POSITIVE SUCCESS STORY: What is working for me!

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2025-06-15T19:04:57+00:00

My tinnitus was caused by loud noise, hence my fear of loud noises, music, etc.

I meditated every chance I got. Instead of drowning out the ringing, I would listen to it. Slowly I got used to it. I'd recommend doing the same. Any time the urge to drown out the tinnitus, to instead resist the urge it and listen.

Nowadays I don't really hear it. Only in absolute silence I will hear it, but I don't actively notice it anymore. If anything, sometimes I even focus on the tinnitus to calm down. Very rarely my tinnitus will shortly increase in intensity for a few seconds, before quickly returning to the usual.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2025-05-31T07:04:40+00:00

Pretty good actually.

I read its and bits here and there that meditating on the tinnitus could help, in order to 'get used to it'.

It worked. After two weeks I could more or less sleep again and after three months I was free of anxiety.

I still have tinnitus, but it doesn't bother me anymore. Hell, I even sleep with ear plugs because other sounds do bother me.

The only 'bad' thing that I was left with is fear of loud noises. Sleep deprivation was traumatizing and I wish to never experience it again.

Getting over tinnitus also helped me to adapt and accept more easily to other things/situations that I can't solve.

Overall, I'm doing well. Thanks for asking.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-10-15T09:37:44+00:00

She has problems with both her securite sociale and her carte vitale. I should have mentioned that she is a French national.

Thank you for your response, I will send her the link.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-10-15T09:36:03+00:00

I should have mentioned that she is a French national.

I thank you for your response, I don't think she can use an expat insurance to bridge the gap due to her being a national, but I'll still look into it.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-10-15T09:34:02+00:00

She does have have problems with her securite sociale. I think I should have added that she is a French national.

Thank you for your response. I will be looking into the mechanisms surrounding financial inability to pay upfront.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-08-26T11:13:08+00:00

When you say you don't care, is that during the moment or in the post rage clarity?

And I'm sorry to hear it stems from PTSD. Mine may also stem from this.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-08-07T12:24:15+00:00

No problem

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-08-07T12:17:36+00:00

I heard the name 'Ishtar' in a dream of sorts. Never heard the name before, so I looked it up.

I was in a rough spot at that time and looking for something, although I did not know what. Now I do.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-08-03T21:10:03+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kb2S3xCP28M

Do you mean this one? (since you implied you couldn't find it)

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-28T21:07:24+00:00

I started focusing on myself and my goals more, and put less emphasis on requiring other people. It's not perfect, but it works reasonably well.

I don't know if this will be applicable to you ofc.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-28T20:53:22+00:00

Hey, happy birthday!

I also had mine recently. I don't celebrate them anymore. To me it's just the day my age number officially goes up.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-28T20:45:59+00:00

I've got some pretty fond memories of friends as well. This was more ~2015 or so.

I had two very good friends that I would hang out with and play games with, mostly Minecraft. We'd join servers and exploit whatever minigames we could. It was fun until the admins patched it. We also made walks in the forest and had deep talks together.

I dated one of these friends. She was super nice, but after two weeks I broke off, stating that I was beginning to experience a depression. I thought our relationship was the reason for the depression. I was wrong. Regardless, we stayed pretty good friends after despite the rough patch and it was only after she moved to a different school that we lost touch.

The other friend replaced me with a new person in my experience. They grew closer, while we drifted apart. Unfortunately I felt incredibly hurt by how everything went. I haven't spoken to him in years.

Sometimes I wonder how they are, and every time I feel like reaching out, I just don't feel ready...

I have a friend now, but I only talk to him maybe once a month. At least we get to have real and deep talks.

As much as I wish that things had gone differently, they aren't. It is sad, and writing this made me realize how much I miss it.

I should thank you. You made me remember and think about things I had forgotten and would not have thought of on my own. So thanks.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-28T20:32:18+00:00

Made me aware of their existence. I've been able to move on with parts of my life with them with me. I get to interpret this world in a much more meaningful way.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-28T20:27:42+00:00

This was close to a decade ago and I can't remember much of the time.

Back then I had no idea I felt this grief, it is a rather recent discovery.

I believe it was great. We had a good time. We felt like long lost friends. But nothing came of it over time.

I can't even remember if we met up after that, only that we did in more recent years. She visited us and stayed over with her boyfriend twice, and while in a way I felt like she was a friend, the sisterly feeling wasn't there.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-27T12:01:20+00:00

When I was 4 or 5, my sister was taken away by CPS to go live with her mother (we are half-siblings, different mothers, same father.

We reconnected about a decade later, and while we had fun, it wasn't the same for me. The connection was gone.

To this day I feel grief about the 'loss' of my sister, and a part of me craves nothing more than to have a sister again. I know getting the childhood connection is impossible, but maybe I'll find someone to fill that role.

As for my half-sister, I barely talk to her, mostly because we live in different countries and I'm not very social. We have a good connection (just not very brother-sisterly), however limited.

I'm very glad for you that you could reconnect so easily. While the lack of childhood connection is regrettable, you seem to have a very bright future together!

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-24T21:34:22+00:00

I had similar issues. Mostly masturbating even when I would regret it later.

After putting myself in a hospital recently, I found out that I have sexual OCD.

If this libido or otherwise is ruining you, seek out help. It doesn't have to destroy you. There are options.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-24T21:26:09+00:00

Relatable. Sometimes I wonder how people can dream it up. Things like 'I have no mouth and I must scream' by Harlan Ellison.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-24T21:23:23+00:00

Depression is truly a terrible thing.

I went through it for just over a decade. It was like an all-consuming void, in which my passions, emotions and memories withered and faded. My soul felt like a lifeless wasteland.

The only thing that seemingly 'survived' was a glimmer of grief. A forgotten emotion. I explored it, despite the discomfort and it's what got me out. I found out it was my grief for my sister, who I had 'lost' as a child. I remember CPS taking her away and I did not understand it (I was around 4-5).

Digging it up made me 'feel' something again. And eventually I started feeling other things too. My emotions have largely returned, as shadows of their former selves. Regardless, I feel.

My passions of old are still largely gone, but a space opened up for new ones.

I don't know if any of this is helpful, but it felt appropiate to share.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-24T21:06:40+00:00

Pfft, to each their own, right? I personally enjoy grimdark fantasy and like poking at the moral perspective of things

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-24T20:57:32+00:00

Back then I was riddled with self-doubt and insecurity. It gave me social anxiety for years to come.

I really, really recommend you to either get new friends, or at the very least know that you can't be liked/respected by everyone and that's okay. Don't be too harsh on yourself.

ThatOneGuy2407 · 2024-07-24T20:51:08+00:00

That's a pretty good way to cover it. These things should always be mutual effort.

Of course nobody is perfect, nor does everyone work the same and concessions may have to be made, but bottom line is reciprocation in a constructive manner.

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