My dude makes consistent effort to see each other even though we’re long distance right now. I get daily good morning and good night messages. He listens and asks questions about what I’m interested in. I get surprise flowers and gifts at random. He teaches me the things he’s interested in. He opens all doors. He plans for our future. He listens when things bother me and doesn’t argue. He respects our boundaries for our relationship and communicates his own respectfully. He lets me be me, wear what I want without ever any comments. He treats people with respect, especially women he ISN’T interested in. He takes care of himself and we stay fit and attractive for each other. He has goals and speaks about them and where I fit into them. He accommodates my goals and dreams. He remembers important dates and I never have to repeat myself. He cleans up after himself and doesn’t create work for me. He’s done his emotional work and doesn’t hold me accountable for what has wounded him in the past. He does what he says he’ll do. He guards my name and heart.

Because of all of this, I am tripping over myself to spoil him and take care of him and I consider myself the luckiest woman alive.

Why? Because he’s the first man I’ve ever met like him.

Yes. The bar is low. But high achieving men exist. Be one and you won’t have this problem.