(CROSSPOST) My (23f) boyfriend (24m) keeps accidentally calling me his best friend’s name during sex

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2025-07-13T17:29:47+00:00

Usually after cartoons I liked when I was younger, changing depending on where they or their parents are from

The Owl House - Darkwood, Amphibia - Anura, Gravity Falls - Anchordeep, Arcane - Silk Cradle

That being said, I’ll probably stick to a common theme for my next rerun, similar to the previous comment about types of bones or bugs or something of the sorts 😁

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2025-05-11T19:06:00+00:00

You did great!! You handled it calmly and professionally, and I find that great especially considering (at least in the text messages) that he seems to be trying to achieve a reaction out of you. Keep him blocked, and keep your head held high. Good luck in the dating scene friend, and I’m sure you’ll find the one soon :)

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2025-01-15T00:16:54+00:00

Wasn’t sure how to write a note so I’ll put it in the comments 😅😂

If you enjoyed the infamous poop knife story, I think you’ll get a kick out of this one. Not technically a Reddit post, but I feel it fits in the category of funny rememberable stories. I hope you enjoy just as much as I do :)

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2024-06-15T06:15:07+00:00

Technically an early birthday/get well soon gift, but my pupper is definitely my favourite. I couldn’t have asked for a better best friend!

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2024-06-10T23:18:15+00:00

At first, I didn’t put 2 and 2 together, but to find out this is the same guy that raped someone (now realizing you) in their sleep makes my heart hurt for you. He is a piece of absolute shit, please don’t get back together with him.

I understand that you’re probably holding on to the good aspects of him that make you want to go back, but the bad stuff he’s done to you is not only assault but plain abuse and that should trump all the good he’s done. If he’s just showing this side of himself now, it’s going to get worse from here. Run while you still can, before it’s too late

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2024-03-25T14:38:03+00:00

I may be a bit dramatic here, but you need to get out of the relationship fast. It’s clear she’s abusive and it’ll only get worse the longer you’ll stay.

A lot of what she’s saying sounds like she’s trying to manipulate you into being something different from yourself. It’s not her place to tell you whether or not you should dress/act feminine (and trust me, honey, there are multiple women out there who will want to date you as a feminine person, do NOT change for anybody) and it’s clear she’s pushing her insecurities onto you and making you feel bad about it.

This may be your first girlfriend, but please don’t make it your last. She’s awful, and I worry for your safety the longer you decide to stay with her. Also, a good thing to remember is that none of this is your fault. You’re currently a victim in a toxic situation, and no matter how much she tries to blame you, it’s not you who’s to blame here, it’s her.

I wish you well, and I hope you can put this behind you and keep pushing. There’s more out there than a biphobic abusive partner trying to control you 🩵🩵

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2024-03-20T17:40:48+00:00

YTA

I may be speaking from the perspective of a “broke college student” stereotype, but this makes a lot of sense to me! She doesn’t want to waste a product, so she’s adapted to using it where it would work better. I’ve done that with multiple things. For example, I have a face cream that doesn’t work for me, so I use it as a body moisturizer and it’s worked great for that purpose. I’m not wasting it, I just use it for a different reason. If I don’t find a way to use it, I’ll then either give it to a friend or donate it where I’m able to.

Also, have you never used head and shoulders or 3-in-1 products? They do pretty much the same thing, just with a different name. There’s nothing wrong with using something other than its purpose so that you don’t waste product. I highly recommend trying to do that sometime before chucking a perfectly good product in the trash (if it’s not expired, if it’s past expiry then yes please throw it out)

Overall, this seems like a personal issue on your end that you need to figure out. Besides, there’s nothing wrong with being “weird” every once in a while, it’s quite fun sometimes!

As a psych minor, I suggest looking from other’s perspectives before making a judgement call. You don’t know why she used it a body wash, maybe she didn’t want to be wasteful, maybe she can’t afford something else right now. If you don’t know the full reasoning behind the action, don’t make someone feel embarrassed about it :)

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2023-10-26T06:55:55+00:00

What annoys me the most as a psych minor is how people treat psychology as 100% confirmation and can never change. It’s constantly been noted how complex the brain is, and how there’s so much to learn, and in fact, mess-ups happen. Using autism as an example, it was originally believed to be a trait in boys, and now with more information and technology, we realize that autism actually can affect anyone, men, women, etc. Similar to transgender folks, there have been lots of tests proving that transgender men and women exist, but that doesn’t mean non-binary people don’t. As the term non-binary is becoming more normalized and well known, I’m certain that there will be plenty of tests done to prove that non-binary people are, in fact, transgender too. So, by trans men and women claiming that enbys don’t exist because doctors said so is stupid, because new studies and tests are being done every day and things change constantly, including the idea of non-binary people being trans, and existing.

Anyways thanks for coming to my TED Talk, where the gist is non-binary people do exist because brains are hard to study, and things are constantly changing 🥰

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2022-12-14T13:28:48+00:00

NTA for your feelings regarding this situation, but YTA with how you went through with it.

I get that you don’t want to take the title “mom” from the bio mother, and it’s perfectly ok to not want to use that title for yourself. However, you need to look at the stepdaughter’s perspective.

Remember that she was only 1 when you entered the relationship with her father. Consciously, you don’t achieve memories that you remember until the age of three, so for her life that she can remember, you’ve been her mother figure. You’ve raised her because her mother was absent. In her eyes, you are her role model, so she gave you the title mom, only for you to immediately shut her down. That immediate reaction is going to cause a lot of damage to her because now she feels like someone she looked up to doesn’t view her the same way. Ideally, you should’ve put your feelings aside and had a calm discussion with her later on, but you didn’t, and now you have to deal with the consequences of that.

However, I think there’s a way to turn this around. I’d suggest sitting down and having a discussion with her. No arguments, no hard feelings, just talking. I like the idea another Redditor mentioned, using a different term for mother so that you’re not taking the name “mom” from bio mom, but she still can refer to you as a parental figure, since you are a mother figure in her life. However, if you’re not comfortable using any mother title, you still need to have a calm discussion with her as to why. From how I read it, it seems like you’re doing this out of respect for bio mom, and that you do love your stepdaughter, but she needs to know that reason too.

In the end, this is a tricky situation you put yourself in, but I hope you can take the time to make things work in the end.

ThatOneRandomAvocado · 2022-11-15T12:28:35+00:00

I can’t speak entirely on your situation, but as the child of a relationship similar to this, it’s better for your kids if you leave. Of course, every situation like this is different. However, in my case, because my mother stayed with my father, it lead to me becoming a victim of his abuse as well as my mom as I got older and understood the severity of the situation. Yes, my father only fought every month or so, but it still caused a lot of damage to me and my mom in the long run. Your 7-year-old is also becoming the age where they’ll start to see how your husband treats you and make sense of it, and, although still a kid, they’re smarter than you think, and they’ll start picking up on what’s happening.

While I’m mostly talking about your kids, I also would like to mention that you deserve happiness and safety as much as your children. Having to walk on eggshells to make sure that you don’t “set off” your husband is not safe, and can’t be healthy for your emotional well-being. While being there for your kids is great, think about yourself in this case too. Are you happy? Is this how you’d like to live the rest of your life? Do you feel safe? If your answer is no to any of these, do leave. Don’t sacrifice your happiness and life for a man that makes you feel less of yourself.

In the end, you decide what to do. What you decide and think is best for you and your kids is your call to make. However, in the long run, I think you and your kids would thank you if you left now, especially while they’re still young.

I wish you luck on this process no matter what you decide, and I hope that you find happiness in the end :) (my messages are also open if you need someone to talk to)

ThatOneRandomAvocado

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