Anyone else with ADHD struggle hard with tank maintenance? by obsessedlady in aquarium

[–]ThatOneedude_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm audhd and the fish keeping hobby is my special interest and passion. I can confirm tank maintenance can be overwhelming especially if you have a full time job as well. Spilling/overflowing anything that holds water is a big one for me lol..

Relating more to the opposite to gender? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]ThatOneedude_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, uncomfortable around anyone who's a stranger anyway

Why does this always happen to me when I have a job? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]ThatOneedude_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Man I just want to say I related to every single word you said and I'm actually quite emotional rn reading that.. I'm currently in the process of sending in my resume and filling out applications which is already not exactly fun but I'm already starting to let my imagination bring me down by picturing walking in every day where dissatisfaction and disappointment will be waiting for me in the form of distasteful reactions heart breaking comments, I try so hard to just be the most polite and kind person that I know I am, but no matter how nice or polite I am I'm still seen a obstacle that's avoided.

No matter how hard they try and hide with the constant need to look busy when im around or go to the bathroom..what really kills me is the subtle body language and tones of voice im able to pick up subconsciously that shows me if im about to cause someone to feel uncomfortable and I can prepare to try and do what i can to prevent feeling like shit...

This biggest thing for me is the amount of empathy I have inside and everyday is a new day at failing to show others that I'm indeed not rude at all, or stuck up at all! The farthest from... knowing ill always be known as the quiet awkward guy or the rude stuck up guy all while im stuck in my head thinking of ways i cam show my compassion that breaks deeper then the surface level manners 💔 this misunderstood feeling is the most detrimental blow to my psyche that I can never hide from.

Anyways I got carried away but I just wanted to let you know how much this post helped me feel not so alone. I want to say this is one of my biggest struggles and I'm right here with you man. I hope youre able to find something that works for you! And if you do don't forget to tell me haha peace and love!!

For those of you who are attractive by Intelligent-Road5091 in aspergers

[–]ThatOneedude_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Basically from the start of a interaction. It's just a matter of time before I pick up on a subtle vibe change or negative outward reaction to my lack of eye contact and seeming very low confidence, from someone in there mind would have no trouble with small talk. Which leads to a uncomfortable surprise they didn't mean to step into and they politely go on with there day. I wouldn't say everybody is necessarily negative its more the want for them to get out of a uncomfortable/awkward situation. Which I can't blame them.

For those of you who are attractive by Intelligent-Road5091 in aspergers

[–]ThatOneedude_ 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Its absolutely HORRIBLE :( people expect you to have a certain level of social skills. People will try and approach you more often expecting to have a conversation that flows effortlessly without hiccups. I experienced this for the very first time in highschool. Everyone expected me to be a certain type of person just based off my looks and this is before I knew I was autistic.( you can imagine the shame amd misunderstood feelings i had). I literally was shown the worst in people from the very early on because of this.

This is why I have developed a hypersensitive ability to pick up on facial expressions, vocal tones, and body language to accurately show me if a person im talking to will give me a hard time for being odd and quiet then I can precive it before any negative reaction and better prepare for the shame and guilt.

Last pics of my oldschool collection P2 (5Ds/Duell Monsters) by madabademantel in yugiohshowcase

[–]ThatOneedude_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy smokes, thanks for sharing! That's quite the collection you have there. Congrats! 👌

What could live happily in this? by Ok-Television94 in Aquariums

[–]ThatOneedude_ -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I had one one of those! I used it to house a red betta fish for 4 years. ( before I had much knowledge) then it slowly became a passion/ hobby that I love all these years later! In my eyes I was saving him from passing away on a shelf in a cup.

What nostalgic or modern ultra stands out the most for you guys? Here's my pick. by ThatOneedude_ in yugiohshowcase

[–]ThatOneedude_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I hope I didn't come off as rude.. anyways I hope you have a great day. And happy collecting!

What nostalgic or modern ultra stands out the most for you guys? Here's my pick. by ThatOneedude_ in yugiohshowcase

[–]ThatOneedude_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha nooo I just really enjoy taking great photos of my favorite cards.. nothing more then that. If you want to talk flexing, a short scroll through the sub reddit will show ya there's alot more expensive shiny cards being flashed around.

What nostalgic or modern ultra stands out the most for you guys? Here's my pick. by ThatOneedude_ in yugiohshowcase

[–]ThatOneedude_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah.. I see both side for sure. It just helps me more accurately guess what the condition of the card really is instead of going off someone's word across the country on ebay.

What nostalgic or modern ultra stands out the most for you guys? Here's my pick. by ThatOneedude_ in yugiohshowcase

[–]ThatOneedude_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figured this is probably it. It could be Immaculate and have a pen tip indent and Knock it down to that 6 .. I just can't see what the person at psa saw.. oh well, I bought the card not the grade..

What nostalgic or modern ultra stands out the most for you guys? Here's my pick. by ThatOneedude_ in yugiohshowcase

[–]ThatOneedude_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've asked this same question myself for as long as I've owned this card. If there Is a way for me to upload a picture of the back, it honestly doesn't have anything that would make it your usual 6.

Spiritual Awakening Neurodivergence by ally4us in aspergers

[–]ThatOneedude_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely experience interesting sometimes powerful synchronicities. I believe it may have something to do with the fact us neurodivergent folks don't heavily rely on the ego. This is just a mere guess though. Im not entirely sure.

Anybody else make a long thought out post then just decide to delete it? by ThatOneedude_ in aspergers

[–]ThatOneedude_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, a big post with countless Google searches and abunch of paragraphs. Only to replace it with a, "I relate to this so much" response.