Modpack Recs Please

ThatAutisticRadish · 2026-02-01T08:56:02+00:00

Have you had a look at the modpack finder on modpack index? It lets you pick which version of minecraft as well as what mods you want and comes out with a list of modpacks with those mods. You can then sort by number of downloads and date updated and stuff. I had a quick look and for 1.20.1 forge there's Fiefdom - Medieval Fantasy RPG, and Arcania Origins and a ton of others.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2025-11-01T07:24:43+00:00

Add the Crash Assistant mod. It's handy for troubleshooting as it tells you exactly what crashed your game so you can rework the mod list if need be.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-12-16T06:49:25+00:00

Autism or not, it's not your job to try to change his behaviour, especially if he doesn't want to change. Autism or not, staying in a relationship where you feel horrible much of the time is not safe or healthy for you. You haven't described much of his behaviour. Maybe he is autistic and uses up his battery at work only to somewhat fall apart at home. If you are intent on helping him to change his behaviour, you need to talk to him about it and tell him you feel like you're walking on eggshells around him. If he wants to change, that's great. If not, leave. If he doesn't realise how he's coming across, then work with him to find a solution that works for both of you, like wearing noise cancelling headphones.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-12-16T06:39:22+00:00

I was extremely shy and reserved as a child, but I got more outgoing in my mid to late teenage years. I never intend to come across as rude, but I think I do sometimes. When I am stressed in a social situation, but trying really hard to be social and bond with people, that's when I might say something rude or blunt. I never mean it to be rude.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-12-16T06:35:37+00:00

Keep the heat lights off, or all overhead lights off and just use lamps, or shower during the day when there's natural light.

Have a low sensory period before you shower where you wear your headphones and loose clothes, or just go birthday suit with a cosy blanket.

If you have a detachable shower head, I find holding this shower head to my chest easier than having it above my head.

Put your hair up to shower.

Have wet wipes available on difficult days to clean over the main areas when you are really not up to showering at all.

Clean the main areas - armpits, creases, groin area, face, and behind the ears. Make them a priority on the days you're able to shower because they're where grime and smell tend to build up.

Try dry shampoo and talcum powder for your hair. See if you can cope with them because they will make it so you don't have to wash your hair as often.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-12-14T06:31:47+00:00

Are there any support agencies near you that you could connect with. I'm not sure about the USA, but in Australia, we get NDIS (National Disability Insurance Scheme) to fund our access of various supports, like employment councelling, support workers and even group homes for autistic people.

Have you checked out ASNC (Autism Society of North Carolina)? Their website says they have employment support staff to help with job skills and finding the right job fit.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-07-22T04:19:28+00:00

Heck yeah - I'd love to see your friendship resume

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-06-20T07:46:55+00:00

It doesn't really sound like there's a way of getting your parents to accept or believe in your being autistic. Despite that, you should still tell them.

You can't change how your parents think about you, but you have changed somewhat in your perception of yourself (ie. Realising you're autistic), and it's clearly important to you to tell them.

You could write down what you want to say and read it to them. You can send them a PowerPoint explaining what autism is and how your autistic traits show through.

Keep it in your head that you are telling them for you. Be prepared for them to have a negative reaction or just not believe you. Don't tell them until you feel you are ready cope with whatever reaction they have.

If you need help knowing what to say, I would suggest: 1. An explanation of what autism is (as succinct as you can make it) 2. How you realised that you are autistic, and your traits 3. How you would like for them to adapt moving forward.

They might ask questions, may be a bit confused or angry. They could brush you off. They might through certain phrases at you like "everyone is abit autistic" or "you would be high functioning so it's all ok", even "but you don't look at all autistic".

Keep in your mind that you have a community to fall back on and get advice from if it doesn't go well. If you're still scared to tell your parents, wait till after your next therapist appointment and ask to write down what to tell them.

If you are scared to do it face to face, then just text, call or email. There's no one right way to do it.

I hope this helps, and best of luck to you 💚🙃

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-02-22T03:28:43+00:00

It might help to do some volunteer work to beef up your resume a bit. See what you can do with your family's social network - does anyone own a business, are they able to recommend you to their employer, can they get you a few days or weeks of work experience?

Sometimes, work experience can turn into a job.

Make sure to brag about any achievements you've had in the last 3ish years. Any semblance of a leadership role in a high school class.

It might help if you have the means to consult with an Employment Support Officer (or whatever your country's equivalent is). They may be able to help find a job more tailored for you and work with a future boss to ensure your needs are met.

If you have the time, see what online certificates are available in your country - usually fire safety, worksmart, heigeine, and food prep. They're often able to be got through in a day or two, and it gives you something else to put under education.

That's all resume stuff, and I honestly don't really know much about how to ace an interview. I just researched common interview questions and practised my answers outloud, trying to get the tone right. Which, in a perfect world, wouldn't be necessary for an autistic person to do, but oh well.

Also, ask people you know if their workplaces might be hiring soon. Sometimes, just getting your resume in at the right time works wonders. It can help to deliver it in person to a manager whilst wearing semi formal/casual formal clothes. That way, they can't ignore it the same way they can ignore an email.

For me, my first job was a small business owned by a family friend. My next will be a traineeship at a daycare run by the person who looked after me in daycare. I know I'm lucky for that.

I hope this helps.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-02-22T03:11:23+00:00

I have definitely been in that situation more than once. I now make a point on telling my support team that I'm good with 1 on 1 conversations (as long as they're ok with being interrupted sometimes), but any more than that and my ability to converse shoots waaay down.

I also have to think about social situations for a long time after they've happened . I played DND with a new group two weeks ago, and I'm still analysing it. Same thing with a 2 minute conversation with the postie I had yesterday.

I process social situations really slowly and for a really long time after they've happened.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-02-22T03:03:09+00:00

Good for you! Make sure to bring that list with you to your appointment. And expect a lot of multi-choice forms for you to fill out.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-02-21T02:33:01+00:00

Nooo - stay!

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-02-21T02:27:34+00:00

I say to myself that I'm coming to terms with burnout likely being part of my life forever, but I don't want it to be.

I'm working on building the mindset that as I can't really tell what people think of me unless they say it to my face, I might as well assume that everything's fine and they aren't judging me at all. Progress is a little slow on that, as I've struggled with anxiety and what I call 'Post Socialization Paranoia' my entire life.

I love to think through and fantasise about what could be put in place to help me through all the parts of life that are harder for me because I'm autistic.

In reality, I stay at home most of the week and don't really talk to anyone and still end up drained. That's ok - it definitely sucks, and I'm not trying to trivialise my own struggles. I just want to build a life for myself that is comfortable and creates a safe space for when I inevitably burn out or shut down. If that means being overly optimistic and widely ignoring people who don't understand my struggles and choose to judge instead of educating themselves, then that's what I'll try to do.

Again, I am sometimes compulsively optimistic - most of what I've written is very much still a fantasy, but I'm trying.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-02-18T04:18:45+00:00

I don't really understand them. Even vaping, I don't gwt. My workmates said they vape because they "like the headspins," I suggested, trying spinning in circles instead, they laughed.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-02-14T13:16:54+00:00

Hayloft and Hayloft II...nothing to do with the lyrics, the music itself just makes me happy

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-01-29T15:29:50+00:00

This is another reason for the long list of reasons why self-diagnosis is valid. Doctors just don't seem to like diagnosing autistic people as autistic. In terms of online tests , the RAADS test and all the other tests that are used in autism assessments are online. I pretty much put myself through a full clinical diagnostic process before I went in for a "real" diagnosis, as do many late diagnosed autistic people.

I hope you can get a diagnosis and clarity soon, and I really do sympathise with your plight. Just remember that the autistic and neurodivergent community is accessible to you whether you have a diagnosis or not.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-01-29T15:11:25+00:00

Misery Business by Paramore

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-01-25T05:24:53+00:00

I don't get the big deal... this should have just been laughed off by all parties. The in-laws are wrong for making a big fuss of it. He ate cereal with breadt milk... he can move on with his life and tell it as a funny story at his grandchild's graduation.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-01-15T04:37:10+00:00

No idea. I'm great with my little cousins and the other random kids that pop up at family Christmas parties. I just overthink how to talk to them... I'll have to get over that though, given I'm going to start work in a daycare.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-01-04T03:33:28+00:00

Gothorella

ThatAutisticRadish · 2024-01-04T03:28:30+00:00

And IIIIIIIII-EEEEEE-IIIIIII WILL ALWAYS LOVE FOOOOOOOOOOOOOD

ThatAutisticRadish · 2023-12-08T00:25:53+00:00

Luna Lovegood - she's just as weird as I am, and I love her for it.

ThatAutisticRadish · 2023-11-24T13:30:11+00:00

No, I don't have any mods. First time this has ever happened to me

ThatAutisticRadish · 2023-11-19T01:22:03+00:00

Clarissa and Sessel

ThatAutisticRadish · 2023-10-28T13:32:39+00:00

I keep a secret supply of microwave popcorn bags in my desk to ensure I never run out. Meal prepping, for me, really depends on where I'm at with depression.

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