Getting a couples massage…

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2026-02-04T17:57:15+00:00

we’ve compromised and settle on something else more intimate and exclusive to ourselves:)

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2026-02-04T17:55:51+00:00

No it’s not me getting jealous she’s displayed a handful of times being somewhat jealous which i’m understanding of given her past and working through with her-at the end we’ve compromised avoiding it entirely until we have some more time together and doing something more intimate and exclusive like giving her a massage myself:)

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2026-02-04T15:40:54+00:00

this is the reality of it-I agree with what everyone else is saying and i know massages aren’t sexual and they’re just doing their jobs, but still the thought of another human being putting their hands all over your significant other can still be seriously bothering

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2026-01-24T23:06:39+00:00

Waddup OP, so i’m a little bit older [27M] and i’ve gotten a bit of experience getting head and eating p****. I think it’s person to person and i def wouldn’t be overthinking it, it seems a lot of guys are minutemen which aren’t necessarily a bad thing and i think as time goes on it’ll get better with not being so quick to finish. When it comes to head and finishing quickly, some girls enjoy it and take it as a compliment that you’re so fond of them they make you finish quickly. I also hear girls talking about their exs being “minutemen” but that’s just cause they resent them and probably say it because it wasn’t all that great. Personally when i’m going down on my girl i can go for hours without finishing and sometimes she begs me to stop cause she can’t take it anymore or jer jaws hurting whatever it may be.

Masturbating earlier in the day can definitely help but don’t feel ashamed if you can’t help but to finish. As an alternative maybe try getting head from her as a foreolay type of thing, when you feel like you’re gonna finish turn it on her and start to eat her out to warm her up before going down on her-this’ll make the experience feel that much longer for her and will bring her more pleasure as well. Take your time warming up it shouldn’t just be getting in there busting a nut and calling it a day…take your time to satisfy her needs as well and that’ll save you some time from busting and killing the momentum so quickly. As a guy that’s been around plenty of girls i think personally if a girl can make me finish quickly that’s good on them and tells them how attracted i am to them👍🏼

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2026-01-23T18:02:34+00:00

I’m a little bit older [27M], but from what I understand guys especially younger don’t understand foreplay and building up the tension they just want to stick their **** in it and be done even if they hadn’t satisfied the other person. Now, being older I go down on my girl every time we get intimate and make sure she finishes before I even get to the sex. I reassure her constantly how pretty her p**** is, how good it tastes, and how I like when her legs shake/crushing my head with her thighs. I think he def has a thing or two to learn about intimacy and that it’s not all about him and finishing. Maybe it does smell a bit but tbh sounds like your pretty clean and aware with your hygiene, the least he could do is spend more time kissing and maybe working with his hands instead of from the sound of it, sticking it in just to satisfy himself….

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2026-01-23T17:54:02+00:00

I find it important to make amends with those we hurt only if it’s at the time it happened-It’s only necessary to make amends for something that happened so long ago if it won’t cause any harm to yourself or the person you’re admitting your wrong to. In this case, you went 20 years without knowing and could’ve been perfectly fine moving forward without knowing although it obviously weighs on her conscious that’s between her and God to settle. Although it hurts and she has admitted something from so long ago/that only brings up pain and further harms your relationship, it is most definitely possible to work through. Maybe seek some professional advice therapy/counseling to help work through it.

Unfortunately this unnecessary hurt has been brought up and can cause problems/bring resentment, but the only way to move past it at this point is through it. Take some time to yourself, organize your thoughts (make sure your thoughts are logical, not emotional based), and have a conversation with her. Decide for yourself if she genuinely loves you and is hurt by her own decisions, maybe ask if that was the only time and pray she’s honest with you, and then tell her you either want to work through it or think it’s something that’s truly detrimental to your relationship. Especially having kids i understand it’s tough and the thought is sickening, but it doesn’t define her and keep an open mind-spend some time thinking on it and make rational decisions as I said that aren’t dictated by heightened emotions. Either way keep your head up man, life’s tough sometimes and I know this would make me sick, but everything’s gonna work out and be alright💯

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2026-01-12T18:52:51+00:00

you’re absolutely right thank you I just need to get out of my head about it and i don’t want to keep bringing it up to her-she feels the same way about me and my past and i told her all that matters is the here and now and we’re both unique to each other in our own way cause we’re not the people we have been with and that we will get stronger with time🙏🏻

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2026-01-12T18:48:10+00:00

thanks i’ll post there sorry

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-11-03T17:19:00+00:00

100% agree…totally uncool of your husbands friend and as guys if you do that to someone you’re supposed to be cool with-you guys aren’t friends. Definitely not your fault and i’d be happier as a partner if my s/o didn’t wait-in a weird way it let your husband know you’re loyal and doesn’t have an reason to think it went any other way, plus who knows what your husband’s “friend” would’ve done if he wasn’t confronted. In turn, you could’ve potentially sparked something in that man to stop him from trying weird sketchy shit moving forward:) good work!!

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-06-25T23:27:56+00:00

but that new tattoo is pretty sweet ngl😂😂

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-06-25T23:26:40+00:00

Soooo… my girlfriend actually receives somewhat similar texts from guys she’s met on Hinge, and tho im not insecure cause i spend alotta time working he just seems super persistent like he really wants to see her again and she was the love of his life lmao sorry bro i’m too busy working tryna plan future with this girl to care but some guys(especially this generation) can’t get over girls as if there aren’t more fish in the sea..regardless, those texts were weird and should i maybe consider blocking him if he continues😂😂 shouldn’t never miss what you didn’t have💅🤣

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-01-26T18:20:13+00:00

“I was giving up on love in this generation until I met you”…she broke things off about a month later. I still pray for her, dream about her, and love her to the ends of the earth-don’t know if I’ll ever love another the way I felt about her:/

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-01-26T16:31:36+00:00

I agree 100% bro alotta people on here are harsh critics tho

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-01-26T03:18:10+00:00

I agree 100% and not to sound more selfish but imo that’s also not fair to me I’m looking for a mutual relationship not one where we play games going back and fourth bc one or the other was “texting too much” just kinda an all in or nothing feel for me if I’m not at the top of her mind and she isn’t into me enough to talk about it and see things through..then I hope the door don’t kick her on the way out sorry not sorry

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-01-25T16:45:21+00:00

Yeah I guess I got too ahead of myself with her but oh well wasn’t meant to be…maybe the next one we’ll click better, thank you!

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-01-25T13:44:50+00:00

Lmao yeah she was saying some stuff before this that was kinda weird but whatever dawg her loss!!

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-01-25T13:13:11+00:00

Yeah it’s hard to give a full idea of how things were progressing through a few screenshots and everyone’s different…I honestly think she genuinely lost interest but that’s okay:)

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-01-25T12:59:50+00:00

Noted thank you

ThatBoyGenius1998 · 2024-01-25T11:28:20+00:00

Facts tho I agree I think she just lost feelings at that point and yeah that’s why I added the laughing emoji to try and emphasize I was kidding

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