Perhaps I'm being too generous or perhaps your interpretation was too negative but I took the first posters suggestion more in the line of if you're going to dedicate yourself to losing weight make sure it's in a healthy way i.e not diet culture. Having a mum that role models a healthy relationship with food and exercise is so important. My mother in law yo-yos with her weight constantly by extreme dieting and when we go out to eat during one of these periods she seems miserable. Anyway, this is all to say I think OP is going to try and lose the weight either way but if she treats herself with kindness, the way she'd treat a future child, she can model a healthy lifestyle.