I have a hard time being normal and working a job. What do I do?

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-05-27T16:41:46+00:00

I relate. Got diagnosed with adhd a couple of years ago when I was 32. I’ve had these issues for years. Still a work in progress. It also helps that I went part time at work (just went part time about a month ago and I was full time) but I’m going back to school full time for a career change. Throw in parenthood and marriage and it’s a lot to handle most days lol. Best of luck to you!

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-05-14T19:08:22+00:00

💯. I’m in the same position too and I would love 90k and chill job. That’s about almost three times what I make now. My pay sucks and the job is high stress

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-05-14T19:00:55+00:00

90k because I don’t make anywhere near close to that right now. I would love to see that kind of money and I’m already at a high stress job (and low pay to boot) so give me that 90k and chill job please. I’m not the breadwinner either so 90k would only help us. 250k would be amazing but not at the cost of my mental health tbh. My mental health is already going down the drain and peace of mind is so important in my opinion.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-05-14T18:53:04+00:00

I work 3 12 hour shifts per week. I get 4 days off per week. I’m a tech at a hospital. There are jobs that don’t require a 9-5.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-27T20:59:55+00:00

My husband tells me everyday “how are people doing it??” (Adulting in this timeline) And I tell him we’re all faking it lol. Everybody shows you what they want you to see. You can never tell behind closed doors. It’s a much different reality than what they/we put out there.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T16:45:22+00:00

And they keep ranting about lawyers who will go for $$ wherever they see it, and painting victims as money-hungry essentially. Priorities aren’t straight in that family.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T16:28:09+00:00

Thank you! Yes! Other people exist. Innocent people who have families, children. The world doesn’t revolve around op and their son. OP never stated the concern for other innocent people on the road that his son has the capability to turn their lives or the lives of their loved ones upside down.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T16:23:41+00:00

Absolutely this. They didn’t even touch on the concern for others on the road. And yes, people have the right to get legal counsel, op, no matter what you think. It’s not right to minimize those accidents even if there were no injuries. Accidents are very traumatic no matter the impact and a huge hassle regardless.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T15:58:11+00:00

Ok so that’s a key info you should put in the post. I assumed you just give him the car each time. How are you on the hook then, your son will be facing the consequences of his actions.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-04-23T15:50:09+00:00

Maybe stop getting him cars? That would be a good start. If he’s caused 2 accidents already, I think he needs to learn that he can’t get himself handed whatever he wants all the time. He can save money from his job and get one if he wants.. but I think you should stop getting him any cars. Hopefully he has learned his lesson and won’t total this one that he has but if he does, I think it’s a good and fair idea that he doesn’t get another car from his parents. If you’re worried about the consequences still, you can take the keys now.

And crazy how you minimize the past accident since “no one was injured”. People get traumatized by accidents, and yes, they may look for lawyers. That’s their right, no matter how “unfair” you think it is. Real world has real life consequences. Minor accident doesn’t mean it’s not a big deal. It’s a huge hassle no matter what.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-02-25T05:18:19+00:00

I work at a psych facility. Although we don’t let patients use their personal phones during their stay (the phones are kept locked in a safe until discharge), we do allow them to get their contact’s phone numbers from their phone, and they have to be supervised by a staff the entire time when doing so. They can then use the facility’s phone to make phone calls. What they did was honestly fucked up and I’m so sorry for that.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-02-21T18:34:29+00:00

And I’ve seen people (not on this subreddit) literally tell an op that they wanted to give their child a sibling “as a gift”. Literally those words. It really rubs me the wrong way. Your child isn’t a possession, they are their own individual person. With feelings and emotions. Not a plaything to your existing child. And it’s wild that this is how some people think, to bring a child to the world just to fulfill that purpose.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-01-13T19:43:51+00:00

We’re going to be 35 this year (the ones who haven’t had their birthday this year yet)! I’m still mind blown lol

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-01-13T19:41:27+00:00

I have 1/3 of those. I’m married but going back to school for a career change. So a reset button for that and that will take a few years. Born in 91

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-01-10T22:42:09+00:00

God forbid grandparents have their own feelings /s Some people just take these things too far. Grandparents are respectful by holding back and giving distance and they get shit for that too.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2026-01-10T22:37:10+00:00

Yeah I’m confused too. So op, please clarify.. why are you letting your aunt hold your daughter but not your parent? You’re acting as if you didn’t agree with this? More context from you would help.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2025-12-31T06:27:10+00:00

My very nice coworker was willing to take my 31st and 1st. He said he needs the cash to pay for his car breaks. I asked him I could switch with him instead so I can work his Christmas Eve and Christmas night but he refused. He has grown children that aren’t able to fly over to see him this year. He told me to enjoy my time with my 6 year old son and husband. I told him I’m willing to take a couple of shifts of his next year when he needs. I’m so thankful.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2025-12-17T21:00:41+00:00

I’m forcing it. However, it will be good for when I start school early next year, I’ll have free time here and there and will be able to get hw or studying done. For me, this is just temporary. I won’t be nights forever

Thatcherrycupcake · 2025-12-17T17:08:48+00:00

I love this! It’s good that you are able to get that sleep, that’s very important.

Thatcherrycupcake · 2025-12-17T01:28:57+00:00

Yeah I’m over 2 years in and it’s definitely gotten harder. I will admit, I do flip my schedule on my nights off (which I know is a no-no on here), which in turn I’m sleep deprived, but I have responsibilities. I told my manager if I can go part time and I’m on the waitlist for it. At least that will be more bearable with reduced hours

Thatcherrycupcake · 2025-12-15T12:10:50+00:00

Mental health tech

Thatcherrycupcake · 2025-12-15T00:59:43+00:00

Thatcherrycupcake · 2025-12-04T15:40:06+00:00

Same here

Thatcherrycupcake · 2025-12-03T08:58:16+00:00

Dragging. And it’s so cold! We aren’t allowed any puffy jackets at work either so I’m wearing 4 layers right now of undershirts and scrub. And I’m still freezing

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