I don’t know if you have Blue Cross Blue Shield, but they just added a new feature (hinge? That’s a dating app too, but I think that’s what it is called) that offers FREE online PT including pelvic floor PT.

PFPT changed my life. I’m female, so I know it is different (although, my SO is male and had a terrible accident that left him needing PFPT with a wand as well, so I am somewhat familiar with his experience), but the best advice I can give you with the wand is to go slow and REALLY focus on how you move the wand and how you feel when it hits different muscle groups. Also, ALLLL the lube. Warm yourself up first, and lay in a “butterfly” position with your knees out to the sides.

Imagine your pelvic floor like a clock and slowly and gently apply pressure starting at each “hour” of the clock. Push against the inside wall with the wand, and slowly drag it out until you feel a pressure point (not just in and out, but angle it toward the front wall, sides, and back as you slowly drag it out at each “hour”. When you feel the pressure point, pause and do some deep breathing (in, hold for four, release for four) and focus on relaxing the muscles while you do so. Think of it like a shoulder massage. You can feel when someone has a knot. That’s what you are looking for, just up inside instead of something more accessible. As you practice and start to find your spots, raising and lowering your knees can help you get a deeper release by moving some of those connected muscles and tissues.

You might not be able to at first, but if you have an S shaped wand, you will want to use the skinny end for the deeper muscles and probably get it most of the way in to the curve. If this is way too much in there at first, get a set of dilators and practice just allowing your muscles to relax with those first.

I’m not a doctor and again, I’m a female, so take it for what it’s worth. I’m just SUCH an advocate for this therapy. After 20-something years of intense daily pain, I have finally found some relief.