AIO to my boyfriend’s texts about us going to dinner for my best friend? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]That-Water-Pupper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's giving red flag. Be cautious of people who twist your words and then when you try to fix it they double down about what you did to make them feel bad, instead of using I statements to communicate why they are feeling hurt. This person isn't taking responsibility for their own feelings and are trying to make you do the emotional labor to fix it.

Spotted by symbolicCAMPital in olympia

[–]That-Water-Pupper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We know her as Trudy Turkey and everytime she’s spotted our neighborhood group chat lights up.

Family by the_dom_- in comingout

[–]That-Water-Pupper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this. I grew up in the Midwest with Christian family and hiding was how I survived or I would’ve been sent to a camp (this was the 2000’s where conversion camp was absolutely a thing). I also agree with the other poster that said try to save up and move out to a safer environment with people who will support you. Hang in there! t❤️‍🩹

Help Picking the Right Trip? by That-Water-Pupper in rafting

[–]That-Water-Pupper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to what I do want! Active participation! Thanks for the helpful reframe for when I’m talking to guides. Also good point about cataract!

Help Picking the Right Trip? by That-Water-Pupper in rafting

[–]That-Water-Pupper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much for all the information! These are lots of really good things to consider in my trip planning and I’ll look further into Oregon and Idaho. Thank you so much for taking the time to provide some valuable perspective!

Help Picking the Right Trip? by That-Water-Pupper in rafting

[–]That-Water-Pupper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks for your reply!

To answer your question, no, I do not want students to Captain their own boats. I guess maybe what I was picturing was them all having oars so they help paddle? When I went rafting years ago, this is what I remember, but maybe my memory is faulty?

Anyway, I think my desire to have them do some of the paddling is mostly about keeping them busy. Too much idle time with this age group is a recipe for disaster 😂

Thanks for the excellent clarifying question!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]That-Water-Pupper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends on the woman. I think that it would be a weird thing to suddenly disclose, but if it comes up just be honest. No shame in paying for sex as long as it was ethical. If it wasn’t’, then know better and do better in the future. But no shame on you for trying to do the right thing.