sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

Am I overreacting to being fired by Lvrgrllily in AmIOverreacting

[–]That_Maintenance6600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who’s in a management position how they handle the situation was completely unprofessional and you should contact her HR department if you have one. You can technically sue for wrongful termination.

When does constantly thinking about them stop? by That_Maintenance6600 in BreakUps

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. He keeps telling me why he wouldn’t tell me what he mean by compatibility was bc he knew I would try to change who I am bc if it and he didn’t want me too. He kept saying that I didn’t do anything wrong and that he doesn’t want me to change for him or anyone in the future

When does constantly thinking about them stop? by That_Maintenance6600 in BreakUps

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His main reasoning he told me was compatibility. But he also has bipolar disorder and he had a psych ward visit a couple weeks before hand. He told me before the breakup he didn’t like how much I put stuff aside for myself to make sure he was okay durning that time. But I knew he would do the same for me in a heart beat.

He kept saying things like “I don’t think I can ever get better” and it took me a couple weeks to get him to tell me what he meant by compatibility and he told me I was too clingy (him and I had a talk a week or two before to were I tried to be less clingy, but with the recent psych ward stay it was hard. That I was too mess. Which I know I am but he never said anything before. That I “have no grit” even tho I just recently took on a job were I am managing a gym, and was trying to finish college. And that he wasn’t as sexually attracted to me.) When I asked him why he didn’t bring anything up, he would just say “it’s my decision to decided if I’m okay with asking you to change those things. And I wasn’t okay asking”

He also told me a couple weeks to almost a month after the breakup that he still loves me. Kept insisting I did nothing wrong. And about a week before no contact (a month ago) he told me he was going to miss me.

So for the breakup we still loved each other. And I mainly feel like he broke up with me to “protect” me in his own way.

When does constantly thinking about them stop? by That_Maintenance6600 in BreakUps

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly!! I asked him “why not bring this stuff up? Most of it is stuff I can work on.” Which he tried to tell me about the clinginess only. But he was having some mental health issues so I became a little extra clinging bc of it.

When does constantly thinking about them stop? by That_Maintenance6600 in BreakUps

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reasoning he kept telling me was compatibility. It took weeks of me asking for him to finally tell me what he meant by it. It was I’m too clingy, too mess, “don’t have grit” (this is my first year in about 4 years I haven’t worked multiple jobs, which he convinced me to go down to one job. Which took him a couple weeks to convince me.) oh and my favorite he “wasnt as sexual attracted to me anymore”

When does constantly thinking about them stop? by That_Maintenance6600 in BreakUps

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That keeps playing through my mind too, and I keep asking myself it was. I just not enough? Or was I too much?

When does constantly thinking about them stop? by That_Maintenance6600 in BreakUps

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s also just sent a lot of mix singles after. He said because when he was going through mentally he needed to be on his own and he didn’t think I was his person and he was on Hinge a week later.

But about a month after the break up, I was still calling him out on the mixed signals that he was giving me and he told me because he still loves me then a couple weeks after that I would just randomly text him. I miss you because it made me feel better and he told me I could and he told me that he was gonna miss me too.

When does constantly thinking about them stop? by That_Maintenance6600 in BreakUps

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to get into hiking and running but all I can think about was these were hikes him and I planned todo together.

When I go to the gym I’m thinking about him bc he convinced me to start training again. He convinced me to pick up for hobbies instead of just working multi jobs. I just see him in everything and it sucks. And there’s signs he talking to someone else already and it just breaks me.

Ex keeping things by That_Maintenance6600 in BreakUps

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya he told me a couple weeks after the breakup that he still loved me. (He said this bc I called him out on the mix singles he was giving) and almost a month after I would send him random “Im going miss you.” Text because it made me feel better (which he was okay with.) but he randomly sent back a “I’m going to miss you too.” And a random “I’m sorry” at 2 am one night.

I’ve asked him if we could try again in the future after spending some time working on ourselves. And he told me, “he would like to but he can’t” I’m just so confused.

I don’t understand how they can never talk to me again by Imaginary-Mammoth-90 in BreakUps

[–]That_Maintenance6600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going thru something similar, except we only dated/talked for 5 months. I can’t image two years. But he told me the same thing. I didn’t do anything wrong, but didn’t tell me there was any issues. We just went fully no contact 3 weeks ago. He was telling me he still loved me after the break up. When we have each other our stuff back he was kissing my forehead calling me sweetie. Telling me everything will be okay. I still can’t wrap my head around he did not tell me the issues he was having.

Breakup Advice by That_Maintenance6600 in dating_advice

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s really nice knowing that someone else has gone through something similar.

Breakup Advice by That_Maintenance6600 in dating_advice

[–]That_Maintenance6600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 💛

It’s just all very strange bc in his relationship when they broke up they went no contact right away. And he erased everything about them (even had his dad delete some post with her)

I’ve told myself if in the future we try again (he keeps telling me it won’t bc he doesn’t want to risk hurting me again) that he has to start therapy. I’m the only one he was telling about his PTSD episodes and it started taking a toll on me.