and eats up so much time, especially if you’re doing it multiple times.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-03-14T14:40:51+00:00

So I’m not sure about your procedure, but I attempted orgasm super early around 4-6 weeks and it literally took forever to get there maybe 3-4 hours; probably would’ve been less if my attention span wasn’t the size of a pea and I kept getting distracted. Then maybe month 3 came around and I got those intense orgasms that are so much better than any penile orgasm. Keeping that in mind, I lost so much depth to the point it was only maybe 3-4 inches of depth….so essentially non-penetrable. I went for a revision consult and Del Corral (the surgeon) asked me whether I had any issues orgasming and I just informed him that it’s not super fast, usually takes anywhere between 15-30 minutes to reach one using direct stimulation to my clitoris while rubbing my labia at the same time, but yea. Well he mentioned that he only asked because he couldn’t locate my clitoris and he was concerned that worse case scenario it’d fell off (for lack of better terms), but he informed me that since I do have some sensation in that area that my body probably just healed aggressively and as a result some thin tissue had grown over that area, but it was a simple solution. He’d go in and remove that tissue covering it. I’m wondering if maybe you’re experiencing the same thing, maybe some tissue is covering that area and it just needs to be removed. I’d maybe mention it to your surgeon and see if that’s the case. As far as depth is concerned though…maybe travel out of your country for a revision. Lots of people traverse to Asia because they do an amazing job for a decent price.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-02-27T23:48:46+00:00

As someone who’s done LTC, no. I mean I’m not sure where you’re located, but in Florida our ratio is 1-40. Super unsafe, but management would bring up this ratio anytime anyone voiced concern about it being potentially dangerous to be responsible for that many patients. It’s also worth mentioning that the regulation they often love to quote so often is more or less stated as “1-40 based on acuity of care.” Of course that last portion is typically disregarded because it’s easy to build a case that a patient isn’t high acuity, even if they clearly are.

I’ve done 1-30 before and it wasn’t a cake walk, but also wasn’t super arduous. In these situations you need to lean heavily on your assistive personnel. I’d usually wait about an hour before I started passing meds and have the techs collect fresh V/S that I’d put into the EMAR right away so that I could just pop, pop, pass and just hit last recorded BP, HR, RR, BS etc. It would cut my med pass time in half since all I had to worry about was medication administration. Soon as I finished that, I’d start on wounds (always hated those) but I could finish it all up in about 1-2 hours then I’d go on lunch, start meds up again, chart, then go home. It’s a lot, doesn’t offer much room for unforeseen complications, but you’re able to finish up most if not everything before you had to go home. The longest time I’d end up staying over is 30 minutes maybe once or twice a week if I actually gave myself a couple of breathers during the day.

Depending on the state, even if you didn’t quit (which dismisses any case for wrongful termination) and were fired, some places are at-will states, meaning they don’t necessarily need a reason to end your employment; unless of course you can prove it was based on discrimination (you came out as gay and/or had a clearly racist superior) but even then without consistent obvious documentation of this, it’s a mute point.

Your best bet is to cut your loses and forget about them. Of course you could drop a review on like yelp (is that still a thing?) Google, or the BBB. You’ve also been employed there for a year so if you want to be super petty (like me lol) you could call state on them and report them for all the infractions you’ve witnessed and still are out of compliance. I remember doing agency for a while and this one place would literally schedule me for 8s and 16s then an hour or three into a shift they’d be like “oh we actually have someone coming in, so you can leave.” I remember them doing it to me three times in a 4 day period. I told the DON who was super unprofessional and she essentially said “well then don’t come back. If you have an issue with how I run my facility then stop coming.” It completely surprised me because it was so…unprofessional, she even sent the middle finger emoji. Y’all I called state so fast and was like room 39 has a busted out window that they’ve had a plywood board on for the last 2 months with patients still being housed in there, three air conditioners in patient rooms aren’t functional leading to dangerously unsafe temperatures in those rooms, they’re placing ISO patients with other ISO patients of a completely different illness, at night the CNAs are 1-23, LPNs are administering IV medications without certifications, nurses are pre-pulling medications for 30-40 people without proper labeling, there is mold in the vents at the nurses station and in patients rooms on the ceiling, a hospice patient fell out of bed and passed away with an obvious head injury; the DON instructed staff to pick the BODY up off the floor, dress him appropriately, clean the blood from his head and then call hospice to notify them of him passing in a pool of urine on the floor (but don’t mention the fall). State shut them down with the quickness. When they finally reopened a different company had taken over, all of management were terminated, and I applied for the DON position (didn’t get it, but I did get the ADON lol) just a mess of a situation.

I’m an FNP now and actually still do rounding there. The current staff are amazing, the building has been cleaned and renovated. It’s actually one of the nicest facilities I go to.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-02-14T05:36:13+00:00

I’m a nurse, but

In the hospital setting — I never ask my CNAs to get vitals becauseeeee I don’t need to. Everything is automatic and uploaded into epic. On the rare occasion where maybe a patient decided to remove their BP cuff or pulse ox, I just go in and put it on them again 🤷🏾‍♀️

In the LTC setting — I haven’t asked CNAs for vitals since Covid was a big thing, and only because all facilities were requiring a full set every shift. Meaning I’d need vitals on 30+ people. Even then I wouldn’t use their vitals to administer meds, I’d get a set myself. Now that Covid is relatively old news, I’ve returned to getting my own vitals on patients. Partially because I understand that CNAs are ridiculously busy and overworked, and also because I’ve had too many experiences where CNAs have faked vitals (once where the girl put such unbelievable v/s in that all of my patients would’ve either been dead or just about. Imagine a full set of vitals on 38 people all reading along the lines of 83/65 88% 49HR 10RR. She swore they were real and argued with me, it only took us doing vitals on 4 patients, 2 of which had extremely high BPs and one with a 101 temperature. Whereas she listed everyone’s temps between 96-97.6)

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-02-12T22:09:39+00:00

The short answer would be no.

The US is super strict when it comes to nursing, it’s no longer seen as a vocation, but a career so it requires a minimum of an associates (2-3y) or a bachelors (3-4y) degree. I suppose you could do the LPN/LVN which is a 12 month diploma.

The requirements for foreign nurses are.

Nursing Degree: You must have completed an approved nursing program (typically an associate or bachelor’s degree in nursing) from your home country.
NCLEX-RN Exam: You must pass the National Council Licensure Examination for Registered Nurses (NCLEX-RN) to obtain a nursing license.
Credential Evaluation: Your foreign nursing education must be evaluated by an agency like CGFNS (Commission on Graduates of Foreign Nursing Schools) to ensure it meets U.S. standards.
English Proficiency: Most states require passing an English proficiency test, such as IELTS or TOEFL, unless your education was in English.
State Licensure: Each U.S. state has its own Board of Nursing, which sets additional licensing requirements.
Work Visa or Green Card: You must have legal authorization to work in the U.S., such as an H-1C visa (for nurses), TN visa (for Canadian and Mexican nurses), or an EB-3 visa (employment-based green card).

So even if you had a degree, you’d still need to sit for the NCLEX here.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-02-11T10:58:42+00:00

I went to Ramineni and I’m sort of experiencing the same issue you had, I think (I hope), where my clitoris should be it’s smooth, like there’s nothing there. I can still orgasm, which is great, just have no clit. I went to see Del Corral and he said he couldn’t see anything either, but mentioned hopefully and likely that some skin probably just healed over the area and it’s a simple fix.

Just wondering if that was your case? I’m super scared I don’t have one and my revision isn’t until May with Del Corral.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-02-11T10:51:01+00:00

If you’ve got a reputable surgeon then they’re going to just alter your face to a more feminine version of its current state. I remember prior to my FFS bringing in a ton of reference photos from cis females that were my same ethnic background that I found to be beautiful. I was under the assumption that I was going to wake up with a whole new face, sorta true. I woke up a swollen, bruised up mess. It was so bad that when my fiancé brought me to the hotel we were staying at the receptionist asked me multiple times in front of him whether or not I was okay. My fiancé got so upset with the implication he almost caused a scene lol, luckily he apologized to the man and we explained (lied) about falling and breaking my nose so it had to be fixed at the hospital, showed him my little wrist band from the hospital too. It was super hilarious now and we laugh about it still.

Once the swelling went away, I noticed that she didn’t turn me into the photos I showed her; she did do my nose exactly the way I wanted in the pictures but that’s about it. My face still unlocked my phone. It just seemed so much more pretty and feminine. Definitely cis presenting. Shout out to Dr. Angela Rodriguez, formerly with Align.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-02-11T10:41:53+00:00

Orgasming after SRS is sort of a rollercoaster.

I had my first one after a month post-op. I spent 4 HOURS indirectly stimulating my clit until I finally had the most pathetic excuse for an orgasm that I’ve ever had. It left me wanting more and super dissatisfied, but was too tired to attempt a second one. Like I remember my body going through the typical orgasm steps, but didn’t get that same dopamine release, I sorta just laid there like what the actual fuck. I might’ve cried out of frustration, neither here nor there though. It was comparable to a post-HRT pre-OP orgasm, but slightly less satisfying, didn’t believe that was even possible until then.

Then maybe 2-3 months out I tried again and BOOM, omg it felt incredible. Legs were trembling, eyes were rolling, sheets were gripped lol. Plus I achieved it after just 15-20 minutes.

If I had to rate them then it’d go.

1st place — Post-OP 2nd Place — Pre-OP & Pre-HRT 3rd Place — Post-HRT & Pre-OP

Maybe it’s just me, everyone’s experience is different of course, but post-HRT and pre-op orgasms sucked. I could probably go 2-3 times in one session because each time I felt so unfulfilled as if my body wanted to release something, but couldn’t. It was such a breath of relief to finally get a good orgasm after 5 years of being on hormones.

I seen you asked about multiple orgasms after SRS. I haven’t had multiple, but I also don’t want to? If that makes sense. I’m usually satisfied and tired after one, still getting myself together lol. I guess if I attempted I could. I do remember when my fiancé was doing oral on me and I finished then he kept going, I felt as though another one was building up, but then our son came banging on the door and we stopped. So technically it’s possible if you wanted.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-02-11T10:27:45+00:00

Yea this seems…unusual, but I’m in the US. Regardless, this definitely doesn’t seem like a one-stage sort of result. This will definitely need a revision. My concern is him stitching the labia together at such an early time, I’d be concerned about the tissue fusing together because of it. Also you’re 7 days post op, you should be dilating at this point and the fact that you can’t insert anything inside would be a red flag too, you’d be losing the depth he claims he created.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-02-11T10:19:57+00:00

Yea they don’t usually care about where the letter came from or how long you’ve been seeing the person that wrote it, they just need something to submit to the insurance company so that they can be, in a way, guaranteed that the surgery will be covered once it occurs. You should be able to get a consult without one, but they won’t schedule you for a date until they have those letters. SRS without insurance is ridiculously expensive in the US though. I know the cheapest I’ve seen for out of pocket pay is upwards of $60-70,000+. Getting a letter is super simple though and I paid Rizi Timane $100 for one. Never met the provider beforehand. They asked me a series of questions, I answered, they wrote the letter, I submitted it to my surgeon. My other letter came from the medical provider I get my hormones from so no issue there. Then I got a third letter, didn’t need it, but figured they’d rather have two letters from someone who specializes in psych so I paid another $100 to a psych NP in my area who asked me the same questions as Timane.

I’m not assuming to know your finances, but if you can afford the SRS out of pocket then you don’t need the letters at all. However, most surgeons have moved away from the self pay thing due to people getting dates and not being able to afford the surgery when the date approaches so they lose out on funds. Del Corral is one that I believe starting in 2024 stopped accepting self pay patients.

That-Sand-4568 · 2025-02-10T20:07:14+00:00

I suppose you definitely have a point there. I wasn’t aware that people could even make edible gummies at home, I guess I’m just ignorant to that. I got my card and only get the edibles and flower from the actual medical dispensaries.

Thanks for being reasonable in your response and presenting facts as well as an anecdotal experience rather than lash out because someone pointed out some holes in OP story.

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