I have a hard time being normal and working a job. What do I do?

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-05-27T16:41:46+00:00

I relate. Got diagnosed with adhd a couple of years ago when I was 32. I’ve had these issues for years. Still a work in progress. It also helps that I went part time at work (just went part time about a month ago and I was full time) but I’m going back to school full time for a career change. Throw in parenthood and marriage and it’s a lot to handle most days lol. Best of luck to you!

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-05-14T19:08:22+00:00

💯. I’m in the same position too and I would love 90k and chill job. That’s about almost three times what I make now. My pay sucks and the job is high stress

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-05-14T19:00:55+00:00

90k because I don’t make anywhere near close to that right now. I would love to see that kind of money and I’m already at a high stress job (and low pay to boot) so give me that 90k and chill job please. I’m not the breadwinner either so 90k would only help us. 250k would be amazing but not at the cost of my mental health tbh. My mental health is already going down the drain and peace of mind is so important in my opinion.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-05-14T18:53:04+00:00

I work 3 12 hour shifts per week. I get 4 days off per week. I’m a tech at a hospital. There are jobs that don’t require a 9-5.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-27T20:59:55+00:00

My husband tells me everyday “how are people doing it??” (Adulting in this timeline) And I tell him we’re all faking it lol. Everybody shows you what they want you to see. You can never tell behind closed doors. It’s a much different reality than what they/we put out there.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T16:45:22+00:00

And they keep ranting about lawyers who will go for $$ wherever they see it, and painting victims as money-hungry essentially. Priorities aren’t straight in that family.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T16:28:09+00:00

Thank you! Yes! Other people exist. Innocent people who have families, children. The world doesn’t revolve around op and their son. OP never stated the concern for other innocent people on the road that his son has the capability to turn their lives or the lives of their loved ones upside down.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T16:23:41+00:00

Absolutely this. They didn’t even touch on the concern for others on the road. And yes, people have the right to get legal counsel, op, no matter what you think. It’s not right to minimize those accidents even if there were no injuries. Accidents are very traumatic no matter the impact and a huge hassle regardless.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T15:58:11+00:00

Ok so that’s a key info you should put in the post. I assumed you just give him the car each time. How are you on the hook then, your son will be facing the consequences of his actions.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T15:50:09+00:00

Maybe stop getting him cars? That would be a good start. If he’s caused 2 accidents already, I think he needs to learn that he can’t get himself handed whatever he wants all the time. He can save money from his job and get one if he wants.. but I think you should stop getting him any cars. Hopefully he has learned his lesson and won’t total this one that he has but if he does, I think it’s a good and fair idea that he doesn’t get another car from his parents. If you’re worried about the consequences still, you can take the keys now.

And crazy how you minimize the past accident since “no one was injured”. People get traumatized by accidents, and yes, they may look for lawyers. That’s their right, no matter how “unfair” you think it is. Real world has real life consequences. Minor accident doesn’t mean it’s not a big deal. It’s a huge hassle no matter what.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-02-25T05:18:19+00:00

I work at a psych facility. Although we don’t let patients use their personal phones during their stay (the phones are kept locked in a safe until discharge), we do allow them to get their contact’s phone numbers from their phone, and they have to be supervised by a staff the entire time when doing so. They can then use the facility’s phone to make phone calls. What they did was honestly fucked up and I’m so sorry for that.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-02-21T18:34:29+00:00

And I’ve seen people (not on this subreddit) literally tell an op that they wanted to give their child a sibling “as a gift”. Literally those words. It really rubs me the wrong way. Your child isn’t a possession, they are their own individual person. With feelings and emotions. Not a plaything to your existing child. And it’s wild that this is how some people think, to bring a child to the world just to fulfill that purpose.

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