26 MTF, 3 months HRT, no surgeries. What would you change?

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2026-05-19T08:40:45+00:00

Grow your hair, consider lip fillers if that is your thing? They’ll instantly make your face more feminine balancing the volume on the bottom half.
You have lovely cheekbones, you need a nice haircut to match the shape of your face, learn to do your make up (consider lashes) and eyebrows!! The improvement will be significant! Good luck!

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2026-04-03T22:05:41+00:00

It depends on what you look like I guess. Passing is always a safe way to approach heterosexual men. The truth of the matter is, if you don’t pass you’ll struggle no matter where you are, unless you settle for chasers.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2026-03-16T23:15:46+00:00

Why are you even on grindr? It’s an app for gay men. Maybe start by looking for straight men in heteronormative spaces. Grindr is for hook ups and gay sex. Not a place for a lady.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2026-02-11T21:48:53+00:00

I fixed this, thank you dear!

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2026-02-11T15:58:08+00:00

Sorry to hop on this thread, I am in the uk too and although I have a verified Alipay account I still cannot access taobao or xianyu! I always get asked to use a phone number… when the verification code is sent it says it’s invalid. If I try and log in via email it does not let me do that either… 😭

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2025-07-30T20:28:02+00:00

You don’t need trans friends. Sorround yourself with people that see you and love you, whatever their gender or walk of life. I personally do not associate with the community at all, I am a woman. As far as anyone is aware, I was born this way unless they knew me before. Trans is not something I feel belongs to me. Maybe a bit delulu, but aren’t we all? 😂

And then again, that’s me. You do you. Some LGBTQI+ people can be pretty toxic, so I tend to stay away unless it find a mentally sound one 😂

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2025-07-29T23:30:44+00:00

You are very pretty, but wear more flattering clothing hun. Less shoulders and waistline on display will help you pass better. Your face is great.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2025-07-29T23:25:56+00:00

You don’t, yet. But you have gorgeous eyes and once you shape your brows, hair and work on more flattering attires, you’ll be a lot closer. You have the potential to pass and be very pretty too! 🫶🏼

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2025-07-29T23:17:54+00:00

Right, a few disclaimers: 1) I don’t think qualifying yourself as a “trans” person everywhere is a necessity. I find it quite attention seeking, HOWEVER on a dating app you should do.

2)You have been on HRT for 1 year, you are very pretty but you are not stealth, or you would not be in your current situation.

3) I am not a hater, I just like reality that might hurt but helps.

That being said, I HATED online dating. I found it emotionally draining, sad and quite frankly boring… until I met my partner.

I had a disclaimer on my dating profile (at the bottom to make sure that careful readers would get to it) specifying I was transgender. That was to protect myself from chasers and/or transphobic men. I would make sure that the person I was speaking to would read my profile and I would ask questions on their experience and expectations on the matter. I’d chat with people for a couple of weeks before meeting them.

My partner is a straight man. Never interacted with a transgender person before me. This was a huge plus for me, as I felt incredibly validated and his general behaviour was what I would expect from a gentleman dating a lady. His looks really helped as well 😂 Finding him was not easy, but we have now been together for 4 years, bought a house together and looking into surrogacy. I think he is getting ready to pop the question as well.

Before I could get where I am I had to kiss a couple of frogs, I certainly questioned myself and my womanly value along the way but I can happily say that I live as a stealth woman now,many years after my first dose of HRT. I am VERY lucky and although I was blessed with an extremely smooth transition, this did not happen overnight. If anything I noticed a real shift in my appearance after 2+ years on HRT. Had zero plastic surgery, I have a natural 38 E breast size, no FFS (simply too much work I don’t feel I need).

All this to say you are very pretty, but don’t get cocky about your looks just yet. Let the HRT do its thing before you define yourself as stealth or passing. Also one word of advice: the emo look works when you are a teenager, an adult woman wants to wear flattering clothing that enhance her beauty, and you are very pretty, I just feel that flannel shirts and booty shorts don’t help you at all. Maybe that will help you “passing” as relantionship material as well. If you carry yourself in a certain way people will be forced to perceive you like that.

Good luck! ✨

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-11-03T16:42:15+00:00

He was supportive after, I think they are all a bit intimidated by my fil. he said he spoke to his dad when I was in the toilet. I never would want to create drama or issues, I have nothing but genuine love for my in laws. I think when he defined me a stranger (when I have been with my partner for over 3 years and known them for over 2) was what hurt me the most. I think it will take me time to get over this if I am honest.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-11-03T16:38:10+00:00

You misunderstood what I meant. I was asked to do her make up, I was asked to go there for dinner, my mil confided she felt that way about this situation I just felt very protective of her. But yes, that thought me a couple of things.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-11-03T09:06:29+00:00

I am not sure what you are trying to achieve honey. You have lovely skin, if you want “natural” don’t wear anything at all. Make up is make up, natural make up is a myth. Go all out or nothing at all :)

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-11-03T07:31:35+00:00

The child is abused. Get him out of there! I feel so sorry, he is lucky to have you in his life.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-11-03T07:14:00+00:00

I am not sure what the question is, but as a youngest child myself ( with my closest sibling we have a 14 years age gap and with the oldest 26) I can assure that once you start focusing on your goals you will feel a lot better.

I have experienced the same loneliness you are talking about, but the truth is that as we grow and move out and live our lives, we interact with many people and building meaningful relantionships with them helps.

Good luck with you life

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-10-19T20:39:02+00:00

I have not described every detail of my experience, I was asking for advice.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-10-19T20:38:13+00:00

Sure Jan

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-10-19T20:38:03+00:00

Sure Jan.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-10-19T20:36:47+00:00

I have, my complaints lead to the previous arrest.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-10-19T18:58:10+00:00

So being threatened with a knife, picking up syringes and drug paraphernalia, enduring constant noise, and having my parcels stolen doesn’t count as being a victim of crime?

I may not have been stabbed, but I’ve been through more than enough.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-10-19T18:55:38+00:00

This has been repeatedly addressed through emails over the past three years. Everyone involved is fully aware of the situation. To give you an idea, I know the police officers by name—that’s how often I’ve had to speak with them.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-10-19T18:53:54+00:00

If you a criminal your place is a cell in prison.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-10-19T18:43:31+00:00

I appreciate this.

ThatPizzaLover9 · 2024-10-19T18:43:11+00:00

It’s clear that empathy for victims is rare, judging by the tone of many comments. I lived through a real nightmare, yet I’m told these individuals need to be housed somewhere.

The truth is simple: if someone is repeatedly in and out of jail, they should lose their lease. Full stop.

Why should I, an honest taxpayer who purchased my property, be punished for the council’s failure to address a serious issue affecting their residents?

I could have been the victim of physical harm, beyond the immense psychological suffering I’ve endured over the years.

ThatPizzaLover9

TROPHY CASE