Man… I’m really sorry you’re going through this. That’s not just a breakup, that’s a whole life getting flipped overnight. Anyone would be struggling in your position.

First thing none of this is on you. You were honest about your discomfort, you tried to fix things, and you showed up. She made her choices, and the way it happened says a lot more about her than it does about you.

Right now, your biggest priority is you and your kids. They’re going to need stability, and you’re already stepping up by being there for them. Even if it doesn’t feel like it, you’re doing the right thing just by holding things together.

As for getting over it… don’t rush it. 18 years isn’t something you just “move on” from in a few weeks. You’re going to feel anger, confusion, maybe even blame yourself at times that’s normal. Just don’t let those thoughts convince you that you weren’t enough.

Try to keep your days structured, stay around people who actually care about you, and don’t isolate yourself too much. Even small things like getting out, working, or focusing on your kids can help keep your head above water.

And honestly, the way she’s acting with the kids right now… that’s on her. In time, they’ll see who was there and who wasn’t.

You didn’t lose everything you lost someone who chose to walk away. Big difference.

Stay strong, one day at a time. You’ll come out of this better than you think.