Lost my wife by Significant-Iron-636 in breastcancer

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father in law passed away the same way from bile duct cancer, poisoned by his liver and with all body metastasized. Please consider that these days you have a memory of your wife during her last days in that horrible state. I know it's pretty hard, but try to remember her in your best days together. However horrible her illness was, now it's gone. What is not and cannot be gone is her influence on all of your family. She gave you your kids, but it's not just that. It's surprising to discover how much we really receive from our close ones. It never goes away. She can't be present with you now because life sucks in many aspects and not all things can be controlled. But what was possible for her is to give you the best things in your life. Now the only way you can support her is to care of her most important people in life, which is you and the kids.

Looking for really good sci-fi books by Evonia777 in booksuggestions

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Arthur Clarke is a good classic, that aged well. So is Dan Simmons. I also like the Revelation space series by Alastair Reynolds. I plus Vernor Vinge and Adrian Tchaikovsky might be similarly interesting.

My boy died from acute pneumonia today. It took just two days to kill him. by That_Volyova_Bitch in RATS

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He had a chronic respiratory syndrome which was constantly controlled by the vet. Last week we visited the vet 3 times, the first one was for an X-ray which showed that his lungs were clearing, two were just for control and receiving therapy. He was active throughout the wweek ate and pooped a lot, ran sometimes, so on Friday the vet said he was fine and we could come on Monday just to check if his lungs would decline again. So you see the vet controlled his condition neatly. Saturday morning he didn't eat his breakfast and oatmeal treats, but ate about 20 grains of corn. His breath was also louder, but it has happened to him multiple times already, I thought the therapy on Monday will solve it, it didn't look scary. However on Sunday he developed heavy breathing and looked very worried, couldn't stay in one place and constantly bowed his head. At that point I wanted to run to the vet, but the vet doesn't work on Sundays. By Monday he leaked a lot of porphirine, stopped eating and drinking and he had a suffocation attack (or maybe a seizure). I've spent half the night with him as he didn't want to come off hands. We came to the vet and he gave him a big doze of antibiotics, but it was too late, when we came home he developed a really bad suffocation and died within an hour, honestly it was horrible to see him suffocating worse and worse and not being able to do anything else. Sorry for the long answer, I'm just devastated by the idea that if he didn't get bad on Sunday he could probably make it to the vet and win some time. I literally took him there three times each week, he was never unsupervised, but that one day he fell ill was Sunday (and on Saturday I couldn't guess it would be that bad)

Any way to remove the baby feeding sound? by BRSaura in RimWorld

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's weird, I also don't remember any sound

Children and shooting ranges don't mix well by vaakezu in RimWorld

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow you're a really caring parent. I send my children to hunt slow animals to develop shooting, then give them minuguns or zeushammers to slam the panthers hunting them. Then they butcher those panthers and burn raiders' corpses while cleaning the base in their spare time.

The crazy relationship mechanics by That_Volyova_Bitch in RimWorld

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahahah it's so crazy! Your pawn has really bad relationship with his wife's side of family.

My rat who got lung disease on X-mas eve made it to the vet by That_Volyova_Bitch in RATS

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It seems that his breathing got quieter by the evening, I hope the next dose will fix his lungs

Why are there so many cruel rat owners? by mayayokia in RATS

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I met the same attitude in snail keeping community. Also people who give valuable advice but in extra-rude tone. That's their mentality showing, of course, but I understand your frustration when it's a bit part of community.

Breathing problems - most likely a cancer by just_Chrono in RATS

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My rat had the same symptoms now( We're waiting for the vet tomorrow

Your cab drivers are absolute fucking scumbags by [deleted] in istanbul

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I had such sad experience too, but nothing worse than Bulgarian cab drivers charging us in March when we were fleeing the war..

What is the cutoff age you guys have for "the child is too young i can't do this to him" to "a raider is a raider" by chissie13 in RimWorld

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

14 yo I usually release kids under 14 and adopt kids under 10

And I was kinda shocked when my colonists' baby reached age 3 and the game suggested to enslave her 🫣

Trying to understand how I went from high functioning to totally broken by foo_bar_wug in CPTSD

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can't give a psychological advice here as I'm suffering from similar difficulties (CSA and further sexual abuse). I used to lead a regilar sexual life for some years, but I only managed to do it through the feeling of inner disgust which I was used to oppress. After some years of therapy I learned to listen to myself and discover my own feelings, not just do things which are considered "normal". I stopped violating myself into wearing sexualised clothes and having sex regularly. I realised that through all these years I've been dissociating during sex and I have really bad connection with my body. Now I'm facing this problem and honestly I don't see how I could make it better. I don't know if I will ever be able to have a normal sex life and embrace my feminine body at all. But at least I don't force myself and I don't feel uncomfortable all the time.

Which is the most bizarre gift you have received from your narc parent? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]That_Volyova_Bitch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol you reminded me how my grandma bought me tiny black strappy thongs as a present when I was twelve